Visiting the past and future in healthy ways:

• Visit, but don't live there
• Be mindful of what you bring back to the present

What to bring back from the Past: Gratitude.
What NOT to bring back from the Past: Remorse, Regret, Self-Judgment, Rumination.

What to bring back from the Future: Open-Minded Anticipation.
What NOT to bring back from the Future: Fear, Controlling Motivations, Baseless Projection.

Regret: "I'm suffering the consequences of what I did."
Remorse: "You're suffering the consequences of what I did."

If you're habitually in the past/future and being present takes effort, it's probably best for you to stay out of the past/future;
If you're habitually in the present and visiting the past/future takes effort, it's probably safe for you to visit the past/future.

MINDFULNESS IS A GREAT WAY TO CULTIVATE PRESENCE
Single-tasking is a great way to be mindful.

There are not backward steps. Not in relationships, not in your own growth journey, not in potty training. Every step is a forward step: The thing you think you might be moving back to weren't built upon the foundation of everything that's happened in your life since then.

Your mental/emotional/spiritual growth is not a straight line.

• You don't acquire tools - you just sequentially realize you've always had access to them (like owning DVD's vs. subscribing to a streaming service).
• Not using your tools doesn't mean you haven't learned how to use them.

GRATITUDES:

• Abby is grateful for her neighborhood community.
• Ryan is grateful that he's been recording his dreams.

 
TIME CODES:
1:30 - Healthy Past/Future
13:46 - Regret vs. Remorse
22:08 - Mindfulness and Singletasking
28:42 - Moving Backwards

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