Codependency has been a buzz word since the 1980s but what is it actually and how is it impacting our relationships? Today I speak with Vanessa Bennett who is an expert in this topic. 

She outlines how codependency research has evolved, generational trauma, desire types and we even unpack the patriarchy! This woman is incredible and we could have talked for hours. 

I can guarantee you will learn something life changing in this episode. So grab some tea, coffee or go on a walk because we are getting down and dirty! 

 

In this week’s episode, we discuss: 

[1:17] About Vanessa Bennett

[1:52] Vanessa and her husband’s new book, “It’s Not Me, It’s You”

[5:22] Codependency from Vanessa’s perspective 

[9:04] Codependency vs. hyper independence 

[11:08] Generational trauma 

[13:06] Tools people can use if they don’t have access to therapy 

[16:13] Attachment theory 

[20:02] Underfunctioning vs. Overfunctioning 

[25:06] Desire types 

[29:25] How the patriarchy has impacted men 

[32:55] What to do when you’re not feeling a relationship anymore

[38:36] What’s all this fuss about the spark in a relationship 

[43:06] How to stop self sabotaging and finder deeper connection 

[48:39] Advice for when starting a new relationship

[53:10] Vanessa’s favorite date 

 

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