Kristal speaks on how to define and know your boundaries as a parental figure, whether you're a grandparent, single parent, adopted parent you still have authority and the right to choose what to allow and not to allow to influence a child that is rightfully placed into your care.

This episode covers a lens from Kristal's childhood experiences from growing up without clear boundaries into adulthood and realizing the importance of setting clear strong boundaries fro your children, regarding the influences of media, people and environments & using the biblical gift of discerning of spirits to discern what is right for you and your children.

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Kristal speaks about how to reclaim & find your true voice after experiencing patterns of sexual abuse, sharing personal experiences & coming from a spiritual biblical lense.

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The Chair of Elim Church Christchurch, Clare Pattison, shares her testimony, describing herself as formerly being a "practicing witch" and being open to the spiritual world from a very young age.  

Clare shares how her life changed over one Christmas Day in 2002, until then she had questioned the concept of Jesus being fully man & fully God. 

That Christmas night, Clare went to bed, woke up the next morning with a deep knowing that Jesus was God & everything changed for Clare following that Christmas Day in 2002.

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(Part 2) VUP hostess, Kristal, reveals practical, faith-rooted path to leave narcissistic abuse and rebuild a grounded identity with peace and purpose. Through ten clear steps, we unpack no contact, forgiveness, radical acceptance, and the daily work of starting over.

• breaking soul ties and removing anchors to the past
• forgiving them and ourselves to end hidden control
• going no contact and refusing emotional bait
• stopping the habit of romanticising rare good moments
• rebuilding identity apart from their narrative
• pausing new relationships to heal patterns
• choosing self-compassion and boundaries
• aligning gifts and purpose for a new future
• using fasting and prayer for clarity and resolve
• accepting reality, releasing debts and apologies
• recognising tactics like comparison and word curses
• seeking validation and safe community support

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(Part 1) Hostess of VUP, Kristal walks through the hidden dynamics of narcissistic abuse, from love bombing and gaslighting to trauma bonding and spiritual manipulation, and share the turning points that led to clarity and freedom. With personal experience with narcisstic abusive cycles Kristal offers steps to leaving the narcissist; rebuild identity, and heal with purpose and faith.

• spotting love bombing and shifting promises
• how devaluation and gaslighting distort reality
• trauma bonding and why leaving feels impossible
• isolation tactics that steal voice and purpose
• the role of faith in breaking fear and shame
• practical steps to plan an exit and hold boundaries
• rebuilding identity, dreams and supportive ties

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Our conversation continues as writer and entrepreneur Sheena Hemens begins with sharing how she "fell into" business and ended up in an unguarded realization of the reality of grief, love, and the meaning of success after everything "fell apart" in 2023.

Sheena Hemens speaks on the rise of her events company, the community heartbeat of her Christchurch restaurant, and the brutal closing of doors post COVID, followed closely behind  the unthinkable—her daughter Lauren’s death.

Sheena is now evolving into realising the things that truly matter in life - those closest to her. Sheena shares how self-therapy, like writing and walking on the beach have helped her to ride the waves of grief.

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Join Rob Woolley who uses a negative childhood label as a "stutterer" into being a positive label as a public speaker and teacher of others that struggle with stuttering, lack of confidence and the fear of public speaking. 

Rob was identified as a stutterer after a speaking test at around age ten  & refused public speaking until one day, when he realized that he was better than expected.

Rob founded Rob Woolley Training & Talk Business Networking in Christchurch. 

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Dating coach, Jude Gane, shares insights into why many of us struggle with finding a real relationship and having commitment issues. 

In a self-centred & shallow dating culture, Jude shares why working on understanding ourselves is the most important foundation of any real relationship 

Jude speaks on the power of being true to who you are versus people pleasing or changing your behaviour to pretend to be what you believe someone else wants you to be.

Jude carries experience with human behaviour from real estate, mediation and people management positions. 

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Ronda Shaskey, founder of Nspyre Red Hair Salon in Christchurch & the winner of the New Zealand 2019 Senior Hair Stylist of the Year Awards; shares never-before-heard inner struggles with identity, impacts of childhood sexual abuse & trauma & we discuss Ronda & business partner, Claire's launch of Bridal Hair NZ Agency, with the first intake of students starting in August 20th 2025.

If you're interested in bridal hair services and courses visit Bridal Hair NZ Agency at bridalhairnz.com

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