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February gets loud with glitter, cards, and big-price dinners. We go the other way. Greg and Jess unpack why hype-heavy Valentine’s pressure rarely leads to connection, and how simple, repeatable habits—naming expectations, choosing quality time, and putting phones away—create the nights you actually remember. With a little chaos, a lot of humor, and a Waffle House tradition that keeps us grounded, we show how to design a date that fits your real life instead of your feed.

We dig into why expectations derail romance, how love languages change what a “win” looks like, and why planning intimacy doesn’t kill the mood—it protects it. From the origins of Valentine’s to the way social media and spicy book tropes warp our sense of “special,” we challenge the need to perform and offer a practical framework: ask specifically, agree honestly, and celebrate in a way that feels like you. Whether your heart wants a fancy steakhouse or takeout by the fire, attention is the luxury item.

Along the way, we share updates on our growing community, the live 50th episode with giveaways and Q&A, and how you can hang out behind the scenes. Most of all, we invite you to choose presence over performance. Tag your date selfie, tell us what made it meaningful, and borrow ideas from other listeners. If this conversation helps you breathe easier about Valentine’s—or plan a night that actually fits—tap follow, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review so more couples can find us. Your support keeps this community thriving.

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