Every parent wants to encourage their teen to do their best. But can encouraging excellence ever go too far?

Teens live in a performance-driven society, so they already want to succeed. But when parents stop celebrating in their daughter’s victories, and start pushing her to do even better, they risk creating such an unattainable standard that their teen gives up.

This looks different in different teens. Some give up and become rebellious. Others go to extreme, even dangerous measures to achieve perfection. Neither option is good.

So how can you avoid driving your teen to this point? Make sure she always knows this: There’s nothing she can to make you love her more, and there’s nothing she can do to make you love her less.

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