What if the reason transitions feel so uncomfortable isn't because they're hard, but because we've been taught we're only allowed to feel settled once we reach some imaginary finish line?

In this vulnerable episode, Barbara shares her ongoing struggle with an unfinished move and the realization that she won't feel "at home" until every single box is unpacked and every task is complete. After pushing through exhaustion to clean for her father's visit, then staying up until 11pm cleaning again with her partner, she discovered a pattern that goes much deeper than organization.

If you've ever felt like you're living in limbo, waiting for the next thing to be finished before you can actually rest, this episode will help you see the "curse of incompleteness" for what it really is.

You'll explore:

• Why we tie our worth to completion and what that costs us
• How physical spaces mirror our internal states during transitions
• The myth that healing has a clear endpoint you can reach
• Why your body's signals matter more than your mental timeline
• How to create "home" in the middle of ongoing change

This is for anyone who's ever said "once this is done, then I can rest" and found themselves constantly moving the goalpost. Because maybe the real curse isn't incompleteness—maybe it's believing you have to be complete to deserve peace.

Perfect for people in the middle of life transitions, recovering perfectionists, and anyone learning that rest isn't something you earn through finishing everything.

Brief mentions of family dynamics and physical exhaustion

Connect with Barbara: @mentalnesting_ on Instagram

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