Kuldrin’s Krypt: A BDSM 101 Podcast

S01E30-Types of BDSM Dominants

October 13, 2017

Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we are going to talk about types of Doms but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.
Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.
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Rules to Love by:
Safe, sane, consensual, informed
KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity
“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
I like my definitions as always but I feel like we’re going to be defining and exploring several types of Doms and Dommes today. How about we start off we what a dominant is and build from there, Funsize?
A dominant is someone who is inherently drawn to taking a role of power and control over others, through means of consent. There’s actually a quote here from husdom.com that explains dominants excellently, “Being a Dominant has nothing in common with being domineering, in fact one is a contradiction of the other. A respectful dominant does not rule arbitrary, based on choice or that of a personal whim. A Dominant does not posses an unbridled supremacy or limitless power.” (https://husdom.com/dominant-gentleman/)
Before we begin to delve into each type of Dom out there, I would like to point out that you can be more than one type, even within the span of a single scene, and that’s perfectly normal and okay.
Types of Dominants
A top is a person who takes control during a scene.
What makes a top different from the typical dominant? A top may be in charge for a scene, while a dominant is someone who will take control outside of a scene as well.
Femdoms
Let’s quickly break the stereotype that Femdoms or Dommes have to be ‘hard,’ in order to be in control. It’s an absolute myth and one that often pressures women into pushing those who bottom to them too hard and can lead to serious injury.
Findom A dominant who asks their submissives to send them tributes in money or (usually) expensive gifts as part of their submission. They also control other financial aspects of their subs’ lives.
More than once Kuldrin has suggested this for me, but uh… I’m not sure how I feel about it. And there have been certain organizations that have openly taken a stand against findoms within our community. I believe Vanilla Umbrella is one such organization. We’ll be doing a further episode on financial domination later on, so let us know what your thoughts are on this matter.
Masters and Mistress refers to a dominant who has either mastered a craft or technique of BDSM, or has an active slave under their control
We’ve talked more than once on and off mic about what makes a Master or Mistress, in this case we’re talking about those who have active submissives or slaves looking up to them and finding them worthy of such titles.
Gentlemen and Ladies are dominants who behave in...