Too Late My Ass

Fay has opened eight brand new things on camera in a fortnight, from a blank screen, with people watching. This episode is about the state of all eight of them, which is nothing much, and why that is the single most misread moment in starting anything after fifty.

In this episode: the eighty inspections she did in ten days and what they moved, the sum people quietly run in the background when they start something later in life, what ninety six people at University College London actually showed about how long a new daily thing takes to stick, why missing one day made no measurable difference and the story you tell yourself the next morning did, and the four things worth counting in the month before a single thing sells.

For anyone over 50 who started something this year, looked at it after a fortnight and quietly decided it was them.

The free 21 Day Defiant Second Act Challenge: https://www.toolatemyass.com/21daysecondactchallenge

The free Speak Up After 50 quiz: https://www.toolatemyass.com/speak-up

The Long Game, free daily practice: https://www.toolatemyass.com/longgameapp

Which RISE55 lane fits you, five questions and the first lesson is free: https://www.toolatemyass.com/rise55-quiz

Every episode: https://www.toolatemyass.com/listen

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Pick one thing. Build it. Get paid. Live well. Fay has done the first three on this show, and this is the fourth, which is the one everybody nods along to and nobody books.
In this episode: why capable people in particular get this wrong, what the longest study ever run on adult lives found when researchers asked which measurement at fifty best predicted who was still well at eighty, what happens when people spend money to get rid of tasks they hate instead of buying things, and the four bookings that change a week.
For anyone over 50 who did the work, got the money, and still has a Tuesday that looks exactly the way it looked when they were miserable and employed.

The free 21 Day Defiant Second Act Challenge: https://www.toolatemyass.com/21daysecondactchallenge

The Long Game, free daily practice: https://www.toolatemyass.com/longgameapp

Which RISE55 lane fits you, five questions and the first lesson is free: https://www.toolatemyass.com/rise55-quiz

Every episode: https://www.toolatemyass.com/listen

Everything free in one place: https://www.toolatemyass.com/links

You spent thirty or forty years in a job where the money arrived on its own, on the fifteenth and the thirtieth, and you never had to ask for it once. Then you start something after 50 and the whole system is gone. Fay names the four separate skills hiding inside the phrase getting paid, the five places the money quietly goes missing between agreed and paid, and the research on deadlines that explains why payment appreciated at your convenience gets you nothing. Then the eleven minute fix you can do today.

Resources:

The free 21 Day Defiant Second Act Challenge: ⁠toolatemyass.com/21daysecondactchallenge⁠The Starter Kit, free: ⁠toolatemyass.com/starter-kit⁠

Sunday Mornings: ⁠toolatemyass.com/sundaymornings⁠

The Weekly Rebellion: ⁠substack.com/@faychapple⁠

RISE55, when you want the structure underneath all of this: ⁠toolatemyass.com/rise55⁠

Everything in one place: ⁠toolatemyass.com/links

This week the work was to say a number out loud about your own work, to a real person, and then be quiet. Some of you did it. Some of you spent five days finding reasons not to. Both of you are welcome here.

This morning is about the throat, which is where the sentence sat before it came out, and where it is still sitting for anybody who never said it. We arrive in the jaw and the throat and the top of the chest and find out what is actually being held there. We breathe in a square, four counts each side, because the aim is steady rather than calm and those are genuinely different states. Then we rehearse the conversation properly, including the four bad seconds after the number, and we sit in that silence on purpose so your body finds out it survives it. Five journal prompts, building from locating to declaring. And one thing to do out loud in front of a mirror, which sounds ridiculous and is the most useful ninety seconds of the whole thing.

No affirmations. Nobody is going to tell you that you are enough. The problem was never that you did not believe you were valuable. The problem is that saying so out loud has never been practised, and practice is a body thing.

If this morning found something in you, the 21 Day Defiant Second Act Challenge is free and Day 1 lands the morning after you join: toolatemyass.com/21daysecondactchallenge

The Weekly Rebellion lands Monday morning. One thought to get you moving.

You picked your one thing. You built the ugly version. And then somebody asks what it costs and you hear a voice come out of your mouth that you do not recognise.

This episode is about why that happens to people over 50 in particular, and it is not a confidence problem. Forty years of your working life, somebody else set the number and told you what you were worth. You were very good at being worth it. Nobody ever handed you the pen.

Inside: the UCLA experiment that showed social rejection running through the same circuitry as physical pain, why Vanessa Bohns' research at Cornell says you are wrong about your odds by close to half, the three places people hide instead of asking, and four moves you can run this week. Plus what I am doing about my own number by Friday, and whether it goes badly.

Resources:

The free 21 Day Defiant Second Act Challenge: toolatemyass.com/21daysecondactchallenge
The Starter Kit, free: toolatemyass.com/starter-kit
Sunday Mornings: toolatemyass.com/sundaymornings
The Weekly Rebellion: substack.com/@faychapple
RISE55, when you want the structure underneath all of this: toolatemyass.com/rise55
Everything in one place: toolatemyass.com/links

The quiet one. All week we have been loud about building: putting the rough version in front of real people before it feels ready. This morning we meet the part of you that has been keeping it safe.

Arriving in the body, coherent breathing at about six breaths a minute, a guided visualisation of a Thursday afternoon three weeks from now when the rough version has already been seen, five journal prompts, and a short voice note practice to carry into the week.

You do not need to have started anything. You do not need to know what your one thing is yet. Just be here.

The Weekly Rebellion lands Monday morning, one thought to get you moving: toolatemyass.com
Start here, free: toolatemyass.com/starter-kit

Sunday Mornings is part of Too Late, My Ass, the world for people over 50.

Last week we picked our one thing. This week we build it, and Fay argues that the way most capable people were taught to build is exactly why nothing gets built.

Somewhere in your house there is a folder: a business name, a logo, a plan with a section called Year Three. How many people who might pay you have seen inside it? Fay starts with her own weak first version this season and why she could only see it was weak because it existed. Then the science: why being judged sets off one of the biggest stress responses the body has, and why small visible progress is what actually keeps people going.

You will hear the pottery class that explains everything, the three things almost everyone over 50 builds instead of the real thing, why it gets harder after 50, and the seven day ugly build: one sentence, one small version, three real people, one fix.

Too Late, My Ass is hosted by Fay Chapple: brand builder, started over after fifty, now doing it in public so you can see how it is done. Too Late My Ass is built by Fay and her partner Stacy Maynard, who runs the systems and the Implementation Labs behind RISE55.

Start here: the free Starter Kit at toolatemyass.com/starter-kit
First Wednesday Live, every month: toolatemyass.com/wednesdaylive
Build it with a small group: RISE55 at toolatemyass.com
Sunday Mornings, the quiet one, every Sunday on YouTube

Too Late, My Ass is the podcast for people over 50 who are done being written off. New episodes every Wednesday.

The quiet one. All week we have been loud about choosing, closing doors, and the people who make nothing because they try everything. This morning we set that down and let it settle.
About 25 minutes: arriving in the body, a 4 4 6 2 breathing pattern, a guided anchor practice ("I chose this on purpose, and I am still here"), five journal prompts, and a gentle close.
You do not need anything. You do not need to have chosen yet. Just be here.

Start your week with The Weekly Rebellion, one idea a week for people done being written off: toolatemyass.com
Sunday Morning is part of Too Late, My Ass, the world for people over 50.

Season 3 opens with the one skill nobody teaches you after 50: How to Choose.

Fay tells the story of the night she reheated the same cup of coffee three times and realized her "open options" were running her life into the ground. Then the science: the Zeigarnik effect, decision fatigue, and the jam study that shows why more choice gets attention and less choice gets decisions.

You will hear the three doors almost everyone over 50 keeps open, why choosing gets harder with experience (and how to make that work for you), and the Tab Audit: a one hour exercise that takes you from thirty nine maybes to one thing you are actually building.

Start here: the free Starter Kit at toolatemyass.com/starter-kit

First Wednesday Live, every month: toolatemyass.com/wednesdaylive

The Rebellion Room: toolatemyass.com

Sunday Morning, the quiet one, every Sunday on YouTube

Too Late, My Ass is the podcast for people over 50 who are done being written off.

Read your LinkedIn bio out loud. Did that sound like who you are now, or who you were at your last job?Your bio isn't describing you, it's issuing instructions about you. This week Fay explains why your first line is a leash pulling in the wrong offers, and the 3-move translation that points it forward instead.Your move this week: cut the first backward-facing sentence and rewrite one line pointed forward.Rewrite it free (AI Finally): https://www.toolatemyass.com/aifinallyFirst Wednesday Live — free, Aug 5: https://www.toolatemyass.com/wednesdayliveThe Rebellion Room: https://www.toolatemyass.com/rebellionroom