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Invisible labor is the work no one sees until it doesn’t get done, and women often carry the most of it, at the office and at home. in this episode, Kara and Jensie talk about how to identify invisible labor, make it visible, and decide what to delegate, automate, or stop doing.

They can keep trying to shove it down our throats, but we all know that the C-suite doesn't know enough about our day-to-day to actually make it worthwhile. Add in our own views on using AI, the time it takes to actually get tools up and useable, and security issues they haven't even thought about, the magic of AI quickly disappears.

In this episode, Kara and Jensie unpack some of the common issues around the corporate decree to "just fold it in" and how you might approach AI in your work and with your team.

Most importantly: your gut is right. The hype around AI is mostly that.

For those of us who care, we end up caring a whole lot about things that we ultimately can't control. By being picky about where we put our energy, we can save ourselves some stress and time. In this episode, get some ideas on how to best separate yourself from outcomes (at work, with friends) so you can show up as your best self. And yes, still care.

There are some transitions we choose: marriage, college, changing careers, and some that maybe are chosen for us (or happen naturally) like kids leaving the nest, divorce, or job loss. Navigating these changes is always hard, but using our values as a compass can help guide us through. In this episode, Kara and Jensie cover some of the changes they've experienced and how coming back to their values eased some (but definitely not all) of the difficulties of those transitions.

Check out our course on finding your values!

Okay, that may be a little hyperbolic. BUT, we're pretty sure if you can root out some of the fake rush rush rush, your quality of life will improve. And these days, we'll take whatever we can get. So take a deep breath and listen in for some ideas on slowing everything down at work, at home, and with yourself. Your nervous system will thank you.

Okay, that may be a little hyperbolic. BUT, we're pretty sure if you can root out some of the fake rush rush rush, your quality of life will improve. And these days, we'll take whatever we can get. So take a deep breath and listen in for some ideas on slowing everything down at work, at home, and with yourself. Your nervous system will thank you.

Let's face it, not only is setting goals in January forcing the issue, making a list of goals that don't feel quite right makes the whole tradition pretty boring. In this episode, Kara and Jensie talk about making goals that are in alignment with your values, waiting until February (or later) to start, and using a bingo card to entice your inner 5-year-old with stickers.

Feeling a little resentful toward your job or coworkers? Maybe it's time to set some boundaries at and with work. We have a few ideas on how and where to set boundaries while staying professional and friendly at work. And some reminders on having hobbies and relationships outside of work so it doesn't become your whole life. 

Takeaways

Setting boundaries is crucial to prevent burnout.
It's okay to not love your job all the time.
Taking time off is essential for mental health.
Sick days should be respected; prioritize your health.
Finding hobbies outside of work can enhance life satisfaction.
Work relationships can complicate professional boundaries.
Intentional sharing of personal information is important.
Be mindful of how much energy you give to work.
Role clarity helps in managing responsibilities effectively.
Over-functioning for others can lead to resentment.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Work and Boundaries
03:06 Understanding Work Resentment and Boundaries
05:48 Setting Personal Boundaries with Work
08:34 The Importance of Taking Time Off
11:35 Navigating Sick Days and Work Expectations
14:32 Creating a Work-Life Balance
17:36 Finding Hobbies Beyond Work
20:21 The Impact of Work on Personal Energy
23:22 Role Clarity and Responsibilities
26:01 The Dangers of Over-Functioning at Work
28:50 Building Healthy Relationships with Coworkers
31:53 Navigating Friendships in the Workplace
34:53 The Importance of Intentional Sharing
37:36 Setting Boundaries with Coworkers
40:24 Final Thoughts on Work Boundaries

Keywords

work, boundaries, work-life balance, burnout, personal growth, productivity, relationships, self-care, career, mental health

Summary

We've talked through setting boundaries with and holding ourselves accountable, but things get a little trickier when we start involving other people. Setting boundaries helps us set our relationships up for success by reducing resentment and helping others understand how we want to be treated.

Takeaways

• Boundaries are essential for building stronger relationships.
• Misusing the term 'boundary' can lead to controlling behavior.
• Healthy boundaries involve personal choices, not dictating others' actions.
• Setting boundaries can improve interpersonal dynamics.
• Trusting others to set their own boundaries is crucial.
• Boundaries can be flexible and adjusted as needed.
• It's important to communicate boundaries clearly and kindly.
• Pop culture references can help illustrate boundary concepts.
• Navigating boundaries in family relationships can be complex.
• Encouraging friends to set boundaries fosters healthier connections.

Chapters

00:00 The Art of Rambling and Podcasting
02:46 Understanding Boundaries in Relationships
05:34 Misconceptions About Boundaries
08:26 Examples of Healthy Boundaries
11:20 Navigating Boundaries with Family
14:14 Pop Culture References and Boundaries
16:50 Workplace Boundaries and Friendships
19:56 Setting Boundaries with Friends
22:58 The Importance of Trust in Boundaries
25:48 The Role of Boundaries in Self-Care
28:57 The Spectrum of Boundary Violations
31:35 Encouraging Others to Set Boundaries
34:40 The Flexibility of Boundaries
37:11 Final Thoughts on Boundaries

Keywords

boundaries, relationships, self-care, communication, personal growth, podcasting, friendships, family dynamics, workplace boundaries, emotional intelligence

Keywords

boundaries, accountability, self-care, personal growth, relationships, emotional health, setting limits, self-awareness, communication, personal development

Summary

This episode covers the 3 steps to setting boundaries: identifying where we need to set a boundary, determining what the boundary should be, and enforcing those boundaries. Setting boundaries takes practice and giving yourself grace—like so many other things in life.

Takeaways

• Boundaries are essential for personal accountability.
• You are the only one responsible for holding your boundaries.
• Start small when setting boundaries to build confidence.
• Identify areas in your life where you feel drained or resentful.
• Enforcing boundaries can be challenging but is necessary for self-care.
• Expect pushback when setting boundaries, especially from those who benefit from your lack of them.
• Communicate your boundaries positively to maintain relationships.
• Jealousy can arise in others when you set boundaries they can't or won't.
• Teaching boundaries to others is part of the process.
• Give yourself grace as you navigate the complexities of boundary setting.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Boundaries
02:48 Understanding Boundaries and Accountability
04:12 Identifying When to Set Boundaries
05:59 Starting Small with Boundaries
08:34 Practical Examples of Setting Boundaries
10:51 Enforcing Boundaries with Others
12:54 Teaching Boundaries to Children
14:37 Final Thoughts on Boundaries