Episode 98: Understanding the Art of Charm, with Jordan Harbinger [PODCAST]

Jordan Harbinger is an expert in social influence, interpersonal dynamics, and social engineering. It’s no wonder he found himself at the helm of a flourishing business called The Art of Charm. Through this business, Jordan shares his experience with others in order to help them understand the art of charm. They host a hugely successful podcast of the same name as well as The Art of Charm Bootcamp, which is a 6-day intensive program for guys who are ready to make that transition. Jordan shares his journey from young mischief-maker to problem-solver to entrepreneur in this chat with David.

Bringing positivity and abundance to others.

Jordan’s edge often catches people off guard. The fact is, this edge is what makes Jordan stand out. He’s honest, authentic, and – yes – charming. He discusses what charm means to him and why he stands out as an expert in the field. According to Jordan, charm is all about leaving people better than you found them by bringing positivity and abundance to others. This philosophy is clearly an area of passion for Jordan and one about which he has a deep understanding. He discusses how he became an expert in the art of charm and the role his upbringing as an only child had in discovering his niche.

Being your most authentic self in order to make real connections.

All too often, we’re left feeling as though we have to be someone we’re not in order to fit in – or wear a mask. According to Jordan, it’s impossible to make a connection with a mask, so in doing this we’re immediately disconnecting with others. In order to understand charm and truly connect with others, we must be our authentic selves. Jordan discusses why charm isn’t about being polite all the time, but instead it’s about being honest, authentic, and trustworthy in order to connect with others. Being yourself in the most authentic way is the cornerstone of charm.

Being charming requires confidence.

In order to be your authentic self, you have to gain confidence. In his Bootcamp, Jordan teaches guys how to be confident in themselves in order to cross over into a more authentic version of themselves. He also discusses what holds most of us back from being authentic: an overwhelming fear that, if you show who you really are, no one will like you. In the Bootcamp, he works with a group of 10 guys to help them see their behaviors and understand how to transition into a state of confidence and authenticity. This process shows them how to be confident in all situations, which is an essential element in mastering the art of charm.

Learning to have real confidence in all situations.

Jordan explains how situational confidence can hold us back, and why it’s necessary to develop confidence in yourself that will extend to all situations. In order to connect with anyone – anywhere – you must understand how to be confident at all times. Jordan discusses the fact that first impressions aren’t made when we first speak, but they’re actually made when we’re first noticed. So, non-verbal communication is the key to making a great first impression. In closing, Jordan gives listeners a bit of homework to begin to develop better body language and confidence in order to better connect with people.

Outline of this great episode

[0:53] David’s introduction and welcome to you and his guest, Jordan Harbinger.

[1:34] How did you get into podcasting?

[3:45] The concept of the power of charm and how Jordan got to be the expert in this arena.

[9:32] Realizing he’ll learn more through experience versus school.

[10:40] The balance between good charm and manipulation.

[15:16] How do you define charm?

[17:58] Where does your edge come from?

[22:27] The role of authenticity in charm.