This week on Tongue First, it's just Siren and Wendy — boxed wine, sparkling water, chewed ice, and no guest. After ten episodes of incredible guests, this one is a deep exhale.

They pour a drink and debrief the last couple of weeks — the drama, the snakes in the grass, what emotional manipulation actually looks like, and why accountability is the whole ballgame. They say what needs to be said, and then they leave it exactly where it belongs: outside the club.

From there it gets cozy. Tattoo stories — including Wendy's first tattoo at thirteen from a homemade gun, the cover-up that reclaimed it, and the tattoo artist dream she chased at forty-two before letting it go. The great Tongue First tattoo debate: Wendy's rainbow fruit fly versus Siren's dainty tongue-and-microphone. A public service announcement about tattoo parties. And Buffy the Vampire Slayer finally getting gay.

Then the mailbag opens. Siren and Wendy read your comments and reviews from Apple Podcasts and Spotify — the funny ones, the sweet ones, and a few that got genuinely heavy. They talk about what it means to be called a soft place to land, confirm the masc lesbian uniform is real and documented, and remind a few of you that you are deeply, deeply loved.

Also: Songbird's wine recipe, ice chewing ASMR, redheads as a category, birthday beach cake plans, and a very close call with the dingle hopper streak.

If you've ever needed to protect your peace, or just wanted to sit with two friends and a glass of wine while they read nice things out loud — this one is for you.

Support the chaos and get access to bonus content, behind the scenes moments, and the Tongue First After Hours community over on Patreon. The link is in the show notes.

Follow the chaos on TikTok: @Sirenegade_440 @Wendy6181981

New episodes every Monday.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don't forget to lick responsibly.

This week on Tongue First, Siren and Wendy welcome Adam and Topher — husbands, TikTok creators, and the two sweet little baby angels behind some of the most joyful corners of the internet, including a coffee brand with attitude and a nightly raccoon dinner party that has to be seen to be believed.

Adam spent sixteen years in ministry as a worship pastor before a karaoke bar, a Family Force Five t-shirt, and a phone number he kept for weeks without ever using changed everything. Topher came out twice — once to a father who pushed him right back into the closet, and again two years later to a mom whose response was simply, "What did you want, a parade?" Their stories are different, but they landed in the same place: a marriage, a home, and a backyard full of trash pandas.

Together, Siren, Wendy, Adam, and Topher talk about coming out, faith and what happens to it when the people who taught it to you can't accept you, losing your entire friend group overnight, what the scriptures actually said before translation got involved, being nonbinary and letting people use whatever pronouns come out, and why Topher insists on the word husband.

A heads up: partway through the episode, Adam shares a deeply personal story about a lie that was spread about him after coming out — and what it almost cost him. It's one of the heaviest and most important stories the show has held, and he tells it with remarkable grace.

Also: Siren's and Wendy's custom coffee blends, Blonde and Perky, Basic Bitch, a pecan pie that started everything, Rhonda and the raccoon committee, a bird dating simulator, and the gay pancakes you've been waiting for.

If you've ever had to come out more than once, lost your community for being yourself, or just needed proof that the story can end with joy — this one is for you.

Support the chaos and get access to bonus content, behind the scenes moments, and the Tongue First After Hours community over on Patreon. The link is in the show notes.

Find Adam on TikTok at @adamgoodcoffee and Topher at @timewithtopher.

Follow the chaos on TikTok: @Sirenegade_440 @Wendy6181981

New episodes every Monday.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don't forget to lick responsibly.

This week on Tongue First, Siren and Wendy welcome Miss Magali — queer, mixed, musical theater performer, TikTok yapper, and full time gaming streamer who went live to a community of seven people on March 5th and never looked back.

Magali came into Siren's life during one of the hardest moments of her TikTok journey — a malicious account ban during Pride month that wiped out everything overnight. She showed up quietly, stayed, and became one of those people you don't realize changed your trajectory until they tell you the story back.

Together, Siren, Wendy, and Magali talk about what it means to be a soft place to land on the internet, the pressure of manufactured creator rules and how to break them, turning 30 after spending your twenties homeless, caring for a grandmother with dementia, and working three jobs at 22 just to stay in the theater. They get into love languages, desire and how it shape shifts, anxious attachment and the book that named it, and what it actually feels like to want someone to just stay.

Wendy tells a story she hasn't told on the podcast before. It involves a cruise, a proposal on a plane, a signed lease, and someone who came back after two years and undid a lot of healing. It's heavy. It's honest. And Magali holds the room through every second of it.

Also: Heathers the musical and its impressive body count, Wendy's polycule dream taking a hit, Mai Tai the emotional support cat, the iced vanilla berry Red Bull that Wendy sent to Magali just because, and desire as a goddess who steps into whatever path she wants when she's needed most.

If you've ever felt like showing up online cost you something — or like loving someone right wasn't enough to make them stay — this one is for you.

Support the chaos and get access to bonus content, behind the scenes moments, and the Tongue First After Hours community over on Patreon. The link is in the show notes.

Find Miss Magali on TikTok at @missmagali25 and on Twitch at twitch.tv/missmagaliplaysgames.

Follow the chaos on TikTok: @Sirenegade_440 @Wendy6181981

New episodes every Monday.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don't forget to lick responsibly.

Before season one, before the guests, before the show notes and the Patreon and the weekly production schedule — there was this.

This week Tongue First is taking a breath and going back to where it all started. Put Your Whole Mouth On It is the very first episode Siren and Wendy ever recorded, live on TikTok, with absolutely no idea what they were doing and all the chaotic energy that would eventually become this show.

In this debut episode they introduce themselves for the first time — a 37 year old queer trans woman who spent twenty years in the church and a seasoned 44 year old cis lesbian who birthed a dachshund out of her cooter cat — talk about how they found each other on TikTok, their matching birthdays, their matching tattoos, and what happens when two Geminis with filthy minds decide to start a podcast together.

They also get into trans awakenings, lesbian stereotypes, love, loss, lube, cheating, religion, the word moist, blue raspberry, and whether they should call it Tongue First or Tongues Out.

Spoiler: they figured it out.

New episodes are back next Monday with Episode 9 and a guest that Wendy has an absolutely unhinged crush on. In the meantime — welcome back to the beginning.

Support the chaos and get access to bonus content, behind the scenes moments, and the Tongue First After Hours community over on Patreon. The link is in the show notes.

Follow the chaos on TikTok: @Sirenegade_440 @Wendy6181981

New episodes every Monday.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don't forget to lick responsibly.

This week on Tongue First, Siren and Wendy welcome Matthew Lush — aka Gay God — one of the original LGBTQ+ internet personalities, a trailblazer who was turning webcams on in his bedroom and figuring it out in real time before anyone had a name for what he was doing.

Matthew has been a presence on the internet for twenty two years. Before TikTok lives, before creator houses, before sponsorship managers and media training, Matthew was on MySpace posting pictures of himself and his boyfriend and accidentally becoming one of the first openly gay voices on the internet. It cost him friendships, his relationship with his parents, and years of death threats from strangers who couldn't stand to see him exist. He kept going anyway.

Together, Siren, Wendy, and Matthew talk about what it actually cost to be visible online before queer visibility was celebrated, coming out at fourteen and being one of the first to do it on camera, the emotional weight of being a creator people turn to when they have nowhere else to go, what it means to forgive a parent who wasn't there when you needed them most, and how trauma has a funny way of turning into purpose.

They also get into defining queerness, rainbow aesthetics and pride fatigue, Matthew being canonically a lesbian, and a passionate debate about whether pineapple belongs on mashed potatoes that ends exactly the way you'd expect.

And somewhere in the middle of all of it, warm jello becomes a metaphor for something that we will not be explaining here.

If you've ever felt like being yourself on the internet cost you something real — or if you just need to hear that keeping going is always worth it — this one is for you.

Support the chaos and get access to bonus content, behind the scenes moments, and the Tongue First After Hours community over on Patreon. The link is in the show notes.

Find Matthew Lush at MatthewLush.com and on TikTok at @MatthewLush.

Follow the chaos on TikTok: @Sirenegade_440 @Wendy6181981

New episodes every Monday.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don't forget to lick responsibly.

This week on Tongue First, Siren and Wendy welcome Sylvie Savage — trans woman, TikTok creator, relationship anarchist, and the person who will absolutely make you question every social construct you've ever accepted without thinking about it.

Sylvie's story is not a straight line. It moves through Bible college, religious deconstruction, a marriage, three kids, a miscarriage, a bipolar diagnosis, leaving the church, realizing she was trans, and somehow landing in one of the most intentional, loving, and beautifully complicated relationship structures you'll hear described on this podcast. And she tells all of it with the kind of humor and clarity that makes you want to take notes and laugh at the same time.

Together, Siren, Wendy, and Sylvie get into relationship anarchy and what it actually means, polyamory and how Wendy is very seriously considering canoodling in the polycule, what it looks like to raise kids inside a poly pan trans household, the difference between stereotypes and statistics, queer intentionality in relationships, and why being demi doesn't mean you're out of the running for any of this.

Also: the AI masc lesbian trend, trans women's relationship with their bodies, a passionate discourse about Gia, Wendy being canonically 81 years old, and California fries as a life philosophy.

If you've ever had to dismantle everything you were taught just to figure out who you actually are — this one is for you.

Support the chaos and get access to bonus content, behind the scenes moments, and the Tongue First After Hours community over on Patreon. The link is in the show notes.

Find Sylvie Savage on TikTok at @sylvie.enchantress.

Follow the chaos on TikTok: @Sirenegade_440 @Wendy6181981

New episodes every Monday.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don't forget to lick responsibly.

This week on Tongue First, Siren and Wendy welcome Jo Del Carmen — sapphic short story author, TikTok storyteller, and the author behind Women in Papercuts — a collection of true sapphic experiences written with the kind of tension that makes you want to turn down the brightness, light a candle, and get in touch with yourself.

Jo brings her full self to the room. A queer Latinx woman who grew up in South Florida, spent seven years songwriting and performing, got shoved out of the closet by her brother, and has since been turning twenty four real experiences into some of the most searingly honest sapphic short fiction on the internet.

Together, Siren, Wendy, and Jo talk about coming out, being outed, trauma bonding, and why youth group has always been a pipeline for gay people. They get into favorite sapphic books and movies — Foxfire, Gia, Imagine Me and You, and a very passionate defense of Aubrey Plaza. They talk about polyamory, how Jo's relationship opened up, how Siren's trifecta formed after New Orleans, and Wendy revealing for the first time that she's demisexual.

Then the conversation turns toward the sapphic slow burn — why queer women connect so deeply through yearning, safety, and desire — and Jo reads an excerpt from her story Irresistible that will make you want to sit very still for a moment.

Also: second puberty, beer pong in the oldest gay bar in the country, and sapphic snacks as a life philosophy.

If you've ever felt desire before you had words for it, found yourself in a story someone else was telling, or just needed someone to remind you that safety and great sex are not mutually exclusive — this one is for you.

Support the chaos and get access to bonus content, behind the scenes moments, and the Tongue First After Hours community over on Patreon.

Find Jo Del Carmen on TikTok at @jo_author and grab her merch and more at linktr.ee/womeninpaperperks.

Follow the chaos on TikTok: @Sirenegade_440 and @Wendy6181981

New episodes every Monday.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don't forget to lick responsibly.

This week on Tongue First, Siren and Wendy are back for a solo episode that somehow covers everything from financial fraud to sapphic softness — with a spicy group chat in the middle holding it all together.

Wendy kicks things off with a week from hell: a CheapOAir booking disaster and a phone scammer who smooth-talked her out of eighteen hundred dollars by pretending to be her bank. It's a cautionary tale, it's a PSA, and it's somehow also hilarious.

Then the group chat comes up — nineteen people, daily titty pics, and a very consensual conversation that somehow leads into a deep dive on what sapphic relationships actually feel like from the inside. Tender eye contact, soft skin, the kind of connection that makes the rest of the world disappear.

Wendy opens up about heartbreak, what four days of no contact actually costs you, and why she's done giving grace to people who won't stay consistent. Siren talks about losing nearly every friendship she had when she left the church, what it means to finally have found family that shows up with no strings attached, and why being desired — really desired — is something she didn't think was possible for her until recently.

Also: lesbian fashion by era, the trans flag as a gender reveal, chokers as the unofficial trans woman uniform, and a brief but passionate debate about who the bigger lesbian actually is.

If you've ever been scammed, loved someone who couldn't show up, needed to hear that you are worthy of being desired, or just wanted to sit with two people who will go from chaotic to tender and back again without missing a beat — this one's for you.

Support the chaos and get access to bonus content, behind the scenes moments, and the Tongue First After Hours community over on Patreon.

Follow the chaos on TikTok: @Sirenegade_440 @Wendy6181981

New episodes every Monday.

This one is a little different.

Siren and Wendy are taking a quick detour from the regular episode format to talk directly to the community about something they've been building behind the scenes — Tongue First: After Hours, the official Tongue First Patreon page, is live.

In this bonus episode they break down all four membership tiers, what your support actually goes toward, and why they built this space in the first place. They also talk about the new website at tonguefirstpodcast.com, give a sneak peek at merch that's coming soon — including the tote bag everyone keeps asking about and a very unexpected carabiner — and share a milestone number that genuinely blew them away.

If you've been listening and wondering how to support the show, this episode is for you. And if you just want to hear Siren and Wendy be chaotic about streaming numbers — also for you.

Head to tonguefirstpodcast.com or the link in bio to find the Patreon and everything else we're building.

Follow the chaos on TikTok: @Sirenegade_440 @Wendy6181981

New episodes every Monday.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don't forget to lick responsibly.

This week on Tongue First, Siren and Wendy are joined by Meggers for one of the most emotionally grounded — and unexpectedly chaotic — conversations of the season so far.

Together, they talk about parenting queer kids, chosen family, queer safety, internet friendships becoming real life support systems, religious shame, survival, and what it means to keep showing up authentically in a world that doesn’t always feel safe to exist in.

The episode moves through deeply personal conversations about coming out, sexual assault, trauma, gender expectations, dating while trans, and raising children with the freedom to become fully themselves. And because this is still Tongue First, the emotional vulnerability somehow coexists perfectly with discussions about whiskers, body hair, boobs in group chats, and the life-changing power of emotional support tweezers.

This episode explores:
• parenting queer and trans children
• chosen family and queer community
• survival, safety, and existing visibly queer
• religious trauma and purity culture
• consent, assault, and emotional healing
• dating while trans
• internet friendships becoming real connection
• body image, hormones, and chaotic queer adulthood

If you’ve ever found family outside of blood, questioned the rules you were raised with, or needed queer community just to make it through the week, this episode is for you.

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@Sirenegade_440
@WendyReeves81

New episodes every Monday.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don’t forget to lick responsibly.