Unpacking is making a list of what's going on in a situation. Unpacking brings awaresness or self-awareness. Unpacking perfectionism helps us uncover how perfectionism shows up in our lives and how it affects us. Perfectionists don't confront reality and often have secret rules for themselves that aren't realistic. Unpacking helps uncover these hidden rules and face reality. It's not about a standard of excellence, it's about what people think about us.  It's an overconcern with making mistakes and worrying about what people will think rather than giving ourselves permission to be human and make normal mistakes. The podcast includes lots of questions to help you unpack your perfectionism.