Want it if you got it.  It's like Flaunt it if you got it.  Today I want to play on that phrase and talk about Want.

Do you want it if you got it?

I hear it all the time. I’m so unhappy. I guess I’m not smart enough for this or that. I don’t think I’ll have that. That’s just not gonna happen for me. My life isn’t that great. Every time I slow them down and we start pointing out what they DO have the whole perspective shifts and life doesn’t seem so bad.

We think that something out there is going to bring us happiness.

We may have this fleeting idea of our future and it looks awesome but what I have today isn’t even close. The thoughts of bridging the gap seems impossible.

We also find ourselves focusing on what other people are doing. What other peoples lives look like.

It’s all an unfair comparison that we need to stop doing.

Well, how do we do that?

How can we stop those beliefs and thoughts that we have?

The truth is. You don’t have to stop them. Just allow them to happen. When a thought comes you can acknowledge it and do very little about it after that. Don’t reject it. Don’t accept it. Just allow it.

There’s nothing broken with you or wrong with you if you have thoughts about what you don’t have. There’s nothing wrong with you if you want something more. You’re just perfect if you wish you had something more. It’s this beautiful desire that makes life fun. It would be so boring if we didn’t want more. What would drive us and be fun about that?

This all being said…there has to be a balance. Or rather…we need to do our best at creating the balance. It will be a life long journey. I think life has to have imbalances all the time so we are learning and growing all the time to balance them.

As normal as it is to have thoughts of wanting more it’s also normal to have thoughts of gratitude and wanting what you already have.

It’s important to give that equal air time.

If I’m going to set goals I want to equally share some time in thinking about what’s great in my life. What’s amazing about what I’ve accomplished, what I have, what I’ve learned, who I’ve become, how awesome my relationships are.

I had a client ask. How do I want what I have. At that time I gave them an example of my car. I’ve always had my current car on my dream list until a year ago. When I finally got my dream car I was so excited.

Have you ever been so excited to have something, or go somewhere or be with someone and then the excitement wears off? That’s called the honeymoon stage.

If we don’t continue to look at what we have and RE-realize the reasons we wanted it then it’s just another mundane piece in our life.

We need to put some effort into a rich life where we are living a little more alive within.

Most of the time when I’m driving my dream car I take a minute to look around and enjoy what I’ve earned. I remember how I worked to get to this point. I smell the leather. I look at the colors throughout and love it. I’m sure my kids get annoyed when I put the car in reverse and it shows me what behind me and indicated if there are any moving objects oncoming and I say “I love my car. Thanks car, for keeping me extra safe.”...cont'd