Do you feel you’re not living your best life? Are you afraid of changing course? In this episode we help you harness real fear, and use it to kick your arse into action!

Audio Transcript

As you might imagine, I talk to quite a lot of people who are not satisfied with how their life currently looks or feels.

Some of them resent the choices they have made and feel they have trapped themselves into a restrictive lifestyle with no way out.

Some feel guilty they have let their dreams fade over time, allowing ‘real life’ to take over.

Others were simply unaware that there was ‘another way’. That their wants in life, could outweigh their shoulds!

Whatever their route to get to this point, the important thing is deciding what to do next.

Accepting that up to now, you may not have been living your best life is important, but not enough.

Changing course and heading in the direction of your inspirations is where it gets tricky. At this stage in the journey, we encounter all kinds of resistances.

** A side note: These are the same resistances that stopped you in the first place, only now you are aware of them, and as a result they feel more powerful than ever.

These resistances are otherwise known as fear. 

Fear that we’ve wasted a shit load of time and money getting to this point.

Fear that we may be judged for changing tack. 

Fear of letting our parents down. Parents who are comfortable with our current path (don’t scoff at this one, you’ll be shocked how prevalent this is!)

Fear that we are not qualified to do what we REALLY want and will likely fail.

Fear that we don’t deserve to create an awesome life for ourselves.

Fear, fear, fear…

It’s Not Just You

Let me set the records straight, these fears are both rational (at least our brain thinks so), and common - but that doesn’t mean they are real.

My biggest fear was overcoming the harsh judgement I was DEFINITELY going to face, by choosing this path. It gnawed away at me for months and slowed me down unnecessarily.

However, this piece is not about how to avoid fears that aren’t even real. It’s about how to identify something you SHOULD be afraid of, and harness it to kick your arse into action!

Write Your Own Obituary

In order to do this, I would like you all to take the very morbid action of writing your own obituary. Not once, but twice.

Your first obituary should be based on your current life trajectory. 

Fast forward to the point where you’re pushing up the daisies and imagine what you’re obituary would contain.

Now write a second obituary, summarising your life assuming you pursued all your dreams and reached your potential.

Go on, do it. I dare you. 

Did you do it? How did your first obituary make you feel? Proud? Sad? Resentful?

If you’re not content with the current state of your life, I hope this exercise has helped you see the difference between what you should and shouldn’t be afraid of!

What action can you take right now, to avoid ending up with obituary one, and finding your playground?

As always, let us know what you came up with and how we can help!