Post-bedtime, slightly delirious, and joined by a special guest (hi Ryan 👋), this episode of From 9 to Mom is all about the things we really wish someone had told us before kids.

From the sensory overload of unsolicited advice during pregnancy to the survival mode of newborn life, we’re diving into the moments that caught us off guard, the mistakes we definitely made, and the lessons we only learned the hard way. We’re talking sleep deprivation fights that “don’t count,” splitting responsibilities, second kid confidence vs. first kid panic, and why literally no one cares if your baby cries in public.

We also get into how our relationship has evolved through it all, the pressure we put on ourselves (hi, potty training 🙃), and the things we’d absolutely do differently if we could go back. Spoiler: you’re never as unprepared as you feel… but also, you kind of are, and that’s normal.

It’s honest, a little chaotic, and exactly what happens when you hit record after bedtime and just start talking.

If you’ve ever thought, “wait… are we doing this right?”—this one’s for you.