One approach to practice offers, as a goal, a picture of pure autonomy and imperturbability in response to the vicissitudes of life. It says that, because impermanence is inescapable, we should try not to hold on to anything. In contrast, our practice is about recognizing the inescapability of vulnerability, attachment, and dependence. The willingness to enter into relationships, to depend on others, and be vulnerable reflects the understanding that the wholeness of our selves and our lives is inseparable from our buddha nature. We are learning to experience the uncontrollability of life and be willing to say in each moment of it, "that's me."