"I’ve been single for 4 1/2 years, and in those 4 1/2 years, if I’m being honest with myself, half of that was spent healing from my last relationship. Truly healing. It took so much longer than I wanted it to because turns out I don’t get to choose how long it takes for me to heal.

But something I want to be sure to point out is we don’t have to be “fully healed” in order to be open to giving and receiving love. I mean, are any of us ever truly healed?

Healing is not linear, but so many times we get fixated on this idea that once we get to 'this' point of healing, this 'magical point' that we don’t know when it is, but when it happens we’ll just magically know, but once we get there - thennnnn we’ll be ready for relationship."