Hey UN•THERAPIST & Whatever Face Podcast Family!

We need to UN•THERAPIZE something that has been part of the culture for generations…

FISH PLATES.

But not just any fish plates - the fish plates we start selling when somebody dies.

The fish plates, raffles, BBQs, donations, GoFundMe pages, and community fundraisers that suddenly appear because a family is trying to figure out how to pay for a funeral.

And that got us thinking…

Why are we so good at coming together AFTER the crisis… but not always planning BEFORE it?

For this special crossover episode, we're linking up with the good folks from Whatever Face Podcast to have a conversation about the things we don't always want to talk about until we're forced to.

We're talking about financial planning, discernment, grief, guilty-pleasure music, and the decisions that can either prepare us for life or leave somebody else cleaning up the pieces.

📌 Why is long-term financial planning so easy to postpone?

📌 Why do we wait until there's a crisis to start asking for money?

📌 Is community fundraising a beautiful example of Black communities taking care of our own or a sign that we aren't financially prepared for emergencies?

📌 What does discernment have to do with the choices we make today?

📌 And why are we willing to plan the party, the vacation, and the outfit… but not always the things we KNOW eventually have to happen?

Then, because this is UN•THERAPY and Whatever Face, we couldn't possibly have a conversation this serious without getting into some guilty pleasures, entertainment, and the shows that have us locked in.

From Untold Stories to The Blacklist, Lioness, A Toxic Love Story, and American Greed, we're sharing recommendations while asking ourselves what these stories can teach us about people, choices, relationships, power, and consequences.

And somewhere between the laughs, the uncomfortable questions, and the recommendations…

we might have to ask ourselves:

Are we actually prepared for the life we're living?

Because maybe the goal isn't to stop selling fish plates. Maybe the goal is to make sure nobody HAS to sell one just to survive a crisis.

Join us for our ever crossover episode of UN•THERAPY Podcast x Whatever Face Podcast for a conversation about financial planning, discernment, culture, grief, guilty pleasures, and the realities we don't always want to face until it's too late.

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,

We need to UN•THERAPIZE something that has become almost impossible to avoid: TIPPING.

You sit down at a restaurant. You order your food. You eat. You pay your bill.

Then comes the screen: 18%? 20%? 25%?

And suddenly, what used to feel like an optional thank-you feels like a pop quiz you didn't study for. 

So here's the question…

When did tipping go from something you WANTED to give…to something you feel like you HAVE to give?

We understand that restaurant workers deserve to be compensated fairly. We understand that servers work hard. We understand that tips can make a major difference in someone's income.

But here's where the conversation gets interesting…
📌 If gratuity is automatically added to your bill, is it still a tip?
📌 If the restaurant requires it, should we call it a service charge instead?
📌 Why are customers being asked to make up the difference when wages don't reflect the cost of the service?
📌 If a service is exceptional, shouldn't the customer get to decide how much they want to give?
📌 And when the tipping screen starts at 20%, are we being encouraged to be generous—or pressured to be?

Then there's the other side…

What happens when someone receives poor service but still feels obligated to tip?

Is tipping about rewarding excellent service?

Is it simply part of the cost of dining out?

Or has tipping culture become so normalized that we've stopped questioning it?

And let's talk about the elephant in the dining room…

Are we actually tipping because we WANT to, or because we don't want to look cheap?

Because there's a difference between intentional generosity and social pressure.

So where do you stand?

Tip because you want to?
Tip because you have to?
Or don't tip at all?

Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE tipping culture, mandatory gratuity, restaurant wages, customer expectations, service charges, and the question of whether tipping has officially gone too far.

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,

We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…

Is loyalty still a favorable trait?

And if it is... is it something that should be discussed before it's expected?

The more we talked, the more we realized that everyone seems to have a different definition of loyalty. Some see it as standing by someone no matter what. Others believe loyalty has limits. And some have been so loyal to people, jobs, or situations that weren't loyal in return.

So now we're asking...

Can loyalty become expensive?

If staying loyal causes you to miss opportunities, delay your purpose, or sacrifice your own growth... is that still loyalty, or is it poor stewardship?

Then we took it a step further...

Does loyalty to a person automatically mean loyalty from your brand or your business?

If I'm loyal to you personally, does my company have to publicly support you too? Or is it healthy to separate personal relationships from professional decisions?

Can your friendship and your brand have different boundaries?

Maybe the biggest question is this...

Are people disloyal... or are we expecting them to live by a definition of loyalty we never took the time to discuss?

Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE the true meaning of loyalty, the cost of misplaced loyalty, personal relationships versus brand loyalty, and whether loyalty should be assumed... or agreed upon. 

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We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…

Picture this: a family wants to sit together and asks if you'd be willing to switch seats.

What determines your answer:

Is it an automatic yes because it's the kind thing to do? Or does it depend on the seat they're offering in return? Does it have to be the same value? The same legroom? The same location? Or is kindness supposed to outweigh convenience?

Then we took the conversation one step further...

What about those exit-row seats? You agree to sit there, but once the flight takes off, you realize the responsibility is greater than you expected.

Do you quietly hope nothing happens... or do you let the flight attendant know you're no longer comfortable with the responsibility?

Because sometimes we say "yes" before we fully understand what we're agreeing to.So now we're asking...

📌 What does kindness require?
📌 What does responsibility require?
📌 And when is it okay to admit you're not the right person for the seat you're sitting in?

Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE kindness vs convenience, exchanging seats, accepting responsibility, and knowing when to speak up before an emergency ever happens.

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,

We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…

This conversation started after watching an episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta, where Pinky Cole shared that she had filed for bankruptcy... but hadn't told her husband.

That sparked a bigger question...

Where does privacy end... and pride begin? If you're willing to share something with the world, should your spouse have heard it first?

Marriage is a partnership... so why do some people operate like sole proprietors?

Are there decisions that belong to just you?

Or once you say "I do," do certain conversations automatically become "we" conversations?

Then we went even deeper...Where does transparency end and secrecy begin?

How far back does transparency go?

Is your partner entitled to know everything about your past, or are there some chapters that don't need to be reopened?

When someone says, "That's private," are they protecting their peace... or protecting themselves from accountability?

Maybe the bigger question isn't whether you have a right to privacy.

Maybe it's this: Can a partnership truly thrive if one person is carrying information the other never gets the chance to hold?

Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE privacy versus pride, transparency versus secrecy, and what true partnership really looks like.

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,

We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something…

Is there a difference between someone who says they can't make your event… and someone who says they're coming but never shows up?

Technically, neither person came.

But mentally… do y'all put them in the same category? 

Because there are certain people you really want in the room. So if you RSVP “yes” and don't show… what's next?

Does no-show equal no more invites?!

📌 Do we need an explanation? Do you get another chance? 
📌 Or do we quietly adjust the next guest list and keep it moving?

Then we got to talking about memories…

📌 How do y'all keep yours?

📌 Are all your memories living somewhere in your phone or the cloud? 
📌 Do people still print pictures and hang them up? 
📌 Are Polaroids still a thing?!

Because we're probably taking more pictures than ever… but are we actually keeping memories the same way?

Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE RSVP etiquette, whether no-show means no more invites, and whether our memories belong on the wall… or in the cloud. 

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,

When a company is struggling, is the answer always to start over?

Or is the real challenge learning how to maximize what you already have? Think about Red Lobster. For years, people counted the brand out. Declining sales. Financial struggles. A changing marketplace.

It seemed like everyone had an opinion about what the restaurant should become.

Then came new leadership.

Instead of trying to erase the company's identity, CEO Damola Adamolekun focused on rebuilding confidence in the brand. He leaned into Red Lobster's strengths, listened to customers, refreshed the menu, improved the guest experience, and reminded people why they fell in love with the restaurant in the first place.

🚨‼️ For the FULL episode, tune into: THE BILLION DOLLAR STRATEGY BEHIND PRODUCT MARKETING (Feat. Uncle Smiley The DJ) ‼️🚨

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💪🏽Hey UN•THERAPIST,

We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something...

Why do some products make us feel something, while others are just products?

Think about it.

Why are people willing to stand in line for hours every time Apple announces a new iPhone?

Is it really about the phone... or is it about what owning it represents?

Then we shifted to airports. Why do airports make us walk past luxury stores, designer brands, and restaurants before we ever reach our gate?

Is it convenience... or is every step intentionally designed to influence what we buy, what we notice, and how we spend?

Then the conversation took another turn...Sometimes the biggest transformation doesn't come from creating something new it comes from seeing new value in what you already have.

Take Red Lobster.

When the restaurant found itself in trouble, the new CEO didn't simply throw everything away and start over.

Instead, he looked at the company's existing strengths, listened to customers, refined the menu, improved operations, and leveraged existing resources to breathe new life into the brand.

So here's the question...

📌 Is great marketing about having the best product... or telling the best story?
📌 Are we buying features or buying a feeling?
📌 How much of our purchasing decisions are actually ours, and how much have marketers already influenced?
📌 And before chasing the next big idea, have we fully maximized what we already have?

Because sometimes success isn't about reinventing yourself. Sometimes it's about repositioning yourself.

Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE the psychology of product marketing, Apple's brand loyalty, and how Red Lobster's turnaround reminds us that your greatest opportunity might already be sitting right in front of you.

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,

We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something. Can we judge yesterday by today's rules?

We started with a conversation about food.

If someone remixes a recipe, changes the ingredients, or adapts it for another culture… who owns it? Does the origin still matter? Or does the person who evolved it get to claim it?

Then we shifted into memoirs.

How much of what we believe about people is based on who they really are… versus the version of themselves we were allowed to see? And if a memoir reveals something new decades later, should it change how we view them?

Then the conversation took another turn…

As children, we saw the world through one lens. As adults, we see it through another.

So here's the question...

Did the rules actually change… or did we?

📌  Are we judging the past by today's standards?
📌  Or are we finally seeing yesterday with mature eyes?
📌  Are we going by the law… or by a moral code?
📌 And if it's a moral code… whose moral code? Yesterday's? Today's? Society's? Our own?

Because context may explain a decision… but should it excuse it? And if society changes, should our judgment change with it?

Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE origins vs ownership, memoirs and changing perceptions, and whether yesterday should be judged by today's rules… or yesterday's.

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Hey UN•THERAPIST,

We need your help UN•THERAPIZING something, and we've got a question...

📌 Are red flags really red flags… or are we the actual “red flags”?

It feels like dating has become a game of disqualification. We're so focused on finding what we don't want that we sometimes forget to recognize what we do want.

Then we started asking an even bigger question...

📌 Have we redefined dating?

Some people have redefined commitment. Others have redefined infidelity. Some have even redefined what it means to be intentional in a relationship.

📌 But if everyone keeps changing the definitions... what standards are we actually dating by?

Then we landed on what might be the biggest question of the night...

📌 What's the difference between intentionality and alignment?
📌 Someone can be intentional with you. They can communicate, pursue you, and genuinely want a relationship. But does that automatically mean you're aligned?
📌 If a relationship ends after years together, were you ever truly aligned... or were you simply intentional?

More importantly...

📌 How do you measure alignment before investing years of your life?
📌 Is there a barometer for it? 
📌 Or is alignment something we only recognize after we've lost it?

Join us for another session of UN•THERAPY as we UN•THERAPIZE red flags vs personal filters, changing relationship standards, intentionality vs alignment, and whether we're dating for compatibility... or just hoping it shows up along the way. 

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