It is hard to match resources to problems that we already know are too large to handle. However, calibrating the "size of the problem" accurately, and proportionate to our need for safety before all else, is a critical skill. When we minimize, and worse, teach our children to minimize, based on discounting our feelings, we undercut what could be so valuable in marshalling appropriate resilience and creative responses to the world as it is, rather than as we wish it would be.

I reference Gavin De Becker's The Gift of Fear, published by Dell in 1997.

Also, Karla McLaren's The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings are Trying to Tell You. (Sounds True, 2010).

Another great one is Linda Kohanov's The Power of the Herd: A Nonpredatory Approach to Social Intelligence, Leadership, and Innovation. (New World Library, 2013). She references McLaren extensively in promoting a non-Western paradigm for understanding power.

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