Most people don’t think they’re in a toxic relationship… until it’s too late.

In this episode, Todd sits down with Dr. Brooke Jones to unpack what really defines a toxic or abusive relationship—and why even smart, self-aware people end up stuck in them.

Resource Mentioned:

https://youtu.be/dNvt_zSiIkg?si=4d3ZYPqn1ZXwSYL7

This isn’t just about obvious abuse. It’s about the subtle patterns:

•  Love bombing that feels like “real love” 
•  Control disguised as care 
•  Walking on eggshells and calling it normal 
•  The cycle of staying, hoping, and repeating 

You’ll learn how to:

•  Spot the difference between dysfunction and abuse 
•  Recognize manipulation, control, and narcissistic behavior 
•  Evaluate your current relationship honestly 
•  Know when it’s time to leave—and how to do it safely 
•  Break the cycle so you don’t repeat the same mistakes 

If you’ve ever ignored your gut, justified bad behavior, or found yourself in the same kind of relationship more than once… this episode is for you.

👉 Resources mentioned:

•  Power & Control Wheel (domestic violence tool) 
•  StrongerWomen.com for support and guidance 

Dr. Brooke Jones is the founder and CEO of Stronger Women, where she helps survivors of domestic violence rebuild their lives with strength, clarity, and faith. With years of hands-on experience working with women in crisis, she specializes in identifying abusive patterns, guiding emotional healing, and equipping women to move forward safely and confidently. 

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world. 

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

“Sex as currency” might grab your attention… but that’s not really where this conversation stays.

In this episode, Todd Turner sits down with Dr. Brooke Jones of Stronger Women and quickly moves beyond surface-level dating talk into something deeper—trauma, abuse, identity, and the patterns that quietly shape relationships.

What starts as a conversation about sex in modern dating turns into a powerful look at how people—especially those coming out of abuse or broken homes—learn to use what they have to survive, feel loved, or regain control. 

This isn’t about judgment.
 It’s about understanding the “why” behind behavior—and what it actually takes to heal.

🔍 What you’ll hear in this episode:

•  Why “sex as currency” often starts as a survival response, not manipulation 
•  How abuse (emotional, physical, spiritual) shapes relationship patterns 
•  Why people stay in or return to unhealthy relationships 
•  The “aha moment” that finally leads to change 
•  Why healthy relationships can feel boring after chaos 
•  How dopamine, trauma, and attention-seeking behaviors are connected 
•  The truth about boundaries—and why people struggle to set them 
•  Why communication is one of the most important relationship skills 
•  The role of identity, healing, and taking ownership after divorce or trauma

Call to Action:

If this episode hit home, take a step forward.

Learn more about Dr. Brooke Jones and her work helping women heal and rebuild at:
 👉 strongerwomen.com

And don’t forget to subscribe to the UnYoked Podcast for more real conversations about faith, relationships, and rebuilding your life the right way.

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world. 

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

In a previous episode, I spoke honestly about how the church can fail people after divorce. And I stand by much of that.

But I also need to correct something.

Pain is a good diagnostic tool, but it’s a terrible navigator.

In this episode, I share a personal story about how God challenged my assumptions, removed my excuses, and led me back into a healthy church community. This isn’t a walk-back. It’s a course correction.

If you’ve been hurt by the church… if you’ve stepped away… or if you’ve convinced yourself that “me and God” is enough, this conversation is for you.

We’ll talk about:

• Why isolation feels right but leads you wrong
• What the Bible actually says about community
• How divorce can distort your view of church
• Why there is no “Plan B” for Christian community
• How to find a healthy church (without rushing your healing)

You don’t need a perfect church.
 But you do need a church.

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world. 

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

Most of us think anger just happens to us. But Jesus says anger starts in the heart.

In this honest episode of UnYoked Living, Todd Turner unpacks where anger really comes from — our worldview, our idols, our expectations — and how it exposes what we value most.

We’ll explore:
 ✅ What makes you angry vs. what makes God angry
✅ Why men pretend instead of healing
✅ The false script of “Christian manhood”
✅ How to process anger without sinning
✅ The path from cultural manhood to authentic discipleship

If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’m not an angry person,” this episode will make you think again.

👉 Subscribe for more real conversations about faith, freedom, and finding your footing after loss.

Watch next:
🎙 When You Feel Forgotten by God → [link]
🎙 Dating After Divorce: Why We Swipe When We’re Not Ready → [link]

#UnYokedLiving #ChristianMen #AngerAndFaith #DivorceHealing #ToddTurner

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world. 

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

We live in a culture that measures God’s blessing by comfort—bigger paychecks, promotions, vacations, health, and smooth sailing. But what if that’s not how God keeps score? What if our obsession with success is blinding us to true faith?

In this episode of the UnYoked Podcast, Todd Turner pulls from the book of Habakkuk to expose how American Christianity has drifted into shallow, cultural faith—and why men recovering from divorce are at a crossroads. Too often, we’ve become fans of Jesus rather than followers. We wear the jersey, shout on Sundays, and post Bible verses in our dating profiles, but our daily lives look no different than the world’s.

Todd challenges divorced men to stop chasing comfort, money, and empty relationships and instead embrace authentic discipleship. This is about more than church attendance or checking the box. It’s about repentance, rebuilding after divorce, and learning to trust God even when the fig tree doesn’t blossom, the bank account is empty, or the job is gone.

Key themes you’ll hear in this episode:

• Why Habakkuk’s story speaks directly to divorced Christian men today
• How American Christians confuse success with blessing
• The danger of compartmentalized faith (Sunday vs Monday Christianity)
• Why so many of us are “fans of Jesus” instead of players on His team
• A call to men: repent, reset, and build your new life on the rock of Christ

If you’re tired of shallow Christianity and ready to stop wasting years chasing the wrong scorecard, this episode is for you.

👉 Subscribe to UnYoked Living for honest, raw conversations about faith, divorce recovery, and rebuilding a life that actually lasts.

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world. 

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

What does the ancient church in Sardis have to do with divorced Christian men in America today? A lot more than you might think. In Revelation 3, Jesus warned Sardis that they had “a reputation of being alive, but were dead.” They looked good on the outside, but inside they were complacent, careless, and spiritually asleep.

In this raw and direct Season 4 opener, Todd Turner speaks to divorced Christian men about the same danger we face today—living off reputation instead of reality. Being single after divorce feels like freedom: you can do what you want, when you want. But that freedom often turns into hidden hypocrisy, shallow faith, and a lazy drift into cultural Christianity.

Todd unpacks the landmines: dating without accountability, hiding behind politics, numbing with comfort, and confusing American values with the kingdom of God. With personal honesty and biblical depth, he calls men to wake up, repent, and strengthen what remains.

This episode is for the man who knows he’s been coasting—or who suspects he might be. It’s a wake-up call to move past surface-level Christianity, abide in Christ, and embrace authentic discipleship.

📖 Revelation Study Resources Mentioned

Matt Chandler – Revelation Series (The Village Church)
https://www.thevillagechurch.net/resources/series/revelation

Craig Cabaniss – Grace Church Frisco Revelation Series
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLKszt7BORNdp14vbGIQitR2wwzqkISgVA

Dallas Theological Seminary Free Online Revelation Course
https://www.dts.edu/free-online-courses/

📘 For Men Walking Through Divorce

Men’s Workbook: Healing and Growth After Divorce
 https://www.toddturner.com/books/mens-divorce-recovery-workbook-your-first-step-toward-healing-and-empowerment/

Divorce Recovery Class with Todd Turner
https://www.toddturner.com/unyoked-divorce-recovery-online-course/

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world. 

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

Seven years after my divorce, I thought I was doing everything right. I rebuilt my career. I got healthy. I dated. I “put in the work.” I thought I was healed. But God showed me I had been building my new life on sand.

In this episode, I’m speaking directly to divorced Christian men—men who are still carrying invisible wounds, hiding behind success, and chasing money, relationships, and validation instead of Christ. We’ll talk about:

• The “arrow in the back of the head” every wounded man carries (and hides)
• Why dating too soon after divorce often leads to more pain
• How loneliness, numbing, and pride keep us stuck for years
• The dangerous lie behind “I am the captain of my soul”
• What repentance, discipleship, and abiding in Christ really look like
• Why the church, broken as it is, is still God’s plan A for your healing

This is not a pep talk. This is a warning and an invitation. God will let you keep chasing your idols until they break you—or He will graciously burn them to the ground Himself so you can start over with Him at the center.

If you’ve been trying to lead your life on your own terms, it’s time to stop. Lay down your pride, pick up your Bible, plant yourself in a church, and let God rebuild you from the inside out.

Scriptures Referenced: Matthew 7:16–20, Luke 15:20, John 15:5, Proverbs 3:5–12, Galatians 5:22–23, James 2:19

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world. 

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

In this episode of the UnYoked Podcast, Todd Turner and Jessica Kastner dive deep into the challenges of dating as a Christian after divorce, focusing on how to vet someone’s faith. In the digital age, where claiming "Christian" on dating apps is as easy as checking a box, how do you truly discern if someone's faith is genuine?

Through personal stories, practical advice, and Biblical insights, Todd and Jessica share how to recognize red flags, ask the right questions, and ensure that you're aligned with a partner who truly shares your Christian values. Tune in for tips on how to avoid heartbreak, spot empty claims, and find someone genuinely walking the same faith-filled path.

Key Topics Discussed:

• The challenge of defining "Christian" in the digital dating world
• How to vet faith early in the dating process
• Recognizing the difference between cultural Christianity and true faith
• How to discern the gospel and grace in a partner's life
• The importance of shared Biblical views and prayer in a relationship

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world. 

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

After divorce, many women become strong because they had to—but that strength can harden into armor. In this powerful conversation, Todd Turner sits down with author Jessica Kastner to unpack why so many divorced Christian women struggle to shift from independence to intimacy.

They talk about masculine and feminine energy, Christian ideas of submission, the fear of losing yourself again, and the unspoken belief behind “I don’t need a man.”

This episode isn’t just about dating. It’s about healing. And how emotional safety with God is the first step to connection with anyone else.

Whether you’re a woman who’s been told to toughen up—or a man who’s been shut out by someone still healing—this is a conversation you won’t want to miss.

Bio:

Jessica Kastner is the co-host of the “Free Failing” podcast for divorced Christian women and author of Hiding from the Kids in My Prayer Closet. She writes regularly for sites like Crosswalk and Propel Women and holds Bible studies with adjudicated teens through Straight Ahead Ministries.

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5ngQdnICFggc80wlpcQo5Y?si=SkvFwRfCR5CdxFYrfdGsHA

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/free-failing/id1810889178?i=1000710620514

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world. 

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

What do we really lose when love ends? It’s not just the person. It’s your identity. Your purpose. Your future. Even your grocery list.

In this brutally honest episode of UnYoked, Todd Turner and author Marcus Ferris unpack the hidden grief that hits after a breakup or divorce. From shared memories and meaning, to purpose and neededness, this is the conversation most people wish they had years ago.

In this episode:

• Why grieving a breakup is more than emotional pain
• The lost virtue domain—and why Christian men especially feel it
• How to rebuild when the shared goals, friends, and rhythms vanish
• The danger of dating too soon (and what to do instead)
• Why men and women numb differently—and how to fight the real monster

If you’re single, divorced, or still reeling from the quiet fallout of a breakup, this episode is your mirror, your guide, and maybe even your elixir.

🟡 UnYoked is a podcast for Christian singles, empty nesters, and anyone rebuilding after loss.
🎧 Guest: Marcus Ferris | Mission 22, Coach, and Author

https://stan.store/IronStrongLife 

Instagram @ultrarunfarris

Marcus Farris is an author, counselor, health coach, and Army Reserve officer. He currently works full-time for the veteran non-profit, Mission 22 as the Post Traumatic Growth Director. He joined their team in January 2020 after serving as an Engineer Officer in Alaska for four years. 

He has his undergraduate degree in Industrial and Systems Engineering and holds his Masters of Science degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. He is also a National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach. 

Through his research, field testing, and writing, he now serves Veterans through healthy living programs and content creation.

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world. 

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.