The mindset of a victim or victor is a clear choice that only we can make ourselves, regardless of past or present circumstances, experiences of the situation. A victor takes ownership, is accountable and responsible for their life; a victim is stuck in blame, excuses and denial about the situation and circumstances beyond their control. In victim, no change is possible, it’s completely fixed; change is only possible as a victor; look at the famous example pf Oprah Winfrey – a ‘victim’ or sexual abuse to global ‘victor’ in business, media and a force for good.