After the Affair: For Couples

https://www.desertbloomrecovery.org/couplescoaching

The podcast episode delves into the topics of defenses after infidelity, emotional responses, the differentiation between guilt and shame, and the importance of taking accountability and practicing change. It emphasizes the impact of emotionally heavy words and strong emotions on defense systems, the role of guilt as a gift for positive change, and the significance of accountability in personal growth and relationship healing.

Takeaways

• Defense systems are activated by emotions
• Accountability involves taking action
• Guilt is a gift that allows us to be better and different, while shame hinders accountability.

Chapters

• 00:00 Understanding Defense Systems and Emotional Responses
• 07:11 Differentiating Between Guilt and Shame
• 15:57 Taking Accountability and Practicing Change