What happens when you have to talk, but you don't feel like it?

This conversation starts with reluctance and spirals into an exploration of the self. We examine the pressure of performance and the strange freedom that comes from "shining a light" on our most uncomfortable feelings.

• A bizarre party game involving only negative feedback, and whether it’s a recipe for disaster or radical honesty.

• The "social math" of being yourself and the fear that authenticity might leave you alone.

• Attraction as a beautiful, terrifying force that breaks all our carefully-built mental rules.

• And finally, a quiet discovery: the surprising value of our own weaknesses and why desire might need a little bit of unfulfillment to truly exist.