Unmute Yourself

Have you ever mistaken hiding for humility?

In this episode, you'll learn the subtle ways fear and self-doubt keep you playing small, even when you tell yourself you’re just being "humble."

You'll discover how to differentiate between true humility and hiding, why shining your light is not just an option but a necessity, and how stepping into your power inspires others to do the same.

This episode is a wake-up call to stop shrinking and start owning your unique brilliance.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The key difference between humility and hiding—and how to know if it is holding you back
• Some of the secret culprits causing us to shrink.
• How societal expectations and mixed messages create barriers to confidence, especially for women.
• Practical ways to embrace confident humility and shine your light without guilt.
• The ripple effect of your light—how your courage to shine can inspire others to step up.

Pondering Questions to Reflect On:

1. Am I holding back from sharing my gifts or voice because I fear being judged or misunderstood?
2. How often do I confuse hiding with humility in my life?
3. What message do I want to share with the world, but I’ve been too afraid to say?
4. Who could benefit from me stepping into my light and leading by example?
5. What’s one small way I can practice confident humility today?

Actionable Next Steps:

• Take a moment to reflect on where you might be hiding in your life and why.
• Begin practicing confident humility by sharing a small part of your story or talent with someone you trust.
• Consider exploring resources to help you overcome self-doubt and step into your power.

Connect with Charity:

• Instagram: @CharityHaderlie
• Website: www.charityhaderlie.com
• Subscribe to the podcast for more inspiration and tools to unmute yourself and shine.

Remember, the world doesn’t need you to shrink; it needs you to shine. Let’s step into the light together!

Episode Summary:

If you’ve ever felt frustrated by setting goals you don’t follow through on, this episode will empower you with tools to make 2025 your most transformational year yet.

You'll learn why so many New Year’s resolutions fail and how you can break the cycle for good. Learn simple steps you can take today to turn your aspirations into accomplishments.

Learn how to shift your mindset, take small, meaningful actions, and build a foundation that aligns with who you want to become. Whether you’re aiming to get healthier, grow professionally, or finally tackle that passion project, this episode will show you why starting with who you are changes everything.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Why 92% of resolutions often fail and what to do instead.
• The science behind identity-based habits.
• How small, consistent actions prove your new identity to yourself.
• Practical steps to rewire your mindset and stick to your goals.

Quotes of the Episode:

"Transformation doesn’t start with what you do; it starts with who you believe you are."

"I'm not what I think I am. I'm not what you think I am. I'm what I think, you think I am." -Charles Horton Cooley

Resources Mentioned:

• Atomic Habits by James Clear

Action Step:

What’s one small win you can achieve today to align with the person you want to become? Share your progress with us on Instagram!

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Connect with Charity:

• Website: CharityHaderlie.com
• Resources: Linktr.ee/charityhaderlie
• Instagram: @CharityHaderlie
• LinkedIn: Charity Haderlie
• Email: [email protected]

✨ Ready to step into the new year with clarity and confidence? Let’s unmute your potential together. Listen now! 🎧

In this episode, we dive into the transformative power of celebrating your wins—big and small. So often, we focus on what's next on our to-do list, neglecting to pause and recognize how far we've come. But did you know that celebrating your achievements can increase confidence, improve productivity, and help you stay motivated to achieve your goals?

In this episode, we explore why celebrating wins matters, how it rewires your brain for positivity, and actionable ways to make it part of your daily routine.

Key Topics Discussed:

• Why celebrating small wins is just as crucial as big ones.
• Why we often don't celebrate our wins.
• How acknowledging progress boosts self-confidence and reduces burnout.
• Real-life stories and examples of how celebration leads to personal and professional growth.
• Simple ways to integrate celebration into your busy schedule.
• 10 reflection questions to help you review your year.

Actionable Takeaways:

1. Rewire Your Brain: Take a moment to celebrate activates your brain’s reward system, making it easier to stay motivated.
2. Track Your Progress: Keep a journal or list of your daily achievements, no matter how small. Each one is a step toward your goals.
3. Make It Personal: Find a celebration ritual that resonates with you—whether it’s treating yourself to something you love, sharing your win with a friend, or simply pausing to acknowledge it.
4. Embrace the Small Stuff: Success doesn’t only happen in leaps—it happens in steps. Celebrate the effort, not just the outcomes.
5. Spread the Joy: Celebrating wins isn’t just for you; it inspires and uplifts others around you.

Share Your Wins! What’s a win you’re proud of? I'd love to cheer you on! You can email [email protected] or share your wins with me on instagram.

In this heartfelt episode you'll hear a personal story about grief, healing, and finding unexpected peace in the simplest of moments. Charity reflects on a tough holiday season, the loss of her baby brother, and how one small meal transformed into a cherished family tradition that helped her heal. In this episode, you'll uncover the intricate relationship between joy and grief for personal growth and healing.

Key Takeaways: Learn how grief can lead to deeper joy and transformation. Discover why both joy and grief are necessary parts of the human experience. Gain practical tools for navigating the emotional complexity of joy and grief, including how to lean into both without avoiding or suppressing them.

By the end of this episode, you'll have a deeper understanding of how embracing both joy and grief can lead to greater emotional resilience and growth.

Episode Highlights:

• Grief and Healing: Charity talks about the deep sorrow she felt after the unexpected death of her baby brother, Jeremy, and how the holidays became especially difficult.
• The Fish Stick Picnic: A spontaneous dinner of fish sticks and French bread became a moment of peace and healing. Charity shares how this moment turned into a tradition that helped her family reconnect and find joy amidst their grief.
• Joy and Grief Together: Charity explores how joy and grief can coexist, offering a powerful message about allowing ourselves to feel both. She shares how focusing on the joy in the memories of loved ones helps fill our hearts with gratitude, even in the midst of sorrow.
• Healing through Christ: Charity reflects on how healing is an ongoing journey, especially during the holiday season, and how Christ's presence has been a source of strength and peace.

This episode is a reminder that healing doesn’t mean forgetting, and that moments of peace can emerge in the unlikeliest of circumstances.

Resources Mentioned:

• TED Women: We don't "move on" from grief. We move forward with it.

Call to Action: If you’re struggling with grief or need a reminder that joy and healing can be part of your journey, tune into this episode. Remember to reach out if you want support in navigating grief or find peace this holiday season.

In this episode, you'll uncover strategies for handling difficult conversations with family and friends during the holidays, transforming moments of conflict into opportunities for connection and understanding.

Key Takeaways:

• Learn how to approach family disagreements and clashing opinions with confidence, fostering constructive conversations instead of conflict.
• Discover why creating space for civil discourse is essential for building stronger relationships, even when beliefs and values differ.
• Gain practical tools for staying calm, listening actively, and responding thoughtfully to challenging topics during Thanksgiving and other holiday gatherings.

By the end of this episode, you'll feel equipped to navigate sensitive discussions with grace, turning potential holiday stress into meaningful connections. These tools will not only enhance your holiday celebrations but also improve communication in your everyday life.

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Note to Listeners:

This podcast provides strategies for communication and personal growth but is not a substitute for professional support. If you are navigating deeply rooted conflicts or emotional challenges, consider seeking guidance from a qualified professional.

References:

Brown, B. (2017). Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone. Random House.

Duhigg, C. (2014). Supercommunicators: Harnessing the Power of Conversations to Drive Success. Crown Business.

Nyhan, B., & Reifler, J. (2010). When Corrections Fail: The Persistence of Political Misperceptions. Political Behavior.

In this episode, you'll dive into the transformative power of gratitude for mental and physical well-being.

Key Takeaways:

- Learn why gratitude doesn’t just feel good—it actually rewires your brain, releasing neurotransmitters that boost happiness, improve sleep, and increase motivation.

- Discover how focusing on what you have rather than what you lack can shift your mindset, helping you feel more fulfilled and energized.

- Gain insights so that you can incorporate gratitude practices like journaling and celebrating small wins to enhance mental strength and resilience.

By the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of how practicing gratitude can improve both your mental and physical health, allowing you to lead a more joyful and resilient life.

Get Your Resources:

👉"Gratitude In Action" Free Download (no sign up)

👉Turn gratitude into a simple, daily adventure with "Thankful Nuggets"

Note to Listeners:

If you're struggling with mental health issues, please reach out to a professional for support. This podcast provides strategies for managing overwhelm but is not a substitute for professional help.

References

Brown, J. & Wong, J., (n.d.). How gratitude changes you and your brain. Greater Good. https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_gratitude_changes_you_and_your_brain

Diniz, G., Korkes, L., Tristão, L. S., Pelegrini, R., Bellodi, P. L., & Bernardo, W. M. (2023, August 11). The effects of gratitude interventions: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Einstein (Sao Paulo, Brazil). https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10393216/

Madhuleena Roy Chowdhury, B. (2024, September 19). The neuroscience of gratitude and effects on the brain. PositivePsychology.com. https://positivepsychology.com/neuroscience-of-gratitude/

[pdf] gratitude as a psychotherapeutic intervention. | semantic scholar. (n.d.). https://www.semanticscholar.org/paper/Gratitude-as-a-psychotherapeutic-intervention.-Emmons-Stern/e972b69f2ce56efdfee6185757316e2117cb6b38

In this episode, you'll dive into the essential distinctions between mindset and self-leadership and why combining them can lead to profound personal growth.

Key Takeaways:

• Learn why mindset is foundational for personal beliefs and growth, while self-leadership is where transformation truly happens through action.
• Discover how small, intentional actions and practical routines can build self-trust and resilience, setting you up for authentic leadership.
• Gain insights into how self-leadership strengthens emotional intelligence, helps manage stress, and ultimately empowers you to lead others effectively.

By the end of this podcast, you'll have a better understanding of how mindset and self-leadership work together to create a balanced, empowered life, allowing you to take meaningful steps toward your goals and inspire others along the way.

Resources:

• Learn more about Empower U or register for our presale list so that you can access exciting early bird bonuses when tickets open for sale! You can do that here.
• For increased accountability in self-leadership, check out: Perspectives: Change Your Lens Change Your Life
• Check out The Motivation Mirage episode to get more insights.

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Hey there! Today I'm with Angie Lion discussing what it really means to unmute yourself and step into your full potential. It’s all about silencing that inner critic, letting go of people-pleasing, and shining your unique light.

We note that there's no "certification" for personal growth, unlike many skills we learn, and we also chat about how facing both our strengths and blind spots can be transformative.

You can expect to gain insights on leading and creating ripples of impact in your life and the lives of others. You'll hear about embracing all that you are and accepting all that you're not, understanding that personal growth is more about who you become in the process than the outcome itself.

We'll also highlight the importance of self-love, moving past chosen blind spots, and offering grace to yourself and others as you evolve and grow. Join us as we challenge you to unmute your voice, embrace your full self, and lead with confidence. This episode is all about shedding the limitations holding you back and stepping boldly into the person you were always meant to be. Don't miss it! 🎧✨

Learn more about Angie;

https://blackriverpm.com/leadership/angie-lion/

www.charityhaderlie.com

www.linktr.ee/charityhaderlie

He Moves Mountains in Me - Part 3

Episode Overview:

In this powerful third installment of the "He Moves Mountains in Me" series, you'll continue the journey of personal growth and spiritual insight. This episode delves into the importance of listening—learning to listen not just to the world around us but, more importantly, to the voice of the Holy Spirit. Charity shares moving stories, spiritual lessons, and practical tips to help listeners strengthen their connection with God and grow in faith.

Charity reflects on the concept of writing down spiritual promptings and inspirations to enhance spiritual growth and accountability. She offers a relatable experience of motherhood and shares how even in the chaos of daily life, we can find moments to listen and act on divine guidance.

Finally, Charity tells a poignant childhood story about overcoming fear and realizing the power of simple obedience—sometimes, the answer to our deepest struggles is more simple than we think.

Key Takeaways:

- Listening to Learn: True spiritual growth comes from not only hearing but truly listening to God's guidance. This means being still and recognizing the quiet promptings of the Holy Ghost.

- The Power of Writing Things Down: Charity emphasizes the value of writing down spiritual impressions. Doing so not only shows gratitude for God's messages but helps us be more accountable and recognize patterns in how the Spirit speaks to us.

- Obedience Leads to Growth: Listening is only half the battle; following through on what we hear is the key to progressing in faith and life.

- Overcoming Personal Mountains: Whether it's literal survival in a childhood swimming pool or metaphorical mountains in adulthood, Charity shares that sometimes the simplest action, like "standing up," can lead to overcoming our biggest challenges.

Listener Challenge:

Write down at least one prompting or inspiration you receive during prayer, scripture study, or quiet reflection. Reflect on how acting on this inspiration can lead to growth and transformation in your personal life.

Resources Mentioned:

- Spencer W. Kimball’s teachings on listening to learn through the still small voice.

- Richard G. Scott’s counsel on writing down spiritual promptings.

Connect with Charity:

- Website: www.charityhaderlie.com

- Instagram: @CharityHaderlie

- Subscribe to the Unmute Yourself Podcast for more inspiring episodes like this one.

Call to Action:

- If this episode touched your heart, please leave a review and share it with someone who might need encouragement in their spiritual journey.

Part 2: He Moves Mountains and Me

Episode Overview:

In this episode of the Unmute Yourself podcast, Charity Haderlie continues the heartfelt discussion from part one, exploring the journey of internal transformation and the importance of understanding our emotions. She shares personal stories and insights on how to recognize and respond to negative thoughts and feelings.

Key Points:

- The metaphor of peeling layers of an onion to describe personal growth.

- The significance of recognizing positive changes in ourselves, even when we may not initially see them.

- How negative thoughts can influence our feelings and spiritual connection.

- The process of "repent and replace" (R and R) as a method for overcoming negative filters in our thoughts.

- The importance of listening—both to ourselves and to others, including our children and loved ones.

- Insights into interpreting a baby's cries using "baby language" and how this skill can deepen our understanding of communication. Baby Language References Here

Discussion Highlights:

- The role of repentance in everyday life and how it can help us realign our thoughts.

- Practical tips for listening more effectively and being attuned to the needs of those around us.

- Encouragement to be patient with oneself during the journey of personal growth and change.

Quotes:

- "Repentance isn’t just for major sins; it’s for everyday adjustments."

- "Listening is paying attention. It is focusing on what’s being said or felt."

Resources Mentioned:

- The concept of baby language and its benefits.

Disclaimer:

Charity Haderlie is not a mental health professional or medical professional. The content shared in this episode is for informational purposes only and should not replace professional advice or treatment.

Thank You for Listening!

If no one has told you lately, remember that you are important, admired, loved, and you matter. Don’t forget—it’s up to you to unmute yourself!