Let’s be real — most people aren’t emotionally unavailable... they’re just emotionally unaware.

In this episode, we stop sugarcoating and start spotlighting the unconscious patterns running your life. If you’ve ever found yourself doom-scrolling at 2am, blowing up over “nothing,” or chasing the same dead-end relationship dynamic in a different body — it’s not bad luck. It’s unprocessed emotional programming.

We’re pulling back the curtain on:

• Why your nervous system is quietly calling the shots (and how it’s screwing up your love life)

• The black-out effect: how triggers hijack your brain and make you forget who TF you are

• What to do when your trauma response is disguised as “just being chill”

• Why ghosting hurts so much — and how to stop outsourcing your self-worth to strangers

• The actual reason you keep dating the same person in a different outfit

This is your wake-up call: if you're not tracking your triggers, they're tracking you.
And the only way out... is in.

👉 If you’re tired of self-sabotage disguised as “just how I am,” hit play. Then grab a journal. You're gonna need it.

(00:00) Understanding Triggers in Our Environment 

00:44) Podcast Milestone and Guest Focus 

(01:49) Triggers and Coping Mechanisms 

(03:27) The Importance of Awareness and Reflection 

(04:41) Practical Tools for Managing Triggers 

(10:52) The Role of Relationships in Personal Growth 

(14:19) Emotional Regulation and Relationship Dynamics 

(24:03) The Toolbox of Emotional Regulation 

(24:27) Dating Variables and Emotional Capacity 

(26:12) Assessing Curiosity and Holding Space 

(28:26) Authenticity in Relationships 

(30:00) Navigating Friction and Triggers 

(33:50) The Masks We Wear 

(40:50) Setting Expectations in Relationships 

(47:00) Building Resilience and Self-Love