The topic of shame has been coming up for me a lot lately. It’s often such a deeply ingrained, insidious and in my opinion, largely unhelpful emotion because of the way it tends to run on a loop and feed on itself…unless of course we have the ability to recognise it and learn to build, what my guest this week, calls shame resilience.
Kyira Wackett is a licensed mental health therapist who specialises in shame and anxiety, eating disorders and trauma. Kyira is also the survivor of complex childhood trauma, in recovery from PTSD and a severe eating disorder and a mama to a 3 year old girl.
In this deeply personal and insightful chat, Kyira shares her thoughts and expertise on shame including:
The concept of shame, including how to build what she describes as shame resilience
Having deep conversations in both formal and informal settings, asking for help and building connection with other humans
Accessing therapy and support, including alternative methods other than therapy (especially within a heavily burdened health system) and some of the pro’s and con’s of accessing help, particularly in the online space
How, when seeking help and it doesn’t working out as we hoped can lead us to think it’s us that’s broken, when that’s certainly not the case
Super helpful and practical tips on how to choose the right support for you
The impact of childhood trauma, insecure attachment and how our sense of self is developed from our core beliefs and subsequent shame identity.
Parenthood and the importance of making shame resilient choices that work for you and don’t reflect the views (and/or shame and judgement) of others.Kyira Wackett is a licensed mental health therapist specialising in shame and anxiety. She is the owner of Adversity Rising, a company who equips people with the confidence and skills to write their own stories. Her work ranges from one on one coaching to corporate wellness packages with a focus on what she calls the anti-band-aid movement or resisting the quick fix in favor of doing the work necessary to make meaningful and sustainable change. The highlight of her work is her signature program, That Life AR, where she walks people through her 5-step therapeutic process she believes can combat any pain point that comes our way because we all deserve to live a life in which we can thrive.
The resources Kyira mentions in the podcast can be found here:
Blog post: Choosing a therapist versus coach: www.adversityrising.com/blog/finding-support
Video: Finding the right fit for you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DXrD_ilclfITo get the FREE handout with all of the points mentioned in the video plus a few other logistical notes and lots of blank space to add in your own questions and notes, go to https://adversityrising.com/handouts/ and enter code "RIGHTFIT" at checkout.
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