Be the Change in Your Marriage

This is the Reason You Resent Him


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When Elie Wiesel gave his Nobel Peace Prize Acceptance speech, he imagined that the child he once was, the child who had staggered through the horrors of the Nazi concentration camps, an experience he dubbed The Kingdom of Night, was now addressing him. 
"'Tell me,' he asks, 'What have you done with my future, what have you done with your life?' And I tell him that I have tried."
“Every moment,” he goes on, “is a moment of grace.  Every hour an offering.” 
One day you may ask your future self “What have you done with my future?” or “What have you made of me?” “What have I become?”
What is your purpose? “University of Notre Dame sociologist Christian Smith found in his study of adults 18 to 23 that most of them believe society is nothing more than “a collection of autonomous individuals out to enjoy life.”*
If we were to presuppose that this is actually the case,
I submit that life cannot be fully enjoyed without a sense of fulfillment.  And that you cannot have a sense of fulfillment without a sense of meaning and purpose.
And that (warning: unpopular opinion here) you cannot have a sense of meaning and purpose without some measure of self-sacrifice.
Sacrifice is defined by Oxford as “an  act of giving up something valued (I add as examples: convenience, fun, time, tears, Peanut M&M's®) for the sake of something else regarded as more important or worthy.”
The very definition of parenthood, right?
And the bulk of the reason our children are so precious to us is the investment of our time and the sacrifices we’ve made for them.  We can look at them and see, with satisfaction, little glittering accumulations of our time, Goldfish® Crackers, guidance and affection.
So why don’t we feel the same way towards our husbands?
For one simple reason...
If you’d like some support and companionship through the taxing process of working on your marriage, send me a message, because I have a free Facebook group in the works which will include regular free trainings and resources, and I would love for you to be a part of it.
You deserve all the love and happiness you can hold. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹
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REFERENCES
Elie Wiesel NIGHT
*Rod Dreher, “A Christian Survival Guide for a Secular Age,” Deseret Magazine, Apr. 2021, 68.
"Heart of War" reference in episode by The Arbinger Institute
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Be the Change in Your MarriageBy Summer Cox