Poly Pathways

They Did What Without You!? FOMO, Polyamory, and Finding Your Happiness


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FOMO—Fear of Missing Out—can hit hard in polyamorous relationships. In this episode, Kat and Doc unpack how FOMO shows up, what triggers it, and why even experiences you don’t actually want can still cause an emotional storm. Whether it’s a partner going to a concert, a kinky party, or just trying a new restaurant without you, FOMO is often less about the activity and more about comparison, insecurity, and scarcity thinking. This real-talk episode dives into the emotional undercurrents behind envy and offers grounded, compassionate tools for moving through it.


We share personal stories—like visiting sex clubs and awkward Valentine’s Day movie nights—that bring the topic to life with humor, vulnerability, and depth. They explore how forward-thinking and hindsight-based FOMO can show up, why “first time” doesn’t always mean “only special,” and how our reactions are often shaped by deeper fears like abandonment or not being enough. With mindfulness, proactive communication, and a dose of self-reflection, listeners are encouraged to build emotional resilience, regulate their reactions, and turn envy into connection.

If you’ve ever felt sidelined, compared yourself to a metamour, or wondered “why not me?”, this episode is for you. Don’t just ride the wave of discomfort—learn to surf it. Subscribe now and share this with someone who needs a reminder that they’re not alone. Then follow us @polypathwayspodcast for bonus content, memes, and community support.

About Poly Pathways Podcast

  • Hosts: Kat and Doc
  • Website: polypathwayspodcast.transistor.fm
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  • (00:00) - - Welcome & Introduction to FOMO
  • (14:06) - - FOMO Strategies for a Better Relationship
  • (35:21) - - Key Takeaways
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