Wait... Am I Toxic?

Ever heard the phrase, 'I’m not racist, I have a Black friend'? Well the same logic may just apply to colourism too! Join Fola and Rukiya as they explore the complexities of colourism, discussing how some men who befriend dark-skinned women may still hold colourist views. And together, they unpack why proximity to dark-skinned women doesn’t necessarily mean a man is free from the biases and preferences that fuel colourism.

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Does having loads of casual sex mean you're unlikely to find a partner!? This week we help our submitter out with our thoughts on the connection (or lack thereof) between our sexual activity and morals, and our desires to find a partner.

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Interracial couples are becoming more common, but are we truly embracing them in all their complexity? Join Fola and Rukiya as they dive into this week's dilemma from a listener—a proud Nigerian woman—who is navigating concerns about having mixed-race children with her white partner.

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This week's submitter is wondering if she's wrong for being upset about a friend who she spends a lot of money on, claiming she can't afford to return the favour for her birthday. Is questioning other people's finances a losing game? Let's get into it!

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In this week's episode a listener bravely shares her deepest secret—she knows her fiancé is cheating on her. Join Fola and Rukiya as they unpack the difficult realities of infidelity and explore the importance of self-respect and healing.

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With a week of racist riots, someone scratching Fola's car and Rukiya sleeping 3 hours last night, do we even need a toxic submission?? We decided some random chit chat might be what we all need to keep us going this week, enjoy!

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This week's submitter shares her apprehension about influencers suddenly turning to Christ and wonders whether it's just another fad. Join Fola and Rukiya as they discuss the importance of understanding that no journey with faith is the same, and that God is not to be gatekept.

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This week's submitter is having a hard time believing their partner loves them, no matter how many times they say it. Join Fola and Rukiya to chat about how much the amount of love we feel lies within ourselves vs with our partners!

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Most of us have an ex right, but how often do you think about them and is it even a concern if you do? Join Fola and Rukiya to discuss how normal it is to think of an ex and why this week's submitter isn't necessarily still in love with her ex even if he does weigh on her mind.

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As promised, join us for a cheeky chinwag about what we think settling in a relationship actually means, the age-old debate of settling vs compromising, and some uncomfortable truths around how we think we should choose our partners!

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