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October is all about TAKING YOUR POWER BACK on The Unbreakable Wisdom Show, and we’re starting with something most of us do far more often than we realize…allowing what other people say and do to determine how WE feel and what we do next.

Someone says something you don’t like, behaves in a way you don’t understand or something doesn’t turn out the way you expected. You assign meaning to what happened, create a story around it and suddenly you’re emotionally reacting to something that may have very little to do with you.

In this episode, I’m talking about how to recognize when you’ve gotten hooked, why so many of our present-day reactions are connected to stories from our past and how creating a PAUSE gives us the freedom to choose a different response.

We get into emotional regulation, facts versus stories, boundaries, personal responsibility, white space and what it really takes to stop allowing other people’s behavior to dictate your emotional state.

I also talk about why you don’t have to answer every phone call or text the minute it arrives, why reinvention requires us to stop carrying old versions of ourselves forward and why some of us need to stop expecting gallon-sized responses from half-pint people. 😁

Your homework this week is to get curious about where you’re getting hooked. Who or what can immediately change your emotional state? What old story might you still be reacting to? Where are you giving away your power without even realizing it?

Let them do what they do. Then ask yourself…what will I do next?

That’s where your power is.

Your Relationship With Yourself: The Power of the Pause

September is all about RELATIONSHIPS on The Unbreakable Wisdom Show, and this week we’re talking about one of the most important relationships you will ever have…the relationship you have with yourself.

My guest Heather Carroll joins me for a conversation about emotional reactivity, learning to recognize what is happening in your body and creating enough space between what happens to you and how you respond.

We talk about those moments when something triggers you and you immediately want to react, defend yourself, shut down, people please or make a decision from an emotional state. Heather shares simple breathwork and grounding practices that can help interrupt that reaction and bring you back to center.

We also get into the importance of white space…something most of us have almost completely eliminated from our lives. Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is put down the phone, stop filling every available minute and give yourself enough quiet to think, process and simply BE.

One of my biggest takeaways from this conversation is that reactivity is never connected to your future self. It is always connected to your past self. If you want to move forward differently, learning how to pause, breathe, become aware of what is happening within you and respond from a more grounded place is a pretty powerful place to begin.

Plus, Heather and I both give you some homework you can start practicing immediately.

The Value of Connection: Why Relationships Matter

In this episode of The Unbreakable Wisdom Show, Melissa Gilbo joins me as we continue our September series on RELATIONSHIPS with a conversation about genuine human connection and why it matters more than ever.

We talk about the difference between simply meeting someone and intentionally building a relationship, why meaningful connection requires time and follow-through, and the small things that make people feel seen and remembered. From handwritten cards and unexpected phone calls to coffee conversations and simply checking in with someone when you need absolutely nothing from them…relationships are built through consistent moments of care.

We also get into the professional side of connection, including why your network matters, how to build relationships without leading with what you want, and why doing what you said you would do is one of the simplest ways to establish trust.

Behind almost everything we do in life is a relationship. The better we become at connecting with people, contributing to them and stewarding those relationships, the richer our personal AND professional lives become.

Plus…Melissa and I give you a couple of assignments for the week that might just brighten someone else’s day. ❤️

Good communication is at the foundation of every healthy relationship we have…personal, professional, romantic, family or friendship.

In this episode of The Unbreakable Wisdom Show, I’m talking about what clear communication really requires, including why assumptions create so many unnecessary problems, how the stories we make up influence the way we respond, why listening is about understanding rather than waiting for our turn to speak, and why emotional safety does not mean avoiding uncomfortable conversations.

We also get into something I think matters tremendously…learning to stop dragging the past into every new conversation. When we assume we already know what someone is going to say, how they are going to respond or what they meant, we don’t leave much room for anything new to happen.

Healthy relationships don’t require perfect communication. They require people willing to clarify instead of assume, listen instead of interpret, have the conversations that need to be had and repair things when communication breaks down.

Your decisions are either reinforcing your current reality or constructing your future.

Read that again.

This morning on The Unbreakable Wisdom Show, we wrapped up our August conversation about making better decisions.

Last show, we talked about mastering yourself before you make the decision—getting out of reaction and back to a place of peace.

Today, we talked about mastering the decision itself.

If you're facing a decision right now, ask yourself:

1. What am I trying to create with this decision?

2. How difficult would this decision be to reverse?

3. What am I saying NO to by saying YES to this?

4. Does this decision support the future I'm trying to build?

5. If this becomes uncomfortable after I decide, what would be a legitimate reason to reconsider?

And here's a big one:

Once you've made a sound decision, stop renegotiating with yourself.

Discomfort does not necessarily mean you made the wrong decision. Sometimes it simply means you're growing.

New facts? Reevaluate.

New discomfort? Keep moving.

Listen to today's show.

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In Week Three of our Prosperity Series, we explored the connection between forgiveness, release, and prosperity.

Many people are unknowingly spending valuable emotional energy replaying old hurts, old disappointments, old relationships, and old stories. The problem is that resentment consumes creative energy, making it difficult to fully focus on creating the future you want.

In this episode, we discussed why forgiveness is not about approving of what happened or reconciling with people who have hurt you. Forgiveness is about releasing the emotional charge so the past no longer has authority over your present.

The question at the heart of this week's lesson is:

What are you still spending emotional energy on that is no longer producing a return for you?

Prosperity requires making space for something new, and sometimes that begins by letting go of what no longer serves you.

In Week Two of our Prosperity Series, we explored the connection between our emotional state and our ability to prosper.

Changing your thoughts and changing your stories is important, but if you don't change how you feel, you'll eventually hit a ceiling. Your emotional set point influences your decisions, actions, relationships, resilience, and the opportunities you're able to recognize.

During this episode, we discussed the Emotional Guidance Scale and the importance of moving yourself to the next highest emotion rather than waiting for circumstances to change. Fear, worry, and overwhelm keep us stuck. Hope, optimism, contentment, and joy create momentum.

Your emotions are information, not your identity. Learning to manage them is one of the most important prosperity skills you'll ever develop.

This morning on Unbreakable Wisdom, we talked about one of the most powerful ideas in personal growth and prosperity: your assumptions become your reality.

Most people are trying to change their circumstances while still carrying around the same old stories, beliefs, and assumptions that created those circumstances in the first place. We talked about how to recognize those old narratives, release them, and consciously choose new assumptions that support the life, relationships, health, prosperity, and opportunities you actually want to create.

If you're feeling stuck, repeating old patterns, or wondering why certain results keep showing up in your life, this conversation is for you.

This morning's topic was stop dragging your past into the future. I talked about finding the old narratives that are under everything and running your life. Time to find them and rewrite those scripts.

This morning I asked people "what receiving mode are you in?"

Meaning are you sitting in the energy of your seeming problems or are you sitting in the energy of knowing that solutions are on the way???

We can't receive solutions sitting in the energy of the seeming difficulties.

This morning I gave you a framework to move yourself from the energy of the seeming problem into the energy of creating solutions.