Toby grew up in the typical Mormon family with the usual unreasonable expectations of each child to conform to damaging cultural norms of purity, worthiness, outward shows of perfection, submission to the patriarchy, rejection of self...  As mormon youth we are told exactly who we are, where we are going, and where we belong. 

When parents are kept so busy serving the Lord, their children, marriages, and self are neglected. No one talks about the verbal, emotional, spiritual, physical, and sexual abuse. If we dont talk about it then it isnt really happening, right?