You’re allowed to say, “I don’t know… yet.”

In this Christmas Day episode of Tutum Talk, Cara gently challenges one of the most exhausting leadership myths: that credibility comes from having all the answers. Instead, we explore how vulnerability builds trust, how asking thoughtful questions can be more powerful than certainty, and why releasing the pressure to “know” can create deeper connection with yourself and the people you lead.

Drawing inspiration from A Course in Miracles, which teaches that Love is the only true reality and that Christmas is a sacred invitation to remember and live that truth, this episode invites leaders to soften, slow down, and lead from presence rather than perfection.

If leadership has felt heavy, uncertain, or lonely lately, this episode is a reminder: you don’t have to figure it all out alone - and you don’t have to have it all figured out at all.

Leadership often comes with an unspoken expectation: know the answers, be certain, don’t waver.
But what if that pressure is doing more harm than good?

In this reflective, Christmas Day conversation, Cara explores how grounded honesty, curiosity, and love create stronger leadership than certainty ever could.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why saying “I don’t know… yet” can actually strengthen your credibility
• How vulnerability builds trust without oversharing or self-doubt
• The difference between confidence and control in leadership
• Why asking the right questions can be more impactful than providing quick answers
• A Christmas reflection inspired by A Course in Miracles: Love as the foundation of leadership
• How releasing the need to have everything figured out creates psychological safety and connection

This episode is especially for leaders who:

• Feel pressure to always be the steady one
• Are navigating uncertainty or transition
• Want to lead with authenticity, not performance
• Are craving a calmer, more compassionate way forward

As always, Tutum Talk is a space to breathe, reflect, and remember - you are not alone in this work, and you are not doing it wrong.

✨ If this episode resonates, you’re warmly invited to connect with Cara one-on-one. Click the “Let’s Connect” button on the Tutum Leadership Coaching website to schedule time for individual leadership coaching and support.

Wishing you a Christmas rooted in love, presence, and belonging - wherever you are listening from.

About Tutum Talk:

Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection.

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In this episode, Cara reflects on the quiet truth many leaders carry: caring deeply doesn’t mean carrying everything.

Boundaries are often mistaken for being cold or unkind, especially for leaders who value connection, psychological safety, and trust. But without boundaries, burnout grows, clarity fades, and teams struggle to build confidence and ownership.

This episode explores how boundaries:

• Protect your energy without disconnecting you from your people
• Create clarity that builds trust and psychological safety
• Help teams grow confidence instead of dependence
• Support sustainable, grounded leadership

You’ll also hear a gentle reminder that over-functioning isn’t generosity - it’s a signal that something in the system needs care.

Whether you’re navigating leadership fatigue, decision bottlenecks, or the pressure to always be available, this episode offers a compassionate reframe: boundaries are not rejection - they are protection.

Cara closes with gratitude for listeners, warm Chanukah wishes, and an open invitation to connect for additional support.

Reflective Questions from This Episode

• Where am I saying yes out of fear instead of alignment?
• What boundary would support my leadership right now?
• What might shift if clarity replaced overextension?

Let’s Connect

If this episode resonates and you’d like support setting clear, compassionate boundaries in your leadership, you’re invited to connect with Cara one-on-one.

Click the “Let’s Connect” button on the Tutum Leadership Coaching website to schedule time together. You don’t have to navigate leadership alone.

About Tutum Talk:

Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection.

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Being the one who “always steps up” may look like leadership on the surface - but when it’s rooted in fear, urgency, or over-responsibility, it comes with a cost. In this episode, Cara gently unpacks the hidden pattern of over-functioning and offers a grounded path back to clarity, shared ownership, and sustainable leadership.

If you’ve been carrying more than your share - quietly, automatically, and often without acknowledgment - this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we explore:

• What over-functioning actually is - and why high-capacity leaders fall into it
• The hidden emotional and systemic roots of over-responsibility
• How over-functioning affects team trust, growth, and collaboration
• The personal cost: burnout, resentment, loss of clarity, and constant urgency
• Small, sustainable ways to step back without stepping away
• How shared leadership creates stronger teams - and healthier leaders

This episode is especially for leaders who:

• Are tired from being “the reliable one”
• Struggle to delegate without guilt
• Carry more than their share at work or at home
• Worry that everything depends on them
• Feel guilty even thinking about letting go
• Know something has to change, but don’t know how to begin

Key takeaways:

• Over-functioning may feel noble, but it’s not sustainable
• Being needed is not the same as being valued
• Leadership rooted in fear or urgency isn’t leadership - it’s survival
• Shared clarity and shared ownership are essential for team growth
• You deserve a leadership experience that doesn’t drain you

If this episode felt familiar or touched something tender, you’re not alone. Many leaders carry quiet emotional weight behind the scenes. If you’re ready to shift these patterns in yourself or your team, click the “Let’s Connect” button on the Tutum Leadership Coaching website to schedule time with Cara for one-on-one coaching.

You don’t have to lead from exhaustion. Support is here.

About Tutum Talk:

Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection.

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In this episode:
Cara explores the power of grounded leadership and how calm can become an anchor for teams experiencing stress, uncertainty, or overwhelm. Through reflection, practical examples, and actionable tools, this conversation helps leaders reclaim their presence and step into steady, emotionally intelligent leadership.

We cover:
• The myth that loud or high-energy leaders are “stronger” leaders
• Why grounded calm is a strategic advantage in today’s workplace
• What calm looks like in real, everyday leadership moments
• The inner work required to cultivate calm from the inside out
• How to respond when calm feels inaccessible or out of reach
• The ripple effect calm has on team culture and psychological safety
• A reflection moment to help you identify where calm is most needed in your leadership

This episode is for you if:
• You’ve been told you’re “too quiet” or “too calm”
• You often feel responsible for regulating the room
• You’re tired of absorbing everyone else’s urgency
• You want to lead with more clarity, steadiness, and emotional stability
• You’re ready to strengthen your grounded presence as a leader

 If this episode spoke to you, I’d love to support you more personally.
 👉 Click “Let’s Connect” on the Tutum Leadership Coaching website to schedule 1:1 coaching support - especially if you’re craving more calm, clarity, or confidence in your leadership journey.

Thank you for listening.
Your presence here matters.
Your calm is needed.
And you’re not leading alone - you have community here.

About Tutum Talk:

Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection.

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Self-trust isn’t something you lose overnight. It thins slowly, softened by pressure, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and the weight of being responsible for others. But your inner voice - the one that used to feel clear and steady - hasn’t disappeared. It’s waiting for you to return to it.

In this heartfelt Thanksgiving episode, Cara explores what happens when leaders disconnect from their instincts, how to recognize the moments where self-trust is missing, and the small, meaningful steps that bring you back to your own grounded knowing.

Whether today feels joyful, complicated, or lonely, this episode offers a warm reminder: you’re not behind - you’re becoming. And you don’t have to walk that path alone.

In this episode, we explore:

• How self-trust quietly erodes for heart-led leaders
• Why environments and expectations can drown out your inner voice
• The difference between a pause rooted in clarity vs. fear
• The three everyday moments that reveal whether you’re trusting yourself
• How your instincts and strengths work together as a reliable internal compass
• Five practical ways to rebuild self-trust through micro-bravery, alignment, and truth-telling
• A Thanksgiving reflection to help you honor where you’ve been and where you’re becoming

Who this episode is for:

Leaders who feel unsure, overwhelmed, emotionally drained, or disconnected from their own intuition - especially during a holiday season that can amplify loneliness, expectations, and invisible emotional labor.

A gentle reminder:

The holidays can feel lonely - even for leaders. If this episode stirred something in you, or if you’re realizing how much you’ve been holding quietly:  You don’t have to hold it alone.
Click the “Let’s Connect” button on the Tutum Leadership Coaching website to schedule a 1:1 coaching conversation with Cara.

About Tutum Talk:

Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection.

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What if the heaviness you’re feeling isn’t a sign that you’re failing - but a sign that you’re healing something much bigger than you? In this episode, we explore the truth most heart-led leaders have never been told: discomfort is often evidence of transformation, not inadequacy.

If you’ve been questioning yourself, carrying inherited dysfunction, or wondering why your leadership feels so exhausting, this conversation will help you reframe what resistance really means. You may not be the cause of the struggle… you may be the one breaking the cycle.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why reflective, emotionally intelligent leaders are quick to blame themselves
• How organizational resistance can actually be a sign of healthy transformation
• The difference between being “the problem” and being “the pattern-breaker”
• Signs you’re carrying weight that was never yours to hold
• Why discomfort often shows up when you’re healing inherited dysfunction
• How self-awareness, boundaries, and inner work reshape the systems around you
• A compassionate reframe for leaders who feel alone in their struggle

This episode is for you if:

• You’re tired, stretched thin, or carrying more emotional labor than feels fair
• You’re questioning your leadership, your decisions, or your impact
• You inherited a team, culture, or system that wasn’t built with clarity
• You’re trying to shift old patterns, even when it feels uncomfortable
• You’ve been wondering, quietly, “Is it me?”

Key takeaway:
You’re not failing. You’re evolving.
And sometimes the person who feels the most pressure is the one doing the most healing.

If this message resonates with your heart or your leadership journey, I’d love to support you.
Click the “Let’s Connect” button here or on the Tutum Leadership Coaching website to schedule a one-on-one conversation with me. Sometimes the next step isn’t pushing through - it’s receiving support.

About Tutum Talk:

Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection.

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Sometimes leadership asks more of you than you ever signed up for.
You don’t just inherit a title - you inherit unspoken expectations, emotional labor, and systems that were never yours to fix alone.

In this grounding, compassionate episode, Cara explores the invisible weight leaders carry and why so many heart-led leaders quietly blame themselves for burdens that don’t belong to them. Through reflection, honesty, and gentle release, this episode invites you to finally set down what’s not yours… and reclaim the clarity and breath you deserve.

If you’ve been feeling tired in a way sleep doesn’t fix, this conversation will speak directly to your soul.

🌿 Show Notes

In This Episode, We Explore:

• The hidden expectations leaders unintentionally inherit
• Why emotional labor in leadership goes unacknowledged
• How outdated systems become one person’s responsibility
• The cost of over-functioning and carrying other people’s work
• The difference between caring and carrying
• How to identify what belongs to you - and what never did
• A grounding moment to release what’s been weighing you down

This episode is for leaders who feel:

• Overwhelmed by inherited dysfunction
• Responsible for everyone’s feelings or morale
• Pulled into roles they never agreed to
• Tired from carrying the emotional climate of the team
• Unsure how to put something down without letting people down

About Tutum Talk:

Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection.

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You’re not the only one lying awake wondering if your decisions are helping or hurting.

This episode is a love letter to the hidden network of heart-led leaders doing the work behind the scenes - the ones whose leadership is steady, grounded, and deeply felt even when it’s not loud.

Cara invites you to explore the power of quiet community: the invisible web of influence built through presence, not performance. Together, we’ll unpack what it means to lead with calm, build trust in uncertain times, and create cultures of psychological safety where people feel seen and supported. 

You’ll be reminded that quiet doesn’t mean small - it means intentional. And that your leadership, even when unseen, is shaping lives more than you know.

If you’re ready to lead with more clarity, compassion, and confidence, visit TutumLeadershipCoaching.com and click “Let’s Connect” to schedule a conversation with Cara. You don’t have to lead alone - and you don’t have to lead loud to make an impact.

💭 Reflection Prompts for Listeners

• Who in your world embodies quiet leadership? What can you learn from the way they move through challenge?
• When have you underestimated your own influence because it didn’t look “loud enough”?
• How might you honor your quiet leadership this week—through rest, boundaries, or a small act of connection?

🔗 Connect with Cara

• Website: www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com

• LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/caranance

• Instagram: @tutumleadershipcoaching

About Tutum Talk:

Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection.

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Were you born to lead - or just the one who couldn’t walk away?

In this episode of Tutum Talk, Cara Nance challenges the myth that real leaders are “naturals” who never doubt, struggle, or fail. Together, we explore what it really means to lead from truth instead of performance - and why vulnerability isn’t weakness, but a living example of courage.

You’ll discover how authentic leadership invites trust, strengthens teams, and creates cultures where people feel safe to show up as their full selves.

Because the best leaders aren’t born - they’re becoming.

🎧 Tune in for a grounded conversation about the invisible labor of leadership, the power of authenticity, and how modeling vulnerability transforms teams from the inside out.

💬 Key Takeaways

• Leadership isn’t about being natural - it’s about being authentic.
• The emotional and invisible labor of leadership deserves to be recognized and honored.
• Vulnerability is strength; it’s the foundation of psychological safety and trust.
• Teams thrive when leaders model honesty, not perfection.
• True leadership is less about control and more about connection.

🪞 Reflective Prompt for Listeners

Where in your leadership are you performing instead of connecting?
What might shift if you allowed your true self to take the lead?

💡 Shareable Quote

If this episode resonated with you, share it with another leader who might need this reminder: authenticity isn’t the opposite of strength - it is strength.  To explore strengths-based leadership coaching or team retreats, visit tutumleadershipcoaching.com and click “Let’s Connect.”

About Tutum Talk:

Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection.

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Every leader experiences moments when confidence feels far away - the pause before you speak, the hesitation before you act, the question that stirs up doubt. In this episode, Cara Nance unpacks what confidence really means in leadership, and how to rebuild it from the inside out.

Rather than chasing confidence as a fixed state, Cara invites you to see it as a relationship with yourself - one built through honesty, recovery, and trust.

Through reflective storytelling, gentle guidance, and a strengths-based lens, this episode offers a grounded path back to self-trust and presence in your leadership.

💡 In This Episode:

• The Myth of Effortless Confidence - why no one actually feels 100% sure all the time
• Small Brave Moments - how courage grows in quiet, everyday choices
• Why Confidence Feels Unnatural at First - the stretch that signals growth, not failure
• Trust Before Confidence - a reframe that changes everything
• A Strengths-Based Approach - how knowing your CliftonStrengths® helps you lead like you

🪴 Reflection Prompt

Confidence doesn’t always announce itself.
Sometimes it whispers: keep going.

🤝 Want to Go Deeper?

If this conversation resonated with you and you’d like more support in building confidence and clarity as a leader, click the “Let’s Connect” button at tutumleadershipcoaching.com to schedule time with Cara.  Together, you’ll explore how to lead from your strengths - and trust yourself in the moments that matter most.

🔗 Connect with Cara

• Website: tutumleadershipcoaching.com

• LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/caranance

• Coaching: Explore 1:1 and team coaching rooted in trust, clarity, and strengths-based leadership.

About Tutum Talk:

Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection.

Music provided by Music_Unlimited