They're Going To Burn Down The House, while it may not be what we believe will happen when we give permission to our kids to make decisions on their. And in making their owns decisions we empower them to be accountable for those decisions. But what can we do as parents to help them make the best decisions. Good or bad, eventually they have to learn. What that looks like and how that happens is not in our control. So what we can control our words, our actions, our trust, that builds competency go hand in hand with being transparent and vulnerable.