Training is the key. By paying attention to your triggers, the trips you go on when you get triggered and turns to get you out of reactivity you can actually train yourself not to be reactive. In some cases, you can even eliminate reactivity completely. "Release Your Sh*t & Reclaim Your Power" is a powerful book that contains the information to overcome potentially any unhelpful reaction in your life. Awareness is the key. What are your triggers? What trips do you go on when triggered, how do you turn it around? The answers to these questions will provide the answers to the training process necessary to de-escalate your reactivity