“Believe in yourself and have faith in your abilities! Without humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy.” – Norman Vincent Peale

Some things we may commonly do that may create this  disconnect

Overthinking

Shoulds

Prejudices & Unconscious Bias

A loved one’s or authority figure’s needs/wants/opinion/advice

When you badly want something

Previous trauma

Reference

https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/yes-trust-gut-heres/