In this episode we explore the "mental load" of motherhood. I delve into the challenges faced by mothers who juggle various responsibilities and tasks.  I discuss the unrealistic expectations placed on mothers to be "Supermums," leading to feelings of failure, burnout, and exhaustion. I explore the origins of the mental load, citing modern advantages alongside disadvantages like isolation due to extended family distances and lack of affordable childcare options. The societal shift towards later parenthood and diminishing support from older generations further compounds the mental load. I discuss the historical role of women in adapting to societal demands and the importance of trusting partners and sharing responsibilities. I provide practical strategies to communicate and divide household tasks with partners, emphasizing that change takes time and effort. I will then be encouraging you to reframe guilt, involve children in tasks, and support one another in navigating the complex landscape of a motherhood's mental load.

Here are the highlights:

(1:19) What is the mental load? 
(5:00) Women are the family support system
(08:33) Barrier to asking for help 
(10:03) The illusion of supermum
(14:09) The mental load mantra
(17:12) Reframing guilt around delegating

The Mental Load Mantra

I trust myself
I trust my partner
I will allow them the chance to learn this information
I will allow them the chance to help me carry this
I do not need to carry this alone
We can share it

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