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Type Two Lover
Are You a Type Two Lover? The Power of the Hopeless Romantic
What does it mean to be a “ride-or-die” partner? In our most recent broadcast, Stan Shelby breaks down the characteristics of the Type 2 lover—the generous, intuitive, and affectionate partner who thrives on being needed and loved.
Key Characteristics of the Type Two Lover
The “Ride-or-Die” Companion: Inspired by the Fast & Furious movies, Stan explains that Type 2s are in it for the long haul. They provide a “soft place to land” for their spouses and offer unwavering encouragement.
Highly Intuitive: A Type 2 often knows what their partner needs before the partner even realizes it. Stan shares how Cynthia often senses his needs and steps in with advice or a plan exactly when he needs it most.
Warm and Affectionate: This type isn’t shy about showing love. They are demonstrative and passionate, seeking deep intimacy in both daily life and the bedroom.
The Extroverted Adventurer: Type 2s are often energized by social interaction and new experiences. They are the ones initiating conversations with strangers and looking for the next big adventure.
The Challenge: Fear and Boundaries
Being a Type 2 isn’t without its hurdles. Stan points out two major areas of struggle for this group:
Fear of Rejection: Because they give so much of themselves, their biggest fear is feeling unwanted or unloved. This can lead to “people-pleasing” behavior.
Lack of Boundaries: By focusing so heavily on the needs of others, Type 2s can often neglect themselves, leading to burnout or feeling unappreciated.
Putting in the “Wrench Work”
Stan uses a great analogy for marriage: The Wrench Work. Just like a mechanic spends hours under the hood to make a car beautiful and functional, a husband or wife must put in the time and research to make a marriage thrive.
For Stan, this means supporting Cynthia’s “quest” to see every major landmark in the U.S. While Stan might not care about every waterfall, he knows that going on these adventures “blesses her”—and when she is blessed, the whole relationship wins.
“You’ve got to put some time in; you’ve got to put the wrench work in.”
Final Thought: Completing, Not Competing
The goal of understanding these types isn’t to judge one another, but to see where we can complete each other. Where one is weak, the other is strong. When we align our differences according to the blueprint of God’s Word, we become a “solid force.”
Do you have a “ride-or-die” partner, or are you the one always planning the next big road trip? Stay tuned as we explore Type 3 in our next episode!
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By Stan and Cynthia ShelbyAre You a Type Two Lover? The Power of the Hopeless Romantic
What does it mean to be a “ride-or-die” partner? In our most recent broadcast, Stan Shelby breaks down the characteristics of the Type 2 lover—the generous, intuitive, and affectionate partner who thrives on being needed and loved.
Key Characteristics of the Type Two Lover
The “Ride-or-Die” Companion: Inspired by the Fast & Furious movies, Stan explains that Type 2s are in it for the long haul. They provide a “soft place to land” for their spouses and offer unwavering encouragement.
Highly Intuitive: A Type 2 often knows what their partner needs before the partner even realizes it. Stan shares how Cynthia often senses his needs and steps in with advice or a plan exactly when he needs it most.
Warm and Affectionate: This type isn’t shy about showing love. They are demonstrative and passionate, seeking deep intimacy in both daily life and the bedroom.
The Extroverted Adventurer: Type 2s are often energized by social interaction and new experiences. They are the ones initiating conversations with strangers and looking for the next big adventure.
The Challenge: Fear and Boundaries
Being a Type 2 isn’t without its hurdles. Stan points out two major areas of struggle for this group:
Fear of Rejection: Because they give so much of themselves, their biggest fear is feeling unwanted or unloved. This can lead to “people-pleasing” behavior.
Lack of Boundaries: By focusing so heavily on the needs of others, Type 2s can often neglect themselves, leading to burnout or feeling unappreciated.
Putting in the “Wrench Work”
Stan uses a great analogy for marriage: The Wrench Work. Just like a mechanic spends hours under the hood to make a car beautiful and functional, a husband or wife must put in the time and research to make a marriage thrive.
For Stan, this means supporting Cynthia’s “quest” to see every major landmark in the U.S. While Stan might not care about every waterfall, he knows that going on these adventures “blesses her”—and when she is blessed, the whole relationship wins.
“You’ve got to put some time in; you’ve got to put the wrench work in.”
Final Thought: Completing, Not Competing
The goal of understanding these types isn’t to judge one another, but to see where we can complete each other. Where one is weak, the other is strong. When we align our differences according to the blueprint of God’s Word, we become a “solid force.”
Do you have a “ride-or-die” partner, or are you the one always planning the next big road trip? Stay tuned as we explore Type 3 in our next episode!