In 1991 Madonna was at the height of her fame, traveling the world on her Blonde Ambition tour and filming her documentary Truth or Dare. It’s impossible to hear “Madonna” and “Blonde Ambition” and not immediately think cone bras and sex-sex-sex. But rewatching the film, it became clear to us that “sex” for Madonna was much more about performance and provocation than true intimacy. So we brought intimacy coach Karen Yates to the pod to help us parse out the differences between sex and intimacy, consent and communication, and to answer Adrienne’s burning question: why are all the middle-aged men out here on these streets tryna choke a bitch?

CW: sexual assault, LGBTQIA+ discrimination, Kevin Costner