We Are Woman

In this episode of 𝐖𝐞 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐖𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧, we speak with El about how burnout, relationship breakdown, anxiety, depression, and numbness led her into breathwork and nervous system healing.

El shares how FBR, facilitated breath repatterning, helped her move from shutdown and disconnection into greater presence, self-trust, and embodied choice. We discuss how overwhelm can push the nervous system beyond its window of tolerance, why gentle titration matters more than intensity, and how breath, touch, and agency can create real change without force.

Key topics

• El’s path into healing through burnout, emotional overwhelm, numbness, and disconnection.
• Functional freeze, shutdown, and why feeling too much can eventually become feeling nothing at all.
• How a painful relationship became a catalyst for change, self-reflection, and deeper awareness.
• Why activating practices like breath of fire can help some people access aliveness, but can also lead to crashing if the system is pushed too far.
• How FBR supported El by working within her window of tolerance rather than forcing activation.
• The importance of titration, pace, and meeting each person where they are.

• Trust, consent, and agency—including the power of saying no to touch and having that choice fully respected.
• Working with both women and men, and expanding collective healing across gendered experiences.
• How every disordering force can also be an ordering force, and how hardship can become part of integration and growth.

El specialises in facilitated breath repatterning and also offers coaching, NLP mindset work, and shadow work coaching.

Work with us!

𝐑𝐞𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐜𝐚 𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐩

Contact - [email protected]

🌟 1.1 Psychotherapy (Byron Bay, Sydney or Online)

🌟 1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron Bay and Sydney)

For embodied wisdom, stories from the heart, and practices that bring you home to yourself, follow me on Instagram ⁠⁠@thesharpmind

𝐒𝐚𝐫𝐚 𝐝𝐞 𝐂𝐥𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐪

Contact - [email protected]

🌟 1.1 Coaching & Self-Inquiry (Online)

🌟 1.1 FBR Breathwork (Netherlands)

🌟 Couples FBR Breathwork (Netherlands)

For inspiration on creative, authentic & radiant living, loving life & amazing free content, follow Sara on Instagram ⁠⁠@saradeclercq

𝐖𝐞𝐥𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐖𝐞 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐖𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧!

In this episode, we explore why so many of us know what we want to say, do, or express, yet still hold back. We trace that gap not to a lack of confidence, but to safety, shame, learned protection, and the nervous system.

Together, we look at how expression shows up through voice, movement, body image, boundaries, and everyday self-editing, and why true expression can’t be forced. Instead, it emerges when the body feels safe enough to allow it.

Key topics

• Expression is not just a confidence issue
• Safety shapes what we can express
• Past experiences can become present-day patterns
• Anger, boundaries, and “yes” and “no”
• Body image as an expression issue
• There is a risk in making healing into performance
• Expression grows through witnessing and safe containers
• Forcing expression can backfire
• Editing ourselves is often about belonging
• Control versus discipline

• Notice one moment this week where you wanted to speak, move, or act, but held back.
• Ask whether the block feels like confidence, or safety.
• Observe any places where you are editing yourself to stay accepted.
• Pay attention to whether your “control” is actually protecting a shame wound.
• Explore expression with curiosity rather than pressure.

Timestamps

00:00 - Technical check and opening the episode

00:54 - Season 2 begins with the question of expression

03:37 - Why expression and safety are connected

04:41 - Sara names the dissonance between authenticity and belonging

06:36 - Sara shares how modelling shaped her sovereignty

09:38 - Boundaries, developmental injuries, and the roots of resentment

11:18 - Bec reframes expression as a safety issue, not a confidence issue

12:16 - Anger as an expression that can feel unsafe

14:01 - Shame, anger, and healthy boundaries

15:37 - Body shame and reclaiming the body from the inside out

16:37 - Motherhood, identity shifts, and new forms of expression

17:59 - Healing in relationship and in community

18:28 - Bec shares the adoption story and body pressure

20:19 - Expression goes beyond speech into clothing and embodiment

21:15 - Witnessing expression can unlock new possibilities

23:17 - When a part of us never felt safe or welcome

24:04 - The danger of becoming too self-conscious in healing spaces

26:13 - Expressiveness can become a new hierarchy in healing culture

27:53 - FBR as a way to invite expression without pressure

30:16 - The other side of the problem: false or forced expression

31:10 - Bec’s early breathwork experience and post-session shame

33:38 - Curiosity instead of catharsis as the guiding approach

34:11 - Sovereignty, allowing, and healthy motivation

35:40 - It is okay not to be ready yet

36:31 - Belonging and authenticity can coexist

37:05 - The universal patterns of self-editing

38:59 - Bec’s memories of hiding on the sidelines and finding nourishment through her daughter

40:24 - Asking listeners to notice their own protectors

41:38 - Sara on freedom, belonging, and the pull toward responsibility

43:07 - Control versus discipline

44:40 - Control over what was never ours to control

Work with us!

𝐑𝐞𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐜𝐚 𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐩

Contact - [email protected]

🌟 1.1 Psychotherapy (Byron Bay, Sydney or Online)

🌟 1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron Bay and Sydney)

For embodied wisdom, stories from the heart, and practices that bring you home to yourself, follow me on Instagram ⁠⁠@thesharpmind

𝐒𝐚𝐫𝐚 𝐝𝐞 𝐂𝐥𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐪

Contact - [email protected]

🌟 1.1 Coaching & Self-Inquiry (Online)

🌟 1.1 FBR Breathwork (Netherlands)

🌟 Couples FBR Breathwork (Netherlands)

For inspiration on creative, authentic & radiant living, loving life & amazing free content, follow Sara on Instagram ⁠⁠@saradeclercq

𝐖𝐞𝐥𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐬𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐖𝐞 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐖𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧!

Today, Sara and Bec open season two by sharing major life changes, including Sara’s move from Byron to the Netherlands and Bec’s family move into Byron Hinterland.

They frame the season around a central question: why do we so often know what we want to say, yet struggle to actually say it?

This conversation sets up the season’s focus on expression through breath, body, voice, boundaries, creativity, and the space between inner truth and outer action. It matters because the episode connects everyday change with deeper self-honesty, capacity, and embodied communication.

𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞'𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝:

• Following the whispers of some big change.
• Reflecting on a shared theme of honouring nudges, even when the changes feel big, uncertain, or disruptive.
• We explain that Mel has stepped back from the podcast because she recognised she was over capacity, and they honour that decision as part of the season’s wider theme.
• Season two will focus on expression, especially the gap between knowing something internally and being able to express it outwardly.
• We expand expression beyond speech to include clothing, creative work, saying no, setting boundaries, parenting, and even the birthing of a child as creative expression.
• Bec describes the “liminal space” between endings and beginnings as something most people rush through, even though it can be a sacred and useful period.
• Sara reflects on resisting change versus swimming with it, and how life can feel more aligned once the actual decision is made.
• Bec shares that her edge around expression includes using her voice loudly and experiencing anger more openly and safely.
• We discuss FBR breathwork as a way to access and work with the edges of expression in the body, especially around emotions like anger.
• We invite listeners to reflect on where they feel most free in their expression, where their edges are, and what the season should explore next.

Timestamps

00:00 - Welcome to season two and what has changed
00:30 - Sara’s move from Byron to the Netherlands
01:38 - Bec’s family move into Byron Hinterland
02:37 - Why Mel stepped back from the podcast
03:34 - Season two themes: safety, self expression, embodiment, and breath
05:07 - Expression as learning to be with change
06:15 - Resisting change versus swimming with the current
07:33 - When making the decision creates more flow
08:19 - The liminal space and not rushing to fill it
09:41 - Season one reflections and the move toward expression
10:39 - Why so many people struggle to say what they know
11:09 - Expression through voice, clothing, creativity, boundaries, and birth
11:50 - Bridging the gap between inner truth and outer action
12:43 - When parts of us do not feel welcome, we get stuck
13:13 - What season two will explore and how listeners can reflect on their edges
14:11 - Bec’s comfort zone and edges around loud voice and anger
15:20 - FBR breathwork and expressing anger in a safe, healthy way
16:35 - The gap between knowing and embodying expression
17:05 - Habit, capacity, and honoring natural timing
18:23 - Upcoming interviews and listener invitations
19:21 - The new visual podcast format and closing notes

Work with us!

𝐑𝐞𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐜𝐚 𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐩

Contact - [email protected]

🌟 1.1 Psychotherapy (Byron Bay, Sydney or Online)

🌟 1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron Bay and Sydney)

For embodied wisdom, stories from the heart, and practices that bring you home to yourself, follow me on Instagram ⁠⁠@thesharpmind

𝐒𝐚𝐫𝐚 𝐝𝐞 𝐂𝐥𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐪

Contact - [email protected]

🌟 1.1 Coaching & Self-Inquiry (Online)

🌟 1.1 FBR Breathwork (Netherlands)

🌟 Couples FBR Breathwork (Netherlands)

For inspiration on creative, authentic & radiant living, loving life & amazing free content, follow Sara on Instagram ⁠⁠@saradeclercq

An honest conversation about what stayed with us, what surprised us, and what we're taking into Season 2.

This week we're doing something a little different.

Instead of diving into a new topic, the three of us sat down for a relaxed conversation to reflect on Season 1. Over a cup of tea and a chat, we looked back on the conversations that stayed with us, the themes that kept resurfacing, the insights we didn't expect, and what it's been like creating this podcast together.

We talk about some of our favourite moments from the season, the topics that challenged us personally, and the conversations that continue to ripple through our own lives, relationships, and work. It's an honest reflection on what we've learned along the way and what surprised us most about sharing these conversations so publicly.

We also share a little about what's ahead in Season 2, where we'll be exploring expression through the lens of voice, movement, creativity, sensuality, breath, and the nervous system. If you've been listening along this season, thank you for being part of these conversations. We hope you'll join us as we step into the next chapter.

We'll be taking a short break before returning in July with Season 2.

In the meantime, we'd love to stay connected. If something from this season has resonated with you, or you're curious about any of the work we speak about on the podcast, you can reach out to any of us through the links below. Whether it's breathwork, psychotherapy, coaching, circles, or simply following along with what we're sharing, we'd love to hear from you.

Work with us!

Sara de Clercq

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Coaching & Self-Inquiry (Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Couples FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For inspiration on creative, authentic & radiant living, loving life & amazing free content, follow Sara on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Bec Sharp

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Psychotherapy (Byron surrounds, Sydney North or Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds, Sydney North) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For embodied wisdom, stories from the heart, and practices that bring you home to yourself, follow me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Melissa Moss

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Sydney South) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For soulful, honest reflections, lived-in insight, and an inside look at Mel’s work as a practitioner, follow Mel on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Find out more about our upcoming FBR Practitioner Training with Breathwork Byron starting in April 2026 → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FIND OUT MORE HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Resources + Links

• We Are Woman Podcast website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.wearewoman.com.au/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Follow along on Instagram: @wearewomanpodcast

• If this episode resonates, share it with a woman you love because we’re not meant to do this alone.

What is FBR Breathwork? FBR Breathwork (Facilitated Breath Repatterning) is a trauma-aware, body-based practice that supports nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and new internal patterns, through the breath.

This episode of We Are Woman is a conversation about nervous system safety, human connection, and the deeper role of touch in FBR Breathwork.

Today, Mel and Sara explore touch, both within FBR Breathwork and as something deeply human. Touch exists so naturally in our lives that we often don’t stop to think about it. The way we hold a child when they cry, place a hand on someone when they’re hurting, or instinctively reach toward ourselves in moments of overwhelm. There is something profoundly relational and regulating about touch, and in this episode we slow down enough to really feel into why that might be.

We speak about touch in the context of Facilitated Breath Repatterning breathwork, where touch becomes part of the language of the work. Not something added on, but a way of bringing awareness to the body, supporting the nervous system, and helping people notice where they may be holding, bracing, or protecting. We explore how touch can soothe, soften, ground, and support, but also how it can reveal the places that still don’t quite feel safe yet. And importantly, we speak to the nuance that every body receives touch differently, and that all of those responses are valid.

This conversation also opens into the broader ways many of us have become disconnected from safe, nurturing, non-demanding touch in modern life. We reflect on what happens when touch becomes rushed, performative, or absent altogether, and why being gently met by another regulated human can feel so profound. More than anything, this episode is an invitation to become curious about your own relationship with touch, and the ways it may help bring you back into connection with your body, your breath, and yourself.

Work with us!

Sara de Clercq

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Coaching & Self-Inquiry (Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Couples FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For inspiration on creative, authentic & radiant living, loving life & amazing free content, follow Sara on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Bec Sharp

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Psychotherapy (Byron surrounds, Sydney North or Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds, Sydney North) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For embodied wisdom, stories from the heart, and practices that bring you home to yourself, follow me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Melissa Moss

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Sydney South) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For soulful, honest reflections, lived-in insight, and an inside look at Mel’s work as a practitioner, follow Mel on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Find out more about our upcoming FBR Practitioner Training with Breathwork Byron starting in April 2026 → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FIND OUT MORE HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Resources + Links

• We Are Woman Podcast website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.wearewoman.com.au/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Follow along on Instagram: @wearewomanpodcast

• If this episode resonates, share it with a woman you love because we’re not meant to do this alone.

What is FBR Breathwork? FBR Breathwork (Facilitated Breath Repatterning) is a trauma-aware, body-based practice that supports nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and new internal patterns, through the breath.

In this episode of We Are Woman, Bec sits down with Mishae Bailitis, a psychotherapist with a Master's in Gestalt Psychotherapy, trained in sensorimotor psychotherapy and the Gottman couples therapy method.

Bec has had the privilege of witnessing Mishae's work firsthand, and what struck her is his rare ability to hold space for really deep, complex pain while also making room for lightness, humour, and humanity. That balance is something I think we all need more of.

In our conversation, we discuss relational trauma, the body as conductor, why insight alone often isn't enough to create change, and what it really means to move through the world in connection with others.

If you'd like to connect with Mishae or explore working with him, you can find him at somatictherapybyron.com.au.

Work with us!

Sara de Clercq

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Coaching & Self-Inquiry (Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Couples FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For inspiration on creative, authentic & radiant living, loving life & amazing free content, follow Sara on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Bec Sharp

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Psychotherapy (Byron surrounds, Sydney North or Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds, Sydney North) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For embodied wisdom, stories from the heart, and practices that bring you home to yourself, follow me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Melissa Moss

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Sydney South) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For soulful, honest reflections, lived-in insight, and an inside look at Mel’s work as a practitioner, follow Mel on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Find out more about our upcoming FBR Practitioner Training with Breathwork Byron starting in April 2026 → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FIND OUT MORE HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Resources + Links

• We Are Woman Podcast website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.wearewoman.com.au/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Follow along on Instagram: @wearewomanpodcast

• If this episode resonates, share it with a woman you love because we’re not meant to do this alone.

What is FBR Breathwork? FBR Breathwork (Facilitated Breath Repatterning) is a trauma-aware, body-based practice that supports nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and new internal patterns, through the breath.

There’s a version of womanhood many of us learned very early in life — the good girl. The one who is polite, responsible, helpful, and easy to be around. The one who tries to get things right, doesn’t cause trouble, and quietly carries what’s needed. For many of us, being that girl meant being liked, accepted, and safe. And so, over time, it becomes something we carry with us into adulthood.

In this conversation, Bec and Mel explore where this pattern comes from and how it can begin to shape the way we move through the world. From perfectionism and pressure, to people-pleasing and the quiet habit of putting others first, we reflect on the cost of always trying to be “good.” And yet, we also hold the nuance because the qualities underneath this pattern are often deeply human ones: care, empathy, responsibility, and kindness.

This episode isn’t about rejecting those parts of ourselves, but about softening the pressure around them. It’s about moving beyond both compliance and rebellion, and toward something more integrated where we can still care, still show up, and still be responsible, but from a place of choice rather than conditioning. A gentle invitation to meet the part of you that learned to be “good” with compassion, and to begin loosening the rules she’s been living by.

Work with us!

Sara de Clercq

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Coaching & Self-Inquiry (Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Couples FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For inspiration on creative, authentic & radiant living, loving life & amazing free content, follow Sara on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Bec Sharp

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Psychotherapy (Byron surrounds, Sydney North or Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds, Sydney North) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For embodied wisdom, stories from the heart, and practices that bring you home to yourself, follow me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Melissa Moss

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Sydney South) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For soulful, honest reflections, lived-in insight, and an inside look at Mel’s work as a practitioner, follow Mel on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Find out more about our upcoming FBR Practitioner Training with Breathwork Byron starting in April 2026 → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FIND OUT MORE HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Resources + Links

• We Are Woman Podcast website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.wearewoman.com.au/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Follow along on Instagram: @wearewomanpodcast

• If this episode resonates, share it with a woman you love because we’re not meant to do this alone.

What is FBR Breathwork? FBR Breathwork (Facilitated Breath Repatterning) is a trauma-aware, body-based practice that supports nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and new internal patterns, through the breath.

This conversation with Vanessa Forbes moves beyond music as something we simply listen to… and into music as something we feel, something that meets us, and something that can open parts of us we may not have had access to before.

Vanessa is a musician and space holder whose work sits at the intersection of sound, healing, and expression. What unfolds in this conversation is less about technique or performance, and more about what it takes to let something move through you.

We explore the tension so many of us live in — between force and surrender, between trying to create something and allowing it to emerge.

There’s also a deeper thread here around safety.
What it actually means to feel at home in your body.
And how that sense of safety shapes the way we express, create, and relate to life.

This conversation gently opens into:

• creativity as something that moves through us, not from us
• The role of surrender in both art and healing
• Music as a pathway for emotional release and reintegration
• The intelligence of timing — and trusting when something is ready to be felt
• The balance between structure and letting go
• What it means to be held, and to allow ourselves to receive

Listen to Vanessa's new single Speak Your Truth out now on Spotify and all platforms.

Connect with Vanessa on Instagram or stay up to date with her latest music and events on her website.

Work with us!

Sara de Clercq

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Coaching & Self-Inquiry (Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Couples FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For inspiration on creative, authentic & radiant living, loving life & amazing free content, follow Sara on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Bec Sharp

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Psychotherapy (Byron surrounds, Sydney North or Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds, Sydney North) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For embodied wisdom, stories from the heart, and practices that bring you home to yourself, follow me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Melissa Moss

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Sydney South) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For soulful, honest reflections, lived-in insight, and an inside look at Mel’s work as a practitioner, follow Mel on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Find out more about our upcoming FBR Practitioner Training with Breathwork Byron starting in April 2026 → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FIND OUT MORE HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Resources + Links

• We Are Woman Podcast website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.wearewoman.com.au/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Follow along on Instagram: @wearewomanpodcast

• If this episode resonates, share it with a woman you love because we’re not meant to do this alone.

What is FBR Breathwork? FBR Breathwork (Facilitated Breath Repatterning) is a trauma-aware, body-based practice that supports nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and new internal patterns, through the breath.

In this conversation, we sit down with Dan Kurlapski, co-founder of Breathwork Byron and, Yes& Conscious Leadership. Dan’s work is grounded in a deep belief in thriving humans, in our capacity to meet life fully, and to live with more presence, range, and potential. Together, we explore the different ways we meet life - through doing, striving, bracing, or sometimes finding it hard to move at all - and how these patterns are often shaped by what is happening beneath the surface.

We explore how, for many of us, doing can become a form of regulation. Movement can feel like safety, while stillness can feel unfamiliar or even uncomfortable. And for others, it can be the opposite, where stillness feels more familiar, and accessing movement or activation can be the challenge. Over time, these patterns shape how we respond to life. Dan brings a grounded and practical perspective to this, helping us see how these tendencies live in the body, and how breath can begin to create space between us and the ways we’ve learned to cope.

This conversation opens up a different way of relating to life by expanding our capacity to meet what’s here. Whether that’s activation or stillness, anger, sadness, fear, or even joy, love, and expansion. Relaxed intensity isn’t about controlling your state, but about having the capacity to be with whatever arises. To move when it’s time to move, to rest when it’s time to rest, and not need either one to define you. There is something deeply grounding in this, becoming more available to your full experience. More capacity. More presence. More range. And as you move through your day, perhaps there’s a gentle place to notice… where am I pushing? Where am I avoiding? And what might it feel like to meet this moment with a little more ease?

Work with us!

Sara de Clercq

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Coaching & Self-Inquiry (Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Couples FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For inspiration on creative, authentic & radiant living, loving life & amazing free content, follow Sara on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Bec Sharp

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Psychotherapy (Byron surrounds, Sydney North or Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds, Sydney North) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For embodied wisdom, stories from the heart, and practices that bring you home to yourself, follow me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Melissa Moss

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Sydney South) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For soulful, honest reflections, lived-in insight, and an inside look at Mel’s work as a practitioner, follow Mel on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Dan Kurlapski

Contact - [email protected]

Find out more about our upcoming FBR Practitioner Training with Breathwork Byron starting in April 2026 → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FIND OUT MORE HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Resources + Links

• We Are Woman Podcast website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.wearewoman.com.au/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Follow along on Instagram: @wearewomanpodcast

• If this episode resonates, share it with a woman you love because we’re not meant to do this alone.

What is FBR Breathwork? FBR Breathwork (Facilitated Breath Repatterning) is a trauma-aware, body-based practice that supports nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and new internal patterns, through the breath.

In this episode of We Are Woman, we explore the idea of sisterhood and what becomes possible when women support one another instead of feeling like we are competing. Through conversation and gentle reflection, we look at how many of us have experienced both sides of this dynamic - the beauty of being uplifted and held by another woman, and the moments where comparison, judgment, or old wounds can quietly surface between us.

We speak honestly about where some of these patterns can begin, often tracing back to early experiences in childhood, and how they can shape the way we relate to other women as adults. Inspired by the wisdom of nature, we reflect on the idea that flourishing rarely happens in isolation. Like ecosystems, we too tend to grow and thrive through connection, encouragement, and shared support.

This conversation gently points toward collaboration as the deeper invitation. It opens space for greater awareness and compassion for ourselves and for the other women walking beside us, recognising that we are all navigating our own histories as we learn what it means to truly stand together. Bec closes the episode with a series of thoughtful journal prompts to help you reflect on your own experiences and consider how you might cultivate more openness, support, and connection with the women around you.

Work with us!

Sara de Clercq

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Coaching & Self-Inquiry (Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Couples FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For inspiration on creative, authentic & radiant living, loving life & amazing free content, follow Sara on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Bec Sharp

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 Psychotherapy (Byron surrounds, Sydney North or Online) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Byron surrounds, Sydney North) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For embodied wisdom, stories from the heart, and practices that bring you home to yourself, follow me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Melissa Moss

Contact - [email protected]

1.1 FBR Breathwork (Sydney South) → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BOOK HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For soulful, honest reflections, lived-in insight, and an inside look at Mel’s work as a practitioner, follow Mel on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Find out more about our upcoming FBR Practitioner Training with Breathwork Byron starting in April 2026 → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FIND OUT MORE HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Resources + Links

• We Are Woman Podcast website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.wearewoman.com.au/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Follow along on Instagram: @wearewomanpodcast

• If this episode resonates, share it with a woman you love because we’re not meant to do this alone.

What is FBR Breathwork? FBR Breathwork (Facilitated Breath Repatterning) is a trauma-aware, body-based practice that supports nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and new internal patterns, through the breath.