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Why are we taught to hide our anger? In this episode, I explore our relationship with rage and anger, emotions we are so often conditioned to repress, judge, or push into the shadows.

I shares my own experiences with somatic dance and breathwork, reflecting on how unexpressed rage lives in the body. Drawing from Carl Jung’s concept of the shadow, neuroscience, somatic nervous system regulation, and the ancient wisdom of deities like Goddess Kali, this episode provides a compassionate roadmap to safely feel, process, and release your anger.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The difference between feeling anger and reacting with aggression.
• How men and women are conditioned differently around anger.
• The neuroscience behind rage: What happens in the amygdala and prefrontal cortex.
• Quick, somatic tools to regulate your nervous system and release stored tension safely.
• How working with archetypes like Goddess Kali can help reframe anger as a sacred, protective fire.

Timestamped Show Notes

• 00:00 – Welcome and introduction. Rage, anger, and societal conditioning around hiding these feelings.
• 00:23 – The somatic breakthrough: Realisations on somatic dance, body vs. brain conditioning, and noticing rage surface during practice.
• 00:58 – Experiencing visceral release: My  first profound encounter with ancestral rage during a breathwork training.
• 02:51 – Carl Jung and The Shadow: How repressing anger creates exhaustion and leads to explosive outbursts or passive aggression.
• 03:41 – Gender conditioning around anger: Why society views angry women as "crazy" while tolerating or admiring anger in men as a cover for sadness and vulnerability.
• 04:36 – The nervous system and danger: How past experiences and ancestral survival reflexes make us freeze or feel unsafe around other people's anger.
• 05:40 – Innate expression in children: What a 2-year-old’s instinctive "chicken dance" movement teaches us about grounding and releasing anger through the body.
• 06:40 – The neuroscience of rage: What happens inside the amygdala and prefrontal cortex during rage, and the power of Dan Siegel’s "Name It to Tame It."
• 07:54 – Safe somatic practices: How to ground your body and safely release rage using a wall and cushion instead of ungrounded screaming.
• 08:44 – Working with deities and archetypes: Reframing anger through the fierce energy of Goddess Kali to see your inner fire as sacred and protective.
• 10:04 – Free masterclass Announcement and final thoughts: An invitation to the upcoming free masterclass series starting October 12th and details on the 6-month Unbound program.

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In this episode, I  dives deep into one of the most rarely discussed emotions: shame. We explores the difference between embarrassment and shame, how to identify whether the shame you're carrying is actually yours or was projected onto you, and how speaking shame aloud to a safe person can strip it of its power. This is the  first time I have shared this particular story in with anyone from my teenage years and I illustrate how projected shame can shape our internal narrative for years and how reclaiming and integrating shame becomes a path to liberation.

KEY TOPICS 

• Welcome & introduction — Why we don't talk about shame (0:00)
• Embarrassment vs. shame — How they differ and why shame is about identity, not actions (1:31)
• Kavita's personal story — A teacher's public shaming at sixth form college and carrying it for years (4:09)
• How shame survives in silence — The importance of being witnessed with empathy (8:41)
• Projected shame — When someone hands you their own unhealed stuff (11:16)
• The "conviction vs. fog" test — How to tell if shame is truly yours (12:36)
• Conditioned shame — Rules absorbed from culture, family, religion, and society (13:03)
• Finding your authentic shame — Stripping away every outside voice (15:18)
• Accountability vs. self-punishment — Why berating yourself keeps you stuck (16:10)
• Using shame as a spotlight — What your mistakes reveal about your values, limits, and blind spots (17:20)
• Shame can't survive being spoken — The power of a safe witness (19:11)
• Three things that happen when you stop hiding from shame — Authenticity, empathy, and courage (21:31)
• This week's exercise — Write down one shame, ask three questions, tell one safe person (22:28)
• Closing & resources — Free somatic meditation below.(24:25)

KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. Embarrassment is about a moment; shame is about identity. Embarrassment passes  shame lingers because it attaches to who you believe you are.
2. Not all shame is yours. Much of what we carry is projected (someone else's discomfort handed to us) or conditioned (rules absorbed from culture, family, religion). Strip away every outside voice and see what remains.
3. Use the "conviction vs. fog" test. If the shame feels clear and specific, it's likely yours. If it feels vague and diffuse ("something's wrong with me"), it's probably inherited.
4. Shame survives in secrecy, silence, and judgment. Speaking it aloud to a safe, empathetic person is what loosens its grip.
5. Accountability does not equal self-punishment. Hold yourself accountable, but don't berate yourself. Punishing yourself on repeat doesn't undo shame — it keeps you stuck.
6. Mistakes reveal blind spots. Use shame as a spotlight to learn about your values, limits, and the parts of yourself you can't see from the inside.

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In this solo episode, I unpack one of the most misunderstood concepts in wellness space,  authenticity. It's not simply "being yourself" it's the alignment between your inner world (your values, emotions, and truth) and how you show up in the world. 

Drawing on the work of Dr. Gabor Maté, personal stories, and years of my own lived experience, this episode explores why we abandon authenticity, how our roles can swallow our identity, and what it actually looks and feels like to start living from the your deepest essence. 

Key Takeaways

• Authenticity is the alignment between your inner values and how you show up. It's not a personality trait, but a daily practice
• As children, we learn to choose connection over authenticity, and this shapes our adult patterns more than we realise
• The roles we play (parent, partner, professional) aren't who we are, they're things we do.
• Life responds to who you're being!
• Becoming more authentic doesn't mean losing people, it means finding the right ones

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In this episode I practice what I preach and step out of my own comfort zone to record my first-solo podcast. 

I speak about the fears that held me back, the years she spent waiting for the “perfect moment,” and the transformative power of taking small, consistent steps toward the life you want. I speak about how our nervous system often confuses growth with danger, why discomfort is actually valuable data, and how self‑leadership is built through tiny daily reps,  not giant leaps.

This episode is an invitation to meet your own edge, choose courage over comfort, and take one small action today that moves you closer to the version of yourself you want to become.

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In this episode I sit down with Aman Sunner, founder of Unlocked, to explore confidence, cultural conditioning, and what it truly takes for South Asian women to reclaim their voice, worth, and leadership.

Aman shares her transformation journey from working in events and a beauty salon to becoming a life coach and speaker. She discusses how addressing self-doubt and cultural conditioning led her to develop a unique methodology that integrates mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual wellness. 

Serving predominantly South Asian women, Aman highlights the importance of self-investment, breaking cultural barriers, the impact of family upbringing and the significance of building a supportive community. 

She is also hosting Unlocked Live, a powerful in-person event for South Asian women on January 17th designed to be a true line-in-the-sand moment for visibility, voice, and leadership.

If you’ve ever felt torn between your vision and who you were conditioned to be  this episode will meet you exactly where you are.

On the show…

• Aman's path from events management and beauty therapy to becoming a speaker and coach.
• How self-doubt and people-pleasing quietly shape women’s decisions and confidence
• Why South Asian women often struggle with visibility, boundaries, and prioritising themselves
• The impact of cultural conditioning on ambition, money, success, and self-expression
• How nervous system safety plays a role in self-sabotage and playing small
• The moment Aman realised she was meant to work specifically with South Asian women
• Why healing yourself ripples through your children, family, and future generations
• Reclaiming spirituality, intuition, and authenticity without shame
• What it means to truly unlock your voice.

Connect with Aman

• Instagram: @amansunnerunlocked
• Podcast: Finding Your Worth from Within 

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In this episode of The Tune In podcast, hosted by Kavita Golia, guest Dorota Cloke a nutritionist and biohacker, delves into the concept of biohacking and metabolic flexibility. 

Dorota explains her approach to health, which includes individual client consultations, corporate workshops, and a fasting community called Global Fast that meets every two months for a three-day fasting period. 

The discussion explores the basics of biohacking, including the importance of tracking biological metrics to improve health, and stresses making biohacking accessible. 

We also cover the significance of sleep, balanced nutrition, and less expensive ways to implement biohacking practices into daily life.

Additionally, Dorota highlights the need for personalised health strategies, the importance of hydration, and proper detoxification, and shares her personal experiences and health insights.

00:00 Welcome to The Tune In Podcast

00:18 Meet the Biohacker: Deta Cloak's Introduction

02:42 The Concept of Biohacking Explained

05:18 Longevity vs. Health Span

10:30 The Importance of Listening to Your Body

13:33 Understanding HRV and Its Implications

16:16 The Role of Glutathione in Detoxification

20:16 Making Biohacking Accessible and Affordable

24:26 Understanding Personal Health Tracking

24:38 Optimizing Sleep and Diet for Better Health

26:33 Balancing Lifestyle and Health Goals

28:51 Incorporating Small, Consistent Health Practices

31:38 The Benefits and Challenges of Fasting

34:28 Exploring Biohacking and Longevity

38:21 The Importance of Wellness Awareness

39:31 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

You can find Dorota on

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thefeelhumanclub/

Website https://feel-human.com/

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In this episode of the Tune In Podcast, I chat with self-mastery coach and founder of Plight Club, Adam Slawson.

They discuss the concept of emotional expression and deconditioning from parental and social programming. Adam shares his personal experiences and insights on the transformative power of emotional mastery.

Adam introduces the LAM method, which stands for Liberate, Acceptance, and Magnetism, emphasising the importance of noticing and accepting emotions.

We dive into topics like anxiety, anger, and the role of vulnerability in personal growth and relationships. 

The conversation highlights Plight Club's mission to foster emotional expression through coaching, events like the Emotion Pit and Rage Rave, and community-building. 

We also touch on the potential of bringing these practices into schools and prisons to promote emotional education!

00:00 Welcome and Introductions

00:45 Adam's Journey and Plight Club

01:14 Understanding Self-Mastery and Conditioning

02:04 The LAMB Method Explained

02:31 Dealing with Emotions and Anxiety

05:44 The Importance of Guidance and Community

13:23 Manifestation and Consciousness

19:28 Emotional Expression and Practices

24:05 A Life-Changing Realization

24:25 The Impact of Anger and Rage

25:14 Plight Club: A Movement for Change

25:31 Fashion with a Purpose

26:13 Understanding Emotions and Gender

27:15 The Importance of Emotional Expression

27:38 Creating Safe Spaces for Vulnerability

30:12 The Role of Authenticity in Relationships

37:17 The Journey to Emotional Mastery

39:39 The Power of Self-Awareness

45:03 Trust and Fear: Building Blocks of Change

45:55 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

You can find Adam via Instagram 

Or via his website https://adamslawson.com/

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Rachael Welford — Founder of Happy Habits Club & Host of Things I Wish I’d Know

In this powerful and heart-expanding episode, Kavita is joined by emotional wellbeing expert Rachel Welford, who shares her journey from burnout, PTSD and depression to becoming a leading voice in mental wellness. From silent meditations and EFT tapping to starting over after breakdown, Rachel’s story is full of honest truth bombs, uplifting takeaways, and a beautiful reminder that nothing about you is broken.

You’ll hear us talk about:

• Rachel’s rock-bottom moment and the raw truth of mental health recovery
• How Happy Habits Club was born out of small daily practices
• The myth of perfection and why progress always wins
• Her approach to navigating ADHD and chronic fatigue
• The inspiration behind her book Review, Release, Renew
• Building a well-being practice that doesn’t burn you out
• Reclaiming joy.

You can connect with Rachael 

• Rachael Welford’s Website
• Follow Rachel on Instagram
• Things I Wish I’d Known Podcast
• Upcoming Book: Review, Release, Renew: Fuck Work-Life Balance – Build a Life You Don’t Need a Break From* (Autumn 2025)

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In this episode of the Tune.In podcast, I am joined by Jemma Hardelle a therapist specialising in the LGBTQIA community, to discuss complex relationship dynamics. 

Jemma shares insights from her five-year therapeutic journey, focusing on gender, sex, and relationship diversity, including topics such as polyamory, monogamy, and the concept of 'monogamish' relationships. 

They explore the evolution of personal relationships over time, the importance of communication and boundary-setting, and how society's historical and cultural constructs influence modern relationship expectations. This thought-provoking conversation delves into attachment styles, the challenges and rewards of non-monogamous relationships, and practical steps for couples contemplating an open relationship. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their relationship preferences and the importance of vulnerability and honesty within their partnerships.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

00:18 Gemma's Therapeutic Journey

01:39 Redefining Relationship Structures

04:01 Attachment Styles and Relationship Dynamics

07:52 Exploring Polyamory and Commitment

09:42 Challenges and Growth in Non-Monogamous Relationships

16:31 Historical Context of Monogamy

20:30 Applying Polyamorous Principles to Monogamous Relationships

31:24 Navigating Open Relationship Discussions

39:12 Conclusion and Contact Information

You can find Jemma via her Instagram

Or her website 

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With over 3 decades of practical experience, Bhavini has long been an ambassador of the spiritual side of life. A highly sought after spiritual teacher, she began formally teaching in 2010 with the International Art of Living foundation, curated the renowned Mind Body Spirit UK Festivals, and now consults for the spiritual and wellbeing industry.

Bhavini has a longstanding and deep relationship with meditation, devotional practices. She is a devotional singer and a wellness consultant and I loved learning about her experiences and depth of knowledge.

You can find Bhavini via her website https://www.bhavinivyas.com/

or her Instagram

You can find me on IG at https://www.instagram.com/kat_golia
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