Toxic Masculinity Is a Lie. Here’s the Truth No One Wants to Say.

Today’s conversation is not a soft, feel-good talk. It’s a debate, a breakdown, and a challenge to the entire narrative around masculinity in 2025.

We brought back Eric Spears (Army, Navy, corrections, competitive shooter) because he has lived, witnessed, and survived nearly every form of masculine culture you can imagine.

In this episode, we confront the hard questions:

• Is masculinity actually toxic or is society scapegoating it?

• Are men being taught fragility instead of strength?

• Why do modern influencers profit off fear, insecurity, and “alpha male” fantasies?

• How do we reclaim masculinity AND embrace our feminine traits without shame?

This is a conversation men, women, parents, leaders, and young adults need right now. Through mental health, Buddhism, military experience, and Dragon Ball Z references (shout-out to Ken Black @BlackJazzMan, whose Vegeta video inspired a key section), we look at masculinity as a tool, not a weapon, something that can heal instead of harm.

Masculinity isn’t the enemy. Fragility is.Balance is strength. Vulnerability is power. And society is overdue for a reset.

🎙️ Things You’ll Find in This Episode

• Why “toxic masculinity” became a blanket term

• The difference between healthy, toxic, and fragile masculinity

• The role of mentorship and how society lost it

• Emotional vulnerability, male friendships, and why men are lonely

• Martial arts, Buddhism, balance, and nervous system regulation

• What Dragon Ball Z can teach us about true masculinity (Vegeta shattering the “alpha male”)

• How social media distorts masculine identity

• Why kindness, boundaries, and protection are masculine virtues

• How to talk to young men without creating shame

💬 Special ThanksMassive shout-out to Ken Black (@BlackJazzMan) on YouTube for his incredible video on Vegeta destroying the Alpha Male archetype — one of the most important cultural breakdowns of modern masculinity.

Check it out here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=riIZMce6Y70

⏱️ Chapters

00:00 — Intro: What Does Masculinity Mean in 2025?

05:12 — Healthy, Toxic & Fragile Masculinity Explained

17:58 — Emotional Vulnerability, Friendship & the Male Loneliness Crisis

29:49 — Sponsor: At Ready LLC (Dr. Ben Green)

30:00 — Mentorship, Balance, Dragon Ball Z & Rewriting Masculinity

49:38 - Outro

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✨ Our Message to You

Be good to yourselves and each other.

We love you, and you are worthy of that love.

Be your own light.

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