Disappointed, Steve walked out of the interview feedback meeting. Once again he had been turned down for promotion. Anger built up inside and his head was screaming “what went wrong?” He was a conscientious hard worker who willingly put in extra hours. The real kicker was that he felt that the person who got the promotion wasn’t as good as him – to add insult to injury he only started a few months earlier.

Fortunately, the following weekend Steve attended one of our NLP training programmes and discovered the impact of the language we use on our minds.

Let’s suggest a small but impactful language change that Steve could make. When someone asks you “How are you today?” most people reply (at least in the UK) with a fairly mediocre or indifferent response “I’m OK” or “I’m fine”. Importantly, this then becomes the image placed in both your and the other person’s minds. Consider, is this really how you want people to think of you?

To adjust your response to a simple question seems like such a tiny change to make and yet it starts a process that begins to shift the way other people perceive you. You are truly starting to create your reality through the words that you use. Read more here