It’s not a midlife crisis. It’s a software update. Who Are You When You Stop Pretending?If you are exhausted, it isn’t because you’re old. It’s because you have spent the last decade performing a character that doesn't fit you anymore. You are wearing "corporate armor" over your actual skin, and you are suffocating. It's time to retire the version of you that kept everyone else comfortable.In this episode, we dismantle the "Good Girl/Good Guy" persona you built to survive your 30s.We cover:The Armor vs. The Skin: Why your "success" feels like a trap.The 4 Burnout Archetypes: Are you an Igniter, an Anchor, a Translator, or a Feeler? (And why pretending to be the wrong one is killing your nervous system).The Diagnostic: How to use the Zodiac Rebellion framework to stop gaslighting yourself.The Homework: Stop guessing. Go to https://www.toolatemyass.com/zodiacrebelliondothequiz and take the Zodiac Rebellion Quiz. Find out who is actually running the show.

Imagine a life filled with unexpected turns, from veterinary dreams to ranching realities, and then a bold leap into digital education.

John Waterhouse’s journey is a powerful reminder that life’s detours can lead to incredible destinations. Facing early academic challenges and societal expectations, he pursued his lifelong dream of becoming a veterinarian, only to pivot again and again. From running a family farm to pioneering digital education for veterinary professionals, John’s story highlights resilience, adaptability, and the courage to build something impactful at every stage of life.

Resources Mentioned:

Veterinary Teaching Academy (VTA): https://www.veterinaryteachingacademy.com/

Canine Rehab On Demand: https://www.veterinaryteachingacademy.com/caninerehabondemand

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If you’re navigating a midlife identity shift, feeling burned out, or questioning the life you built — this episode is for you.

In this episode of Too Late, My Ass™, Fay Chapple explores what happens when your identity outgrows the roles that once kept everyone else comfortable. The reliable one. The agreeable one. The strong one. The version of you that made life work — until it didn’t.

This conversation breaks down the neuroscience and psychology behind identity change, midlife reinvention, and why “stopping” an old way of being can feel more destabilizing than starting something new.

You’ll learn:

Why midlife reinvention often feels like restlessness, grief, or burnout

How unconscious performance becomes identity — and why it eventually collapses

What it really means to “rebrand yourself” beyond careers or social media

Why awareness changes everything — and why it’s also uncomfortable

How to navigate the space between who you were and who you’re becoming

This episode isn’t about motivation or starting over.

It’s about retiring an identity that no longer fits — without guilt, apology, or self-betrayal.

If you’ve reached a point where you can’t go back to who you were, but don’t yet know what comes next, this episode will help you understand why that feeling exists — and what it’s asking of you.

🎧 Listen now and begin your second act.

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A six-figure salary, a busy clinic, and a professional title—she had it all. But Dr. Celia Waterhouse realized she was living the wrong life. In this inspiring episode, we dive into how she left the grueling, high-stakes world of veterinary medicine to reinvent herself as a full-time nomad and the founder of a thriving van life community. Hear the honest truth about the debt, the doubt, and the moment she said, "Too late my ass," to build her dream life on the open road.

Resources Mentioned:

The Revel Club: https://www.therevelclub.com/

Veterinary Teaching Academy:  https://www.theveterinaryteachingacademy.com/

Too Late, My Ass: https://www.toolatemyass.com/

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You’ve been lied to.

The world told you your best years were behind you.

That change gets harder after 40.

That reinvention is a young person’s game.

Science says: Too Late, My Ass.

In this explosive episode, Fay Chapple unpacks the neuroscience behind why midlife is actually the PRIME age for reinvention. From neuroplasticity to fear loops to why your burnout is not failure but feedback, this is the unfiltered truth you’ve been waiting for.

Expect:

⚡ Bold humor

🧠 Real science

🔥 Sarcastic truth bombs

💥 A complete demolition of the “too late” narrative

You’ll learn:

• Why your brain gets BETTER, not worse, with age

• How novelty and courage literally rewire your neural pathways

• Why “waiting for motivation” keeps you stuck

• The psychology of identity upgrades

• How burnout can be the beginning of your second act

If you’re 40+ and craving a reset, a reinvention, or a brand-new chapter — this episode will change the way you see your brain, your life, and your future.

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You’re not behind — you’re just exhausted from pretending busyness is purpose.

In this brutally honest episode of Too Late, My Ass™, Fay dismantles the biggest lie in modern life: that doing more makes you more valuable.

💥 Inside:

Why productivity is a chemical addiction (and how to break it)

The difference between efficiency and effectiveness

The TLMA 3-Step “Deprogramming Plan” to stop measuring your worth in Wi-Fi bars

How to replace “output” with “impact” without losing your edge

Because burnout isn’t ambition — it’s avoidance in a power suit.

🎧 Too Late, My Ass™ — where reinvention has no expiration date.

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Ever done something brave… and immediately wished you hadn’t?

That’s not failure — that’s your *Courage Hangover.*

In this unapologetic episode of *Too Late, My Ass™,* Fay breaks down why every breakthrough comes with a crash, why growth feels like regret, and how to ride the emotional nausea that follows your biggest leaps.

🔥 In this episode:

The science of the courage hangover (dopamine, fear, and identity loss)

How to tell the difference between fear and regret

The 3-Step Courage Detox to metabolize change

Why feeling awful might mean you’re doing everything right

If you’re brave, exhausted, and slightly terrified — congratulations.

You’re evolving.

🎧 *Too Late, My Ass™ — where reinvention has no expiration date.*

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If you’re waiting to “feel ready,” here’s your wake-up call: confidence is a scam.

In this unfiltered TLMA deep dive, Fay burns down the myth that you need to believe in yourself before you act. Because confidence isn’t something you find — it’s something you build by surviving your own mess.

🔥 In this episode:

- Why “feeling ready” is a myth that keeps you stuck

- The neuroscience of fear and action

- How to build evidence-based confidence

- The 7-Day Confidence Reset Challenge

You don’t need confidence. You need momentum.

Too Late, My Ass™ — where reinvention has no expiration date.

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Think you’ve missed your shot? Science says otherwise.

In this episode, Fay Chapple dismantles the myth that “change gets harder with age.”

Spoiler: your brain never stops rewiring — and that means it’s *built* for reinvention.

Discover:

- The neuroscience of neuroplasticity — and how it keeps you adaptable for life

- Why midlife reinvention is actually peak cognitive evolution

- The “Use It or Rewire It” rule that can reshape your mindset in 30 days

- Real-life examples of people who rewrote their stories — not at 20, but at 50+

It’s not too late. It’s *perfect timing.*

Because your brain isn’t slowing down — it’s leveling up.

🎧 Listen now and grab the free **Comeback Kit** to kickstart your rewiring process.

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Everyone keeps telling you to “find balance.” Cute idea. Totally useless.

In this unapologetic reality check, Fay burns down the myth that you can “have it all” without losing your mind. Because balance isn’t real — it’s corporate gaslighting dressed in self-care quotes.

You don’t need balance; you need rhythm — a life that moves with your seasons, not against them. Fay breaks down exactly how to stop grading yourself by productivity, build a rhythm that actually fits your energy, and finally make peace with being gloriously imperfect.

✨ In this episode:

Why “balance” was never the goal

How the myth keeps you obedient and burnt out

The 3 types of rhythm you actually need

The 7-Day Rhythm Reset Challenge

If you’ve ever said “I just need to get it together,” this is your permission slip to stop.

Balance is cancelled. Rhythm’s in session.

🎧 Too Late, My Ass™ — where reinvention has no expiration date.

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