Ep. 325: Vanessa Mentor on Pausing, Sovereignty, and the Truth about Self-Care

This week, I'm talking all things self-care with Vanessa Mentor, coach, teacher and the creator of Living Unrestrained.  As an advocate of self-care, Vanessa helps people re-learn how to give without over-giving and love without people-pleasing so they can live the life they say they want. In this episode, Vanessa and I tackle sanity and self-care, being fierce in attending to yourself and your needs, pausing and easing, how to reframe busyness into intentional choices, and what it truly means to be generous.  We also talk about how self-care is a radical act that's especially needed right now and flip a few things you might be thinking about taking care of yourself on their head! Episode Quotes: "Self-care is a set of learnable skills that starts with self-awareness." "If you want to help somebody, get yourself together." - Wendy Palmer "True self-care can never be selfish nor indulgent." "By caring for ourselves, we increase our capacity." "Self-care allows us to activate our sovereignty. Every day." Those Timestamps: 04:42 - Sanity, self-awareness, self-care 10:36 - Self-care tips when life is busy 18:33 - The power of pausing and self-generosity 28:08 - What it (really) means to be generous 33:51 - Ways to start practicing self-care 40:45 - How ease can actually lead to more power 50:33 - The feminine self-care: now not later Show Notes:  Vanessa's Instagram   RSVP for the How to Have the Life You Want Webinar   Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz   Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle   Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode