“Western funerals: black hearses, and black horses, and fast-fading flowers. Why should black be the colour of death? Why not the colours of a sunset?

— Daniele Varè, The Maker of Heavenly Trousers

"Talking about sex will not get you pregnant, neither will talking about a funeral kill you."

Said Gail Rubin, founder of A Good Goodbye. 

She is right. From my experience, people rarely speak of death. In 106 funerals conducted in the last six months, only a handful of families knew the wishes of their loved one. When they did, it made such a difference. It does not matter how old you are, plan your funeral.