I call it your “Secret Horror,” because I love to wax melodramatic, but in the literature it goes by many names: “Cracked Identity,” “Schema,” “Raw Spot,” “Self-Defeating Belief,” etc. What you really need to know about it, is that it’s a thought or a story you’re carrying around with you because some buried part of you has learned to believe it, but it really only sticks around because you're too scared to deal with it. And because you’re too scared to deal with it, anytime someone or something brings it up, you get… triggered.

Contains a step by step process for discovering your own “Secret Horror” and what you can do about it. www.bethechangeinyourmarriage.com.

“What is Your ‘Wife Style’?” Quiz: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/61c0e2c4b3f4200018bf41e0

Free Guide and Episode Updates: pages.bethechangeinyourmarriage.com

References:

UNDEFENDED LOVE by Jett Psaris, PH.D & Marlena Lyons, PH.D

ACCEPTANCE & COMMITMENT THERAPY FOR COUPLES by Avigail Lev, PsyD, and Matthew McKay, PH.D

WHEN PANIC ATTACKS by David D. Burns, M.D.

HOLD ME TIGHT by Dr. Sue Johnson