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I used to think safety was something someone else could give me :: a partner, a therapist, a coach, a “safe space.” But as I’ve deepened into somatic and breathwork facilitation, I’ve learned that real safety can’t be outsourced. It has to be felt and built from within.In this episode, I’m talking about what safety actually means, not just psychologically, but physiologically. We’ll explore how the body signals danger, why so many of us stay dysregulated even when life looks “fine,” and what it really takes to feel safe in your own skin again.I share my personal experiences as a trauma-informed coach and facilitator navigating my own nervous system: what it feels like when I’m in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, and how I come back to myself when I’ve spiraled into overfunctioning or people-pleasing.You’ll learn how to:• Recognize the signs of dysregulation in your body• Understand your nervous system’s survival patterns• Begin co-creating safety in relationships and communities• Reclaim trust with yourself through small daily practicesIf you’ve ever said “I’m fine” while your body screamed otherwise, this conversation is for you.Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg Shownotes:• My Grandmothers Hands | Book: https://amzn.to/4816WGh • What my Bones Know | Book: https://amzn.to/4oYC5Qv ___________________________Have you been coached before and hungering for more with less intensity?Introducing RE:Adventure, a more pliable space for you to explore yorrself through coaching. This space is currently only available to clients that have been coached previously, by anyone. You already have the tools, this is your chance to keep using them with loving support. Find more here: https://www.adventuresofcommunity.com/subscription🎁 RESOURCES FOR YOU:💫 FREE Download: Finding yourself at a loss for how, exactly, to 'fill your cup?'Say less: [[https://aoc.openinapp.link/mindmap ]]📌 Join my FREE Masterclass: Adventuring with ADHD in the Female Body → https://tinyurl.com/aocebrite
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___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living.
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By Victoria VIKI CumberbatchI used to think safety was something someone else could give me :: a partner, a therapist, a coach, a “safe space.” But as I’ve deepened into somatic and breathwork facilitation, I’ve learned that real safety can’t be outsourced. It has to be felt and built from within.In this episode, I’m talking about what safety actually means, not just psychologically, but physiologically. We’ll explore how the body signals danger, why so many of us stay dysregulated even when life looks “fine,” and what it really takes to feel safe in your own skin again.I share my personal experiences as a trauma-informed coach and facilitator navigating my own nervous system: what it feels like when I’m in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, and how I come back to myself when I’ve spiraled into overfunctioning or people-pleasing.You’ll learn how to:• Recognize the signs of dysregulation in your body• Understand your nervous system’s survival patterns• Begin co-creating safety in relationships and communities• Reclaim trust with yourself through small daily practicesIf you’ve ever said “I’m fine” while your body screamed otherwise, this conversation is for you.Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg Shownotes:• My Grandmothers Hands | Book: https://amzn.to/4816WGh • What my Bones Know | Book: https://amzn.to/4oYC5Qv ___________________________Have you been coached before and hungering for more with less intensity?Introducing RE:Adventure, a more pliable space for you to explore yorrself through coaching. This space is currently only available to clients that have been coached previously, by anyone. You already have the tools, this is your chance to keep using them with loving support. Find more here: https://www.adventuresofcommunity.com/subscription🎁 RESOURCES FOR YOU:💫 FREE Download: Finding yourself at a loss for how, exactly, to 'fill your cup?'Say less: [[https://aoc.openinapp.link/mindmap ]]📌 Join my FREE Masterclass: Adventuring with ADHD in the Female Body → https://tinyurl.com/aocebrite
💫 The BEST all around platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio
📌 Connect with a practitioner at The WuWu: https://thewuwu.com/
___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living.