In this episode, Sam and James are joined by Dan Ostler to discuss their recent experiences at Warrior Heart Boot Camp. Sam shares a powerful, God-orchestrated moment of healing where confronting shame led to emotional breakthrough and support from God and his brothers.

The trio highlight Warrior Heart Boot Camp, the best resource for sexual addiction recovery, and how unplugging in the mountains for three days with Christ fosters healing. They also mention Glory and Heart of a Woman as equivalent programs for women.

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Timestamps:

01:25 Why Warrior Heart Matters

01:53 Divine Masculinity Breakdown

04:19 God Orchestrates the Prayer

07:12 Boot Camp Changes Recovery

08:28 Dan’s Boot Camp Journey

09:53 How Dan Invites Men

13:51 Why We Share What Heals

15:35 What Makes It Safe

18:53 Sam’s Prayer and Marriage Struggles

20:34 Call to Action Scholarships

21:49 Final Testimonies and Offer

In this episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Mason and Sam welcome Mike Farr, a rock photographer, Spartan racer, husband to Jenny, and father to Wesley. Mike shares how his father leaving early, conflict with a stepfather, and feeling unlovable fueled a “character” that chased acceptance through music, drugs, escalating sexual behavior, and crime. He describes immersion in the late ’60s–’80s music scene, cocaine dealing, and eventual heroin addiction, repeated arrests, rehab attempts, and a Salvation Army program that helped him rebuild sobriety and career. After a six-year relapse, an overdose coma, and another arrest, he surrendered, returned to meetings, and found sustained recovery and service, including coaching sobriety on the Vans Warped Tour, framing God as his Father and a source of healing.

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00:43 Recovery Check In
02:34 Introducing Mike Farr
04:03 How We Met
05:23 Childhood Wounds
07:49 Music And Drugs
12:08 Sex Addiction Escalates
15:54 God And Fatherhood
19:40 Tahoe Marriage Fallout
20:19 Stevie Ray Vaughan Wakeup
21:52 Wicked Wanda
22:34 Heroin Hooked and Sick
24:07 Intervention and Jail
26:00 Rehab Fail and Rick
28:02 Tank Talk and Release Mistake
30:33 Salvation Army Turnaround
32:35 Relapse
33:45 Overdose and Two Week Coma
37:23 Surrender
39:30 God's Tender Mercy
43:06 Service Life and Father God
45:14 Closing Song

Sam shares a previously unreleased conversation with Chris and Joshua about gratitude in recovery and healing through Christ. They discuss how gratitude helps overcome shame, challenges entitlement, and creates lasting change, while sharing personal stories of recovery, relationships, and faith.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Lost Clip Intro

00:56 Welcome and Gratitude Banter

01:21 Sam on God and Grace

02:13 Chris Gratitude List

03:06 Hair Talk Break

03:39 Why Gratitude Helps Recovery

05:01 Opposite of Gratitude

06:10 Entitlement vs Gods Love

06:49 Daily Gratitude Text Habit

10:10 Gratitude Journal Practice

11:41 Autumns Three Things

13:56 Three Things Challenge

15:04 Tag Us and Wrap Up

In this story episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Sam and Mason interview Cam, a BYU construction management student preparing to commission as a combat engineer officer. He tells how his porn addiction grew out of achievement pressure, comparison with high-achieving siblings, and deep shame. After moving frequently and living in a high-performance community, Cam internalized “you’re stupid,” then attended a harmful youth program that taught him to see sexuality as evil and God as vengeful. Family stress, his dad losing a job, not getting into West Point, and later COVID intensified depression and escalated acting out, including on his mission. Through honest disclosure, therapy, sponsors, and “rescuing little Cam” with connection, self-care, and patience, Cam’s view of God shifted to a loving, patient healer, and with support from his wife he now reports 15 months sober and a renewed sense of purpose.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome and UCAP Update

01:41 Meet Cam

02:31 Pressure and Shame Growing Up

04:23 Porn Exposure and Toxic Program

06:22 Family Stress and West Point Collapse

08:55 Rock Bottom and Escalation

09:42 Mission Struggles and God Image

12:28 Therapy and Finding Little Cam

16:04 Healing Through Pain and Self Care

19:41 Relationships and Marriage Safety

22:18 A New View of God

25:19 Your Own Recovery

This episode explores the emotional impact of criticism and how unresolved shame can fuel relapse in recovery. Sam shares a personal experience of being hurt by a negative review, which triggered old beliefs and led to a setback, while highlighting the importance of connection over isolation. Chris centers his comments on the concept of repair, taking accountability, seeking forgiveness, and asking others what healing looks like for them. Chris emphasizes that true repair is ultimately demonstrated through consistent change and living in alignment with one’s values. Lasting recovery is rooted in rebuilding trust, fostering connection, and pursuing ongoing personal growth.

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In Part III of our series with returning guest Roxy Johnson, author of Forgotten in the Battle with Sexual Addiction, we dive deep into the role boundaries play in healing relationships impacted by sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Roxy brings powerful insight and hard-earned wisdom on how boundaries protect peace, create honesty, and invite real recovery. Jasmine and Sam also open up about their own journey, discussing how surrendering a spouse to God while taking responsibility for yourself can transform a marriage. This conversation challenges the belief that boundaries are selfish and shows why healthy conflict can actually be a sign that healing is happening. If you or someone you love is navigating recovery, this episode offers practical hope, courage, and direction.

Forgotten in the Battle With Sexual Addiction: The Journey of a Spouse

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In part two of the Unashamed, Unafraid series, the hosts discuss becoming unafraid to come unto Christ for healing in sexual addiction recovery by first learning who God truly is. He is kind, loving, forgiving, and relentless rather than judgmental. They explore how shame, secrecy, and “shame goggles” distort church, relationships, and one’s view of God, creating fear that keeps people from seeking healing. Chris shares a financial secrecy that nearly ended his marriage and how turning to God helped him accept support and accountability. Sam admits coasting in “manageable” relapse and delaying deeper healing. James identifies fear of God’s hard answers and commits to daily stillness, honesty, and obedience as a path to identity change and lasting recovery.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome Back and Series Setup
02:08 Who God Really Is
03:41 Shame Goggles and Safe Spaces
06:20 Chris Financial Shame Story
10:31 Sam Coasting in Recovery
12:23 Peter in The Chosen Lesson
15:16 James Afraid of the Answer
18:49 Commitments
24:12 Wrap Up and Accountability

Chris and Sam sit down with Ryan Carnahan from King’s Core to explore the deeper layers of addiction recovery. From relapse and discouragement to identity shifts and emotional resilience, this conversation dives into what actually creates lasting change. Ryan shares his personal 15-year journey through pornography addiction, the turning points that led to healing, and the core framework he now uses to help other men break free. Together, they unpack the difference between surface-level sobriety and true transformation—highlighting the role of identity, community, and mindset in recovery.

Free resources from Ryan here:

kings-core.com/coaching-discovery-call
kings-core.com/are-you-the-man-you-want-to-be-assessment
skool.com/kings-core-9726/about?ref=1799799b641c438eb9c78eeb7805c734
https://www.kings-core.com/emotions-are-superpowers-training

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Sam, Chris, and James discuss what it means to be “unashamed” in sexual addiction recovery. Shame thrives in secrecy, silence, and judgment and that speaking openly breaks isolation. They explore how context and boundaries matter when sharing, distinguishing healthy vulnerability from “vomiting,” and noting that relapse often intensifies shame. Sam shares how he’s become able to admit recent relapse without spiraling, crediting safe community, repeated honest conversations, trauma therapy, and a spiritual experience that helped him accept he is still good even when he relapses. The group encourages listeners to cultivate emotionally safe relationships, face fear within that community, and find a personal “why” for living unashamed.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome and Series Setup

01:04 What Unashamed Means

02:33 Shame Thrives in Silence

05:14 Sharing With Boundaries

07:00 Sobriety and Confidence

09:10 Sam Journey to Openness

11:12 God Moment Breakthrough

12:53 How to Get Unashamed

18:14 Cultivating Safe Community

19:27 Find Your Why

22:37 Brotherhood and Acceptance

25:24 Closing and Support the Show

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Sam and Mason welcome Drew Boa, author of Outgrow Porn and founder of Husband Material Ministries, who explains inner child work as understanding sexual temptation and intolerable emotional pain as implicit “body memory” rather than mature adult desire. Drew shares how recognizing his own sexual imprinting and connecting it to childhood trauma replaced self-hatred with self-compassion and inviting Jesus into wounded places. Using the cave rescue documentary as an analogy, he outlines a process of locating, loving, and leading multiple “inner boys,” emphasizing connection over control, co-regulation, curiosity-based questions, and identifying attachment needs beneath cravings, framing porn as a pacifier and a protest while encouraging courageous, hope-filled “redemptive risks.”

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https://www.drewboa.com/outgrow-porn 

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Timestamps:

00:00 Recovery Check In
03:23 Meet Drew Boa
06:01 What Is the Inner Child
09:10 Drew Story And Imprinting
12:33 Rescue The Boy Within
17:20 When Pain Triggers Relapse
21:14 Befriending Questions
23:55 Porn As Pacifier and a Protest
28:25 Face, Feel and Co Regulate
32:49 Hope And Redemptive Risk
34:32 Where To Find Drew
36:37 Wrap Up And Subscribe