This week on Tongue First, Siren and Wendy welcome Jo Del Carmen — sapphic short story author, TikTok storyteller, and the author behind Women in Papercuts — a collection of true sapphic experiences written with the kind of tension that makes you want to turn down the brightness, light a candle, and get in touch with yourself.

Jo brings her full self to the room. A queer Latinx woman who grew up in South Florida, spent seven years songwriting and performing, got shoved out of the closet by her brother, and has since been turning twenty four real experiences into some of the most searingly honest sapphic short fiction on the internet.

Together, Siren, Wendy, and Jo talk about coming out, being outed, trauma bonding, and why youth group has always been a pipeline for gay people. They get into favorite sapphic books and movies — Foxfire, Gia, Imagine Me and You, and a very passionate defense of Aubrey Plaza. They talk about polyamory, how Jo's relationship opened up, how Siren's trifecta formed after New Orleans, and Wendy revealing for the first time that she's demisexual.

Then the conversation turns toward the sapphic slow burn — why queer women connect so deeply through yearning, safety, and desire — and Jo reads an excerpt from her story Irresistible that will make you want to sit very still for a moment.

Also: second puberty, beer pong in the oldest gay bar in the country, and sapphic snacks as a life philosophy.

If you've ever felt desire before you had words for it, found yourself in a story someone else was telling, or just needed someone to remind you that safety and great sex are not mutually exclusive — this one is for you.

Support the chaos and get access to bonus content, behind the scenes moments, and the Tongue First After Hours community over on Patreon.

Find Jo Del Carmen on TikTok at @jo_author and grab her merch and more at linktr.ee/womeninpaperperks.

Follow the chaos on TikTok: @Sirenegade_440 and @Wendy6181981

New episodes every Monday.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don't forget to lick responsibly.

This week on Tongue First, Siren and Wendy are back for a solo episode that somehow covers everything from financial fraud to sapphic softness — with a spicy group chat in the middle holding it all together.

Wendy kicks things off with a week from hell: a CheapOAir booking disaster and a phone scammer who smooth-talked her out of eighteen hundred dollars by pretending to be her bank. It's a cautionary tale, it's a PSA, and it's somehow also hilarious.

Then the group chat comes up — nineteen people, daily titty pics, and a very consensual conversation that somehow leads into a deep dive on what sapphic relationships actually feel like from the inside. Tender eye contact, soft skin, the kind of connection that makes the rest of the world disappear.

Wendy opens up about heartbreak, what four days of no contact actually costs you, and why she's done giving grace to people who won't stay consistent. Siren talks about losing nearly every friendship she had when she left the church, what it means to finally have found family that shows up with no strings attached, and why being desired — really desired — is something she didn't think was possible for her until recently.

Also: lesbian fashion by era, the trans flag as a gender reveal, chokers as the unofficial trans woman uniform, and a brief but passionate debate about who the bigger lesbian actually is.

If you've ever been scammed, loved someone who couldn't show up, needed to hear that you are worthy of being desired, or just wanted to sit with two people who will go from chaotic to tender and back again without missing a beat — this one's for you.

Support the chaos and get access to bonus content, behind the scenes moments, and the Tongue First After Hours community over on Patreon.

Follow the chaos on TikTok: @Sirenegade_440 @Wendy6181981

New episodes every Monday.

This one is a little different.

Siren and Wendy are taking a quick detour from the regular episode format to talk directly to the community about something they've been building behind the scenes — Tongue First: After Hours, the official Tongue First Patreon page, is live.

In this bonus episode they break down all four membership tiers, what your support actually goes toward, and why they built this space in the first place. They also talk about the new website at tonguefirstpodcast.com, give a sneak peek at merch that's coming soon — including the tote bag everyone keeps asking about and a very unexpected carabiner — and share a milestone number that genuinely blew them away.

If you've been listening and wondering how to support the show, this episode is for you. And if you just want to hear Siren and Wendy be chaotic about streaming numbers — also for you.

Head to tonguefirstpodcast.com or the link in bio to find the Patreon and everything else we're building.

Follow the chaos on TikTok: @Sirenegade_440 @Wendy6181981

New episodes every Monday.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don't forget to lick responsibly.

This week on Tongue First, Siren and Wendy are joined by Meggers for one of the most emotionally grounded — and unexpectedly chaotic — conversations of the season so far.

Together, they talk about parenting queer kids, chosen family, queer safety, internet friendships becoming real life support systems, religious shame, survival, and what it means to keep showing up authentically in a world that doesn’t always feel safe to exist in.

The episode moves through deeply personal conversations about coming out, sexual assault, trauma, gender expectations, dating while trans, and raising children with the freedom to become fully themselves. And because this is still Tongue First, the emotional vulnerability somehow coexists perfectly with discussions about whiskers, body hair, boobs in group chats, and the life-changing power of emotional support tweezers.

This episode explores:
• parenting queer and trans children
• chosen family and queer community
• survival, safety, and existing visibly queer
• religious trauma and purity culture
• consent, assault, and emotional healing
• dating while trans
• internet friendships becoming real connection
• body image, hormones, and chaotic queer adulthood

If you’ve ever found family outside of blood, questioned the rules you were raised with, or needed queer community just to make it through the week, this episode is for you.

Follow the chaos on TikTok:
@Sirenegade_440
@WendyReeves81

New episodes every Monday.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don’t forget to lick responsibly.

This week on Tongue First, Siren and Wendy dive into the beautifully weird world of queer community, TikTok Live, parasocial relationships, polyamory, religious trauma, and creator burnout.

What starts with Power Rangers, Gemini chaos, and straight men in livestream chats turns into a deeper conversation about being queer online, building real connection through social media, and trying to protect your peace while still showing up authentically.

Siren shares updates on polyamory, co-parenting, and building a new relationship dynamic at home, while Wendy brings her usual mix of blunt honesty, emotional support lesbian energy, and absolutely zero patience for nonsense.

And because it’s Tongue First, things eventually spiral into dingle hoppers, body hair, hygiene, and sapphic sex talk. You know. As they do.

This episode explores:
• queer relationships and polyamory
• TikTok Live creator burnout
• parasocial relationships and online community
• religious trauma and coming out
• emotional boundaries and creator life
• queer identity, body honesty, and going tongue first

If you’ve ever built real friendships online, felt overwhelmed by social media, questioned your place in queer community, or tried to keep your life together while everything is changing… this one’s for you.

Follow the chaos on TikTok:
@Sirenegade_440
@WendyReeves81

New episodes every Monday.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don’t forget to lick responsibly.

Episode 2: Powdered Sugar, Gay Bars, and Jared from the Internet

This week, Siren and Wendy are joined by everyone’s favorite sweet little baby angel, Jared from the Internet, for an episode that somehow spirals from Sniffies and gay bars into queer identity, creator burnout, parasocial relationships, chosen family, and the emotional chaos of building real connection online.

The trio unpack their experiences as queer TikTok live creators, what it feels like to form genuine relationships through the internet, and the strange vulnerability of being perceived by thousands of people every day. Along the way, they swap stories from New Orleans, talk dating apps, polyamory, queer labels, internet drama, community, and what it means to actually show up authentically — online and off.

There's also:
• beignets
• powdered sugar everywhere
• gay hand motions
• Wendy threatening trolls again
• Jared accidentally revealing he has game
• and at least one existential conversation disguised as chaos

Some episodes feel like a podcast.
This one feels like sitting on the floor with queer friends at 2am while someone passes you fries and overshares emotionally.

Still playful. Still heartfelt. Still a little unhinged — but now they mean it.

Follow the hosts on TikTok:
@Sirenegade_440
@WendyReeves81

And go show some love to our guest:
@JDreamer1995

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don’t forget to lick responsibly.

What starts with a look doesn’t always stay that simple.

In the Season 1 premiere of Tongue First, Siren and Wendy are back — this time off TikTok Live and fully in their element — catching up on everything that’s happened since Season 0. And yeah… things escalate quickly.

From a chaotic, connection-filled trip to New Orleans — where eye contact turned into makeouts and makeouts turned into something a lot more complicated — to navigating open relationships, unexpected feelings, and the moments that make you stop and think, “wait… what is this?”

This episode explores:

• queer intimacy and attraction
• feeling seen in ways you didn’t expect
• open and evolving relationships
• and what happens when connection goes deeper than planned

It’s funny, unfiltered, a little unhinged, and honest in a way that might hit closer than you expect.

So whether you’re here to feel seen, feel a little exposed, or finally hear someone say the shit you’ve been thinking…

Welcome to Season One.

Let’s get into it.

Siren and Wendy are back, diving Tongue First into the tender, chaotic, and life-shifting moments that shape who we are — from those first little closet cracks to the full-body ohhh moments of queer epiphany.

This episode gets beautifully real about gender, identity, desire, and the messy magic of introducing a queer partner to your kids.

In The First Course, Siren opens up about her gender awakening — the thousand tiny moments that whispered, then demanded, the truth. Wendy shares her own journey of expression, comfort, and androgynous attraction. Together, they explore the difference between wanting to be her… and wanting to kiss her.

In The Second Course, it’s Queer-piphany time as the hosts listen to your community-submitted stories — raw, emotional, funny, and deeply relatable. From crushes to cooter tingles, every epiphany offers another angle of what it means to come home to yourself.

In The Third Course, they get honest about queer love and parenthood: — introducing your partner to your kids for the first time, — navigating blended families, — honoring boundaries and communication, — and modeling authenticity so children grow up unafraid.

Plus: The palate cleanser gets unhinged (ear-licking??), the chat gets feral, and Siren and Wendy roast their younger selves’ fashion choices without mercy. And finally, they wrap it all up with a juicy Last Lick featuring their L Word crushes… some of which get very passionate.

Recorded live on TikTok, where the chaos is delicious and the community is loud.

Until next time — stay curious, stay queer, and don’t forget to lick responsibly.

🎙️ Tongue First — Episode 2: “Red Flags, Butt Stuff, and Break-ups”

Tagline: The queer curiosity podcast with bite.

Episode Description: Siren and Wendy are back, serving up another round of sapphic chaos, laughter, and way-too-honest conversation. In this episode, they dive Tongue First into three pillars of queer discovery & disaster: red flags, butt stuff, and friendship after break-ups.

From deal breakers and a tattoo of an ex's face to emotional maturity and healing through humor, this one’s equal parts sex ed and group therapy—with plenty of giggles, real talk, and a few forehead kisses along the way. Recorded live on TikTok, the community joins in to ask the spicy questions and share the chaos in real time.

New episodes drop every other week — until next time, stay curious, stay queer, and don’t forget to lick responsibly. 💋

Credits: Tongue First is written and hosted by Aubrey Jane Jones and Wendy Reeves. Produced and edited by Aubrey Jane Jones. Recorded live with our TikTok communities — where chaos and curiosity collide. Special thanks to our TikTok moderators for keeping things running smoothly, and to Brooke Dale for the intro and outro voiceovers.

🎙️ Tongue First — Episode 1: “Put Your Whole Mouth On It”

Tagline: The queer curiosity podcast with bite.

Episode Description: Welcome to the debut episode of Tongue First! Hosts Aubrey Jones aka Siren and Wendy Reeves kick things off by introducing themselves, their chaotic chemistry, and the queer curiosity that started it all.

From TikTok lives to podcast mics, they explore trans awakenings, lesbian stereotypes, love, laughter, and what it means to live out loud. Expect heartfelt confessions, hilarious detours, and that unmistakable Gemini energy that makes Tongue First impossible to ignore.

New episodes drop every week — until next time, stay curious, stay queer, and don’t forget to lick responsibly. 💋

Credits: Tongue First is written and hosted by Aubrey Jane Jones and Wendy Reeves. Produced and edited by Aubrey Jane Jones. Recorded live with our TikTok communities — where chaos and curiosity collide. Special thanks to our TikTok moderators for keeping things running smoothly, and to Brooke Dale for the intro and outro voiceovers.