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In this episode of the podcast Gavin is joined by Ros McMaster, author, psychic medium, transformational and spiritual counsellor, to talk about her career
You can donate to Gavin’s JustGiving page for The Ocean Cleanup by clicking here: https://bit.ly/3DRZefO
Donating through JustGiving is simple, fast and totally secure. Once you donate, they'll send your money directly to The Ocean Cleanup, so it's the most efficient way to give - saving time and cutting costs for the charity.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- In 2014 my 30-year marriage broke down and that sent me on the deepest of discoveries into myself and the role I’d played into the unhappiness that I’d created for so long. I’d spent a lot of years blaming my partner for all my misery (you might say rightly so, if you knew about all the toxicity within my marriage), but I had a role to play in that because of the choices I was making as I went along. For me, the real lived experience after my marriage broke down was where all the learning happened, not from books, not from what other people were saying, but from my lived experience. From my background in psychology I had the wisdom/knowhow of how to go back into my past to find where the negative self-talk began.
- I already had an internal voice from childhood saying it wasn’t safe to speak my truth. I grew up in a Catholic school and got hit by the nun teaching RE for asking what created God, so I learned that asking questions was dangerous. My mother was loving but was sensitive and didn’t like being questioned about things, so I learned to be quiet. This all affected my relationships into adulthood and made me feel miserable and unsatisfied and that I had no voice of my own. It’s not about blaming anybody, that’s just the way things were in those days, it’s about understanding where it all started and making a choice to choose differently now.
- I have a process called body scanning where if I feel a pain in my hips or legs for example (this is fear of moving forward) I breathe into that part of my body, with no other distractions, until I could feel that pain fully. I’d then drop myself into that pain and as I do I ask myself – my higher wisdom – what is it that I’m experiencing. The first thing that comes into your head is whatever the fear is that you’re experiencing (being invisible, financially insecure, whatever it is) then I ask what is it I need to do to change this. An affirmation or resolve with come to you and you should use that to put it into process.
- There’s a lot of sacrifices you have to make on the journey to self-love. But, once you’re on the other side and you’re living a life that’s fully from the heart, it doesn’t feel like a sacrifice anymore. You have to let go of some dreams, toxic relationships, you have to start doing things that bring you joy, you need to know what your values are, and you need to recognise when you’re doing things or being with people or in environments that go outside those values. Developing self-worth and self-love requires you to consciously give up a life that you’ve been living and start taking risks on and believing in yourself.
BEST MOMENTS
‘You can’t change the past, it’s done, but you can choose to change the present.’
‘Be mindful when negative thoughts happen, recognise when it’s happening and learn to observe the thoughts without engaging with them. Our minds and thoughts create emotions, not the other way around.’
‘Know your values, set boundaries around what your values are all help to change negative self-talk, as does a daily practice of gratitude. I’m sure it changes your cells at the DNA level and your life becomes abundant and you start looking for things that bring you joy and rejecting things that go against bringing you joy and serving your highest good.’
‘You need to let go of the life you thought you wanted in order to have the life you deserve.’
ABOUT THE GUEST
Ros McMaster:
After 30 emotionally abusive years together, my husband and I called it quits on our marriage. The separation triggered a deep need in me to investigate the role I played in attracting unhappiness into my life, and making the choice to abandon my own needs for so long. If I was ever to invite love into my life again, I needed to ensure that all the baggage I’d accumulated was unpacked, acknowledged, understood, and healed.
Armed with a psychology degree, and faith in my spirit team, I unpacked years of limiting self-beliefs and emotional trauma that had originated in my childhood, and throughout my adult life. What a blessing the separation turned out to be! Emerging on the other side of pain, I began embracing the lost part of myself , and moved more fully into unconditional love for self, and others. The deep levels of healing that I undertook, held me strong when I was later diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, then nursed my ex-husband until he passed away after his own diagnosis with cancer.
And now, I want to help you walk a path to healing and wholeness, so that you too can begin to love yourself. So that you too can attract the kind of love you desire to experience from others.
CONTACT METHODS
Website: https://www.rosmcmaster.com/
ABOUT THE HOST
Gavin Scott is a born entrepreneur with a passion for start up and scale up. He has over 20 years real estate experience in investment and development.
Gavin says: Over the years I have discovered that mindset is everything. Now, that might sound obvious, but it is! You see the number of awoken minds are very few in reality. Whilst acknowledging mindset is key it is absolutely different from utilising, influencing, impacting and effecting great change, for yourself, your loved ones, friends, colleagues and the wider public.
Why?
Like most of us I have had many ups and downs. I want to share the lessons learnt and promote a better environment for all, internally and externally!
How?
Through sharing my own experiences and hosting some fabulous individuals including some big household names to discuss key topics around mindset and the success formulas I hope the listener will become inspired to create space for change for betterment in their lives. I aim to inspire change by encouragement, not by force. I intend to inspire by education, not by regulation.
CONTACT METHODS
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By Gav ScottIn this episode of the podcast Gavin is joined by Ros McMaster, author, psychic medium, transformational and spiritual counsellor, to talk about her career
You can donate to Gavin’s JustGiving page for The Ocean Cleanup by clicking here: https://bit.ly/3DRZefO
Donating through JustGiving is simple, fast and totally secure. Once you donate, they'll send your money directly to The Ocean Cleanup, so it's the most efficient way to give - saving time and cutting costs for the charity.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- In 2014 my 30-year marriage broke down and that sent me on the deepest of discoveries into myself and the role I’d played into the unhappiness that I’d created for so long. I’d spent a lot of years blaming my partner for all my misery (you might say rightly so, if you knew about all the toxicity within my marriage), but I had a role to play in that because of the choices I was making as I went along. For me, the real lived experience after my marriage broke down was where all the learning happened, not from books, not from what other people were saying, but from my lived experience. From my background in psychology I had the wisdom/knowhow of how to go back into my past to find where the negative self-talk began.
- I already had an internal voice from childhood saying it wasn’t safe to speak my truth. I grew up in a Catholic school and got hit by the nun teaching RE for asking what created God, so I learned that asking questions was dangerous. My mother was loving but was sensitive and didn’t like being questioned about things, so I learned to be quiet. This all affected my relationships into adulthood and made me feel miserable and unsatisfied and that I had no voice of my own. It’s not about blaming anybody, that’s just the way things were in those days, it’s about understanding where it all started and making a choice to choose differently now.
- I have a process called body scanning where if I feel a pain in my hips or legs for example (this is fear of moving forward) I breathe into that part of my body, with no other distractions, until I could feel that pain fully. I’d then drop myself into that pain and as I do I ask myself – my higher wisdom – what is it that I’m experiencing. The first thing that comes into your head is whatever the fear is that you’re experiencing (being invisible, financially insecure, whatever it is) then I ask what is it I need to do to change this. An affirmation or resolve with come to you and you should use that to put it into process.
- There’s a lot of sacrifices you have to make on the journey to self-love. But, once you’re on the other side and you’re living a life that’s fully from the heart, it doesn’t feel like a sacrifice anymore. You have to let go of some dreams, toxic relationships, you have to start doing things that bring you joy, you need to know what your values are, and you need to recognise when you’re doing things or being with people or in environments that go outside those values. Developing self-worth and self-love requires you to consciously give up a life that you’ve been living and start taking risks on and believing in yourself.
BEST MOMENTS
‘You can’t change the past, it’s done, but you can choose to change the present.’
‘Be mindful when negative thoughts happen, recognise when it’s happening and learn to observe the thoughts without engaging with them. Our minds and thoughts create emotions, not the other way around.’
‘Know your values, set boundaries around what your values are all help to change negative self-talk, as does a daily practice of gratitude. I’m sure it changes your cells at the DNA level and your life becomes abundant and you start looking for things that bring you joy and rejecting things that go against bringing you joy and serving your highest good.’
‘You need to let go of the life you thought you wanted in order to have the life you deserve.’
ABOUT THE GUEST
Ros McMaster:
After 30 emotionally abusive years together, my husband and I called it quits on our marriage. The separation triggered a deep need in me to investigate the role I played in attracting unhappiness into my life, and making the choice to abandon my own needs for so long. If I was ever to invite love into my life again, I needed to ensure that all the baggage I’d accumulated was unpacked, acknowledged, understood, and healed.
Armed with a psychology degree, and faith in my spirit team, I unpacked years of limiting self-beliefs and emotional trauma that had originated in my childhood, and throughout my adult life. What a blessing the separation turned out to be! Emerging on the other side of pain, I began embracing the lost part of myself , and moved more fully into unconditional love for self, and others. The deep levels of healing that I undertook, held me strong when I was later diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, then nursed my ex-husband until he passed away after his own diagnosis with cancer.
And now, I want to help you walk a path to healing and wholeness, so that you too can begin to love yourself. So that you too can attract the kind of love you desire to experience from others.
CONTACT METHODS
Website: https://www.rosmcmaster.com/
ABOUT THE HOST
Gavin Scott is a born entrepreneur with a passion for start up and scale up. He has over 20 years real estate experience in investment and development.
Gavin says: Over the years I have discovered that mindset is everything. Now, that might sound obvious, but it is! You see the number of awoken minds are very few in reality. Whilst acknowledging mindset is key it is absolutely different from utilising, influencing, impacting and effecting great change, for yourself, your loved ones, friends, colleagues and the wider public.
Why?
Like most of us I have had many ups and downs. I want to share the lessons learnt and promote a better environment for all, internally and externally!
How?
Through sharing my own experiences and hosting some fabulous individuals including some big household names to discuss key topics around mindset and the success formulas I hope the listener will become inspired to create space for change for betterment in their lives. I aim to inspire change by encouragement, not by force. I intend to inspire by education, not by regulation.
CONTACT METHODS