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Tiara Brumberg — Why “Clean Your Room” Doesn’t Work (And What Executive Functioning Really Means)
In this honest, practical, and deeply relatable conversation, Michelle sits down with occupational therapy assistant and ADHD coach Tiara Brumberg to unpack what’s really going on behind behaviors parents see every day… and why so many of our kids aren’t actually being difficult—they’re overwhelmed.
This episode hits home in a real way—because it’s not theory. It’s the daily reality of parenting complex, neurodivergent, and special needs kids.
Tiara shares:
Why “simple” instructions aren’t actually simple.
“Clean your room” isn’t one task—it’s 20. And for kids with executive functioning challenges, not knowing where to start can lead to shutting down completely.
What executive functioning really means (in real life).
From time blindness to task initiation, organization, and emotional regulation—these are the invisible skills our kids are struggling with every single day.
The connection between ADHD, learning challenges, and behavior.
That overlap between dyslexia, attention, and processing? It’s real—and often misunderstood in both homes and schools.
Why your child can focus on video games—but not homework.
It’s not defiance. It’s how their brain processes interest, time, and effort.
The power of breaking things down step-by-step.
“Pick up your shoes” works. “Clean your room” doesn’t. Specificity changes everything.
Motivation matters more than we think.
If there’s no meaningful reason to do the hard thing, kids will avoid it. And honestly? That makes sense.
Why vague IEP goals fail our kids.
If a goal isn’t measurable, specific, and clearly defined—it’s not helping your child. It’s just checking a box.
How kids ‘work the system’ (and why it’s actually a strength).
These kids aren’t being manipulative—they’re smart. And with the right guidance, that skill becomes a lifelong advantage.
The parenting shift that changes everything: curiosity over control.
Instead of asking “Why won’t they just do it?” start asking “What’s getting in the way?”
Regulation starts with us.
Your child will match your energy. Calm creates calm. Escalation creates… more escalation.
Quote to sit with:
“They wake up every day wanting to be your favorite. When they can’t meet expectations, something is getting in the way—not a lack of effort.”
Whether you’re navigating ADHD, executive functioning struggles, or just feeling stuck in the daily battles—this episode will help you see your child differently… and respond differently.
👤 About Tiara Brumberg
Tiara is an occupational therapy assistant turned ADHD coach who specializes in helping families understand and navigate executive functioning challenges. With a background in working with children with dyslexia, ADHD, and learning differences, she now supports parents directly through coaching—bridging the gap between therapy and real-life parenting.
🔗 Connect with Tiara
Website: https://www.themiddlecoaching.net/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573709050059
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By Michelle ChoairyIn this honest, practical, and deeply relatable conversation, Michelle sits down with occupational therapy assistant and ADHD coach Tiara Brumberg to unpack what’s really going on behind behaviors parents see every day… and why so many of our kids aren’t actually being difficult—they’re overwhelmed.
This episode hits home in a real way—because it’s not theory. It’s the daily reality of parenting complex, neurodivergent, and special needs kids.
Tiara shares:
Why “simple” instructions aren’t actually simple.
“Clean your room” isn’t one task—it’s 20. And for kids with executive functioning challenges, not knowing where to start can lead to shutting down completely.
What executive functioning really means (in real life).
From time blindness to task initiation, organization, and emotional regulation—these are the invisible skills our kids are struggling with every single day.
The connection between ADHD, learning challenges, and behavior.
That overlap between dyslexia, attention, and processing? It’s real—and often misunderstood in both homes and schools.
Why your child can focus on video games—but not homework.
It’s not defiance. It’s how their brain processes interest, time, and effort.
The power of breaking things down step-by-step.
“Pick up your shoes” works. “Clean your room” doesn’t. Specificity changes everything.
Motivation matters more than we think.
If there’s no meaningful reason to do the hard thing, kids will avoid it. And honestly? That makes sense.
Why vague IEP goals fail our kids.
If a goal isn’t measurable, specific, and clearly defined—it’s not helping your child. It’s just checking a box.
How kids ‘work the system’ (and why it’s actually a strength).
These kids aren’t being manipulative—they’re smart. And with the right guidance, that skill becomes a lifelong advantage.
The parenting shift that changes everything: curiosity over control.
Instead of asking “Why won’t they just do it?” start asking “What’s getting in the way?”
Regulation starts with us.
Your child will match your energy. Calm creates calm. Escalation creates… more escalation.
Quote to sit with:
“They wake up every day wanting to be your favorite. When they can’t meet expectations, something is getting in the way—not a lack of effort.”
Whether you’re navigating ADHD, executive functioning struggles, or just feeling stuck in the daily battles—this episode will help you see your child differently… and respond differently.
👤 About Tiara Brumberg
Tiara is an occupational therapy assistant turned ADHD coach who specializes in helping families understand and navigate executive functioning challenges. With a background in working with children with dyslexia, ADHD, and learning differences, she now supports parents directly through coaching—bridging the gap between therapy and real-life parenting.
🔗 Connect with Tiara
Website: https://www.themiddlecoaching.net/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573709050059