This is Me but its all about YOU

What if the future you're imagining is being limited by a past that no longer has to define you?

Hello, hello, and welcome back to This Is Me... But It's All About YOU, with me, Tina Willis. ❤️

This week, we're talking about something we all possess, something we use every single day, and something I think we massively underestimate.

Our imagination.

Why is it so easy to picture what could go wrong, yet sometimes so difficult to imagine what could go wonderfully RIGHT?

And why do we keep consulting our past experiences to decide what's possible for a future we haven't even lived yet?

In this episode, I'm exploring how our inner world influences our outer experiences, why imagination is so much more than wishful thinking, and how we can begin creating a clearer mental picture of the person we're becoming.

I'll also share a little of my own journey, from the familiar world of corporate life to imagining a future I hadn't yet experienced.

Because sometimes we stay where we are simply because it's the picture we know best.

But your past doesn't know everything you're capable of becoming.

We'll finish with this week's One Small Step — The Future You Exercise, a simple way to start imagining what you'd genuinely love your life to look like twelve months from now.

And today's Tina Thought?

“Stop asking your past for permission to imagine a different future.”

So grab your coffee, pop your headphones on, take me on your walk, and let's explore what's possible when we give our imagination a little more room.

Because we're not bloody finished yet! 😂❤️

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Tina ❤️

Who are you trying to impress?

And perhaps the more uncomfortable question...

What is it costing you?

We spend so much of our lives wondering what other people will think.

Are we successful enough?

Are we doing enough?

Are we too old?

Will people approve?

And sometimes, without even realising it, we begin making decisions based on an invisible audience rather than what genuinely makes us happy.

In Episode 21 of This Is Me... But It's All About You, I'm exploring the pressure to impress, the expectations we inherit, and the difference between a life that looks wonderful from the outside and one that actually feels wonderful on the inside.

I'm also sharing something personal.

I've been guilty of this myself.

Particularly when it comes to social media and wanting everything to look a certain way.

But I'm learning that there's something far more valuable than looking as though you're enjoying your life.

Actually enjoying it. ❤️

We'll talk about how our definition of success changes, why we sometimes feel the need to prove ourselves to people from our past, and how we can begin letting go of expectations that were never really ours.

And in this week's One Small Step, I'll introduce you to The Nobody's Watching Test.

One simple exercise.

One revealing question.

"What would I choose if I had absolutely nothing to prove?"

Because maybe you don't need to impress anybody.

Maybe you just need to start living a life that feels like yours.

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Believe. Grow. Choose You. ❤️

There is a version of me who nearly didn’t exist.

Not because she wasn’t capable of becoming her...

but because she was bloody terrified of becoming her.

For Episode 20 of This Is Me... But It’s All About You, Tina Willis puts the usual full script aside and does something that perfectly reflects the conversation itself:

she steps outside her comfort zone.

This is a personal conversation about the woman Tina once was — capable, successful from the outside, working extraordinary hours and doing everything expected of her — while somewhere underneath it all, losing sight of herself.

And then something changed.

One decision led to another.

And along the way she began meeting versions of herself she hadn’t known existed.

Business owner.

Speaker.

Author.

Podcaster.

Music creator.

Mentor.

Not because fear disappeared.

But because eventually she stopped allowing fear to make every decision.

And that raises a much bigger question:

Maybe you don’t need to know exactly who you’re becoming.

Maybe you don’t need permission to want something different.

Maybe you don’t have to hate your current life to know there is still more you want to experience.

And maybe you’re not too late to meet another version of yourself.

This episode includes a simple challenge:

Finish this sentence:

“The woman I haven’t met yet...”

Who is she?

What does she do?

What has she stopped apologising for?

What is she finally willing to try?

And then ask yourself:

What is ONE thing she would do this week?

Because perhaps you don’t find the next version of yourself.

Twenty episodes in, this one feels different.

Less scripted.

More vulnerable.

More Tina.

And perhaps that's exactly the point.

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Maybe there are parts of you that you haven’t even met yet. ❤️

How many versions of YOU haven’t you met yet?

MEET HER.

You meet her every time you do something the old version of you was afraid to do.

What if I fail?

What if they say no?

What if I make a fool of myself?

What if it doesn't work?

We're incredibly good at imagining everything that could go wrong — and then calling it being realistic.

But why is the negative outcome automatically the realistic one?

In Episode 19 of This Is Me... But It's All About You, Tina turns those familiar two words — WHAT IF? — completely on their head.

Because if something hasn't happened yet, failure is only one possible outcome.

What if they say yes?

What if you love it?

What if you're actually good at it?

What if the thing you're frightened to do becomes the thing you're most grateful you didn't walk away from?

And here's another thought...

What if part of you isn't only afraid that it won't work?

What if you're also afraid that it WILL?

Because success creates change too.

This episode explores fear, uncertainty, self-rejection, courage, the fear of expansion and why we don't need to silence fear — we simply need to stop giving it every seat at the table.

You'll also discover this week's One Small Step — FLIP THE WHAT IF — a simple way to challenge the future your fear has already written for you.

This isn't about pretending everything will work perfectly.

It's about remembering:

𝐅𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧'𝐭 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫.So if you're going to imagine a future that hasn't happened yet...

don't only imagine the one that frightens you.

Give possibility a seat at the table. ❤️

And ask yourself:𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐈𝐅 𝐈𝐓 𝐆𝐎𝐄𝐒 𝐑𝐈𝐆𝐇𝐓?🎙️ This Is Me... But It's All About You with Tina Willis
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When did being busy become proof that we were doing life properly?

We say it almost automatically:

“I’m so busy.”
“It’s manic.”
“I haven’t stopped.”

But what if there’s another side to busy that we don’t talk about enough?

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐟 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐞 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐲 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐞’𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐟𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐠𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐞𝐭?

In Episode 18, Tina explores the difference between a genuinely full life and using constant activity as a way of avoiding our own thoughts, feelings and questions.

From 16 and 17-hour corporate days and the identity that comes from being “the capable one,” to our phones, scrolling, emails, chores and endless to-do lists — sometimes there is always something available to stop us from sitting quietly with ourselves.

And perhaps underneath all that noise is a voice asking:

Am I happy?

Am I exhausted?

What do I actually want?

What am I trying to prove?

Who am I when nobody needs anything from me?

This isn’t about abandoning your responsibilities or deciding that being busy is bad.

It’s about recognising the difference between moving towards something and running away from something.

This week’s One Small Step — The Quiet 20 invites you to give yourself 20 minutes without anything to achieve and simply listen to what comes up.

Because maybe the voice underneath all that noise isn’t your enemy.𝐌𝐚𝐲𝐛𝐞 𝐬𝐡𝐞’𝐬 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐫𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧. ❤️

Today’s Tina Thought:

“Your worth isn’t measured by how exhausted you are at the end of the day.”

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What are you saving for “one day”?

Maybe it's the expensive perfume, the good bottle of wine, the beautiful candle you refuse to light or those good towels nobody is actually allowed to use. 😂

But maybe there's something much bigger you're saving too...

Your life.

The trip you'll take someday.
The hobby you'll return to someday.
The dream you'll start someday.
The time you'll finally make for yourself... someday.

In Episode 17, Tina opens The Someday Drawer and explores how easily “not yet” can quietly become “never.”

This isn't a conversation about being reckless or pretending responsibilities don't exist. It's about recognising when we've become so busy managing life that we've forgotten to experience it.

You'll explore why we postpone joy, why we keep moving the finish line, what we're really waiting for when we say “I'll do it when I'm ready,” and one uncomfortable but important question:

This week's One Small Step — Use the Good Stuff asks you to choose one thing you've been saving and use it.

Then go deeper:

What are you saving for someday in your LIFE?

And what tiny step could bring a piece of it into today?

Because ordinary days aren't simply the days between the important ones.

Today's Tina Thought:
“Stop saving your life for a special occasion. You are the special occasion.”

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Who promised you someday? Maybe ordinary days ARE the important ones.

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐯𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐚𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫… 𝐢𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮?

How much of your life have you spent waiting?

Waiting for permission.

Waiting for confidence.

Waiting for circumstances to change.

Waiting for someone to believe in you.

Waiting for someone to choose you.

Waiting for the elusive “right time.”

In this episode of This Is Me... But It's All About You, I want to explore what happens when we stop waiting for something outside ourselves to change — and start recognising the power we already have within the things we can control.

And no, this isn't one of those “just think positively and everything will be wonderful” conversations. 😂

Life happens.

Loss happens.

Things go wrong.

People disappoint us.

Circumstances can be unfair.

Personal power isn't believing you can control everything.

It's remembering that even when you couldn't choose what happened...

there may still be something you can choose about what happens next.

We'll talk about the waiting room of life, the difference between support and rescue, why you don't need to feel powerful to act powerfully, and something I call your Evidence File — the decades of proof you may have forgotten about showing just how much you've already handled.

I'll also invite you to do something much quieter.

To stand in front of a mirror.

Look into your own eyes.

And say:

I'm sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.

Four simple phrases associated with a modern Ho'oponopono practice that create a moment of reconciliation, gratitude and compassion towards yourself.

Because maybe taking your power back isn't about becoming somebody else.

Maybe it's about finally standing beside the person you've been all along.

Backing her.
Trusting her.
Forgiving her.
Loving her.
Choosing her.

👣 One Small Step: Ask yourself, “Where am I currently waiting?” Then identify ONE part of it that is within your control — and act on it.

💭 Today's Tina Thought:

“Your power isn't in controlling everything that happens. It's in remembering you still get to choose what happens next.”

And perhaps the person you've been waiting for...

has been you all along.

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What if the thing holding you back isn't true… it's just something you've repeated for years?

“I’m not confident.”

“I’m rubbish with technology.”

“I’m too old.”

“I never stick to anything.”

“I’m just not that kind of person.”

“That's just who I am.”

We all carry stories about ourselves. Some came from things people said years ago. Some came from experiences that didn't go the way we'd hoped. And some we've repeated so many times that somewhere along the way… we stopped questioning them.

They stopped feeling like stories.

They started feeling like facts.

In Episode 15 of This Is Me... But It's All About You, I'm asking you to become a bit of a detective into your own thinking.

We'll talk about where these stories come from, why our minds become so good at finding evidence to support what we already believe, the labels we carry from our past — and why an experience you've had doesn't have to become an identity you carry forever.

We also get into some of those very convincing stories:

I'm too old.

I'm not good with technology.

It's probably not the right time.

And my personal favourite…

“I'm just being realistic.” 😂

Because sometimes fear doesn't look like fear.

Sometimes it puts on a cardigan, makes a cup of tea and tells us to be sensible.

👣 One Small Step — Catch the StoryThis week, catch yourself when you say:

I always…
I never…
I can't…
I'm not…
I'm too…
That's just me…

Then ask:

Is this actually true?
Is it ALWAYS true?
What's a more accurate story I could tell myself?

And then give yourself one tiny piece of evidence for the new story.

💭 Today's Tina Thought“Be careful what you repeatedly tell yourself. Your mind is always listening.”

Your past can explain you.

It doesn't have to define you.

And you don't have to spend the rest of your life proving an old version of yourself right.

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How much of yourself have you edited just to be accepted?

Too loud.

Too ambitious.

Too emotional.

Too opinionated.

Too different.

Too much.

Somewhere along the way, many of us learn that fitting in feels safer than standing out.

So we adjust.

We tone ourselves down.

We make the dream smaller.

We keep the opinion to ourselves.

We become the sensible one. The dependable one. The professional one. The person everybody else is comfortable with.

And eventually...

We get so good at fitting in that we can forget who we were before we started editing ourselves.

In Episode 14 of This Is Me... But It's All About You, we're talking about what it really means to stand out.

And no — it isn't about being the loudest person in the room.

It's about authenticity.

It's about having the courage to say:

This is what I believe.
This is what matters to me.
This is what I want.
This is me.

We're talking about people-pleasing, being labelled “too much”, worrying about judgement, changing as we get older and what happens when we finally stop asking everybody else for permission to be ourselves.

And yes... we'll also discuss why some random Brenda on Facebook absolutely does NOT get a vote in your life. 😂

👣 ONE SMALL STEP — THE UNEDITED YOUThis week, notice the moments when you automatically edit yourself.

Before you do, ask:

“Am I changing this because I genuinely want to... or because I'm worried about somebody else's reaction?”

Then find one small opportunity to be a little more...

YOU.

💭 TODAY'S TINA THOUGHT“You weren't born to become acceptable to everybody else. You were born to become fully yourself.”

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And if this episode reminds you of someone who's spent years making herself smaller...

Send it to her.

Or even better...

Tell her what you see in her. 💛

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When was the last time you did something for absolutely no other reason than it made you happy?

Not because it was productive.

Not because somebody needed you.

Not because it was good for your career.

Not because you'd earned it.

Just because...

you bloody enjoyed it. 😂💛

When we were children, we danced when a song came on, sang into hairbrushes, made things, climbed trees, scraped our knees and laughed until our tummies hurt.

Then somewhere between careers, mortgages, families, deadlines and being the person everybody could depend on...

life got serious.

In Episode 13 of This Is Me... But It's All About You, we're talking about something we don't talk about enough:

HAPPINESS.

The little things that make us smile.

The hobbies we quietly stopped doing.

The things we keep promising we'll get back to “when we have time.”

And the parts of ourselves that can disappear when we become so busy looking after life — and everybody else — that we forget we're supposed to enjoy it too.

We talk about why you don't have to be GOOD at something to enjoy it, why happiness isn't something you have to earn, why joy doesn't have to be big... and why the woman who laughed, dreamed, created and did silly things is still in there.

💭 Today's Tina Thought"You don't have to earn the right to enjoy your own life.”

And your One Small Step this week?

Do ONE thing simply because it makes you smile.

No purpose.

No productivity.

No justification.

Just because you get to.

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And if you know someone who's spent years carrying everybody and everything...

Send this episode to them.

Maybe they need reminding that this is their life too. 💛

Believe. Grow. Choose You.